In the face of difficulties, we often hear a comforting word:
"Persistence, persistence is victory!"
Persist, can you really win?
The answer is:
Not necessarily!
Some persistence is like a quagmire, which makes you sink deeper and deeper;
Some persistence is more like a mudslide, which makes you desperate.
Life can't afford too much cost of trial and error.
Giving up what should be given up is a kind of wisdom;
Persistence is an ability.
The famous host Bai once said:
"Don't go further and further in the wrong direction."
Choice is far more important than hard work in this era. If a person can't recognize himself and make the right choice, then all his efforts will be in vain.
Therefore, people with clear goals and firm hearts will always know what suits them and what is persistence.
When it comes to inner firmness and clear goals, I have to mention the domineering Queen Yuqi Zhang.
She is a woman with a strong sense of purpose. Once you find that you are not what you want, you will stop loss decisively.
In 2006, a film "Changjiang No.7" helped Yuqi Zhang enter the public eye.
In the film, the role of Teacher Yuan is particularly outstanding under her interpretation, and the gentle and dignified image reminds everyone of this beautiful female teacher.
Therefore, Yuqi Zhang has also become the favorite artist of Stephen Chow Xinghui Company.
However, this is not enough for Yuqi Zhang, who has a strong enterprise. She also wanted to have more possibilities, so her steps began to expand.
Everyone knows what happened afterwards. The news that Stephen Chow and Yuqi Zhang went to court for canceling their contracts once became a hot topic.
Many years later, Yuqi Zhang and Stephen Chow collaborated on The Mermaid again, and their differences were settled. She once said in a media interview:
"Since I don't make a decision, it's because I violated the spirit of the contract first, and the compensation is a matter of course."
At that time, she was twenty years old. In order to pursue her own possibility, she resolutely took off the crown of "Star Girl".
Of course, Yuqi Zhang's courage is not only reflected in his career pursuit, but also in his life.
In her two vigorous marriages, the first one was married to Wang Quanan, a director 22 years older than herself, and the four-year marriage broke down because of her husband's various scandals.
In his second marriage, he married Yuan Bayuan, a wealthy businessman who had known him for 70 days. Two years later, Yuqi Zhang announced a formal divorce.
"If you love, you love. If you don't love it, pull it. "
This is Yuqi Zhang's insistence on feelings. Therefore, she dares to love and hate, is full of illusions about love and remains pious about marriage.
However, not everything is under our control. If it backfires, we will stop the loss decisively and not compromise.
Now Yuqi Zhang, even with two children alone, is still strong and confident in life.
In reality, too many people often find that movies are not good-looking because they spent 100 yuan on movie tickets, and they are reluctant to take out the money in their pockets.
So even if you feel uncomfortable, you should work hard 1 hour until the end of the movie.
Those feelings, time and even money are irrecoverable sunk costs. You don't have to be trapped by those who have been and have been trapped.
As the saying goes:
A leaf falls, and the whole spring can't be wasted.
Don't be dragged down by the sinking cost and go further and further on the wrong road.
Instead of being wronged by watching a bad film, it is better to give up decisively and do something happier and more valuable
Shakespeare wrote this sentence in Hamlet:
"May you be true to yourself day and night."
How can I be myself?
Just like Qin Lan's outlook on life, follow your heart and live your life the way you like.
Qin Lan used to be a domineering and angry netizen urging marriage, saying:
"It's none of your business if my uterus is used!"
"Don't live in the eyes of others."
This is Qin Lan in everyone's eyes.
In an interview, she talked generously about her views on marriage. She said:
"I will never be satisfied with this, because this is my own life. If I am unhappy because I will make do, in fact, my parents are the most unhappy. "
In fact, she has always insisted on her own views in her life.
During the seven years when Qin Lan and Lu Chuan fell in love, Lu Chuan proposed to Qin Lan many times, but Qin Lan refused. Because at that time, in her opinion, she was not ready to enter the marriage hall.
Lu Chuan, who was in his forties, felt that he couldn't wait and broke up.
Now Lu Chuan is married and has children.
Qin Lan, on the other hand, put more energy into his career, and his career path became smoother and smoother.
Qin Lan said:
"I can't get married because I'm almost 40 years old. I hope to find someone who will make me willing to take him even if there are many problems. This is very important! "
As the saying goes:
You must learn to give up in life to get it.
Give up those inappropriate things and get what you really want.
Giving up is to be loyal to yourself, and being loyal to yourself can make you more determined!
Knowing how to cherish things in the world is the best, if not, then give up!
When the article was derailed, Ma Yili once wrote in Weibo:
"Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished."
However, their marriage ended in divorce.
Ma Yili worked hard for this relationship. Faced with her husband's infidelity, she chose to forgive and try to accept it. However, some pains will leave wounds that time cannot sew up.
After all, the inner hurdle is very sad. On the day of the divorce, Ma Yili said to the former marriage in Weibo:
"You and I have loved each other deeply, worked hard and achieved each other. This feeling is regrettable, but there is no right or wrong. In the future, everyone is happy. "
Individual psychologist Adler Alfred once said:
It doesn't matter whether it's good or bad, and it's acceptable.
Right or wrong, but for the right!
Every experience will record the enlightenment that life gives us, which is the yardstick of life choice judgment.
Ma Yili measured and made choices in her step-by-step marriage, and finally boldly let go to seek her own happiness.
Perhaps, for Ma Yili, marriage is no longer a necessity of life. Only by working hard, achieving a better and more valuable self and experiencing more possibilities is the most important thing in life.
As the saying goes:
"Giving up is a new beginning."
Giving up means letting go of persistence and saying goodbye to the past.
Life is a long journey, and the most fearful thing is to accept what you shouldn't accept and stick to what you shouldn't.
Life is difficult to understand, and there is no need to be persistent.
Give up wisely, and inappropriate shoes will squeeze your feet no matter how expensive they are;
Stick to wisdom, and what suits you is always the best.
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