I just wrote an article about Deng Yaping’s raising of children, which was quite touching. Write it down and share it with everyone!
Children’s growth is most inseparable from their parents and family. Each parent's biological genes are different, which leads to each child's natural endowment being different. Similarly, each family's resources are different, which also leads to different resources provided to the children. Many parents are always envious of other people's children who are particularly good at the piano, particularly sophisticated in art, particularly handsome in poetry, and particularly good at English. Often, these children's specialties first stem from their parents' liking or expertise.
I often talk about why the children coached by the women's volleyball team can enter Stanford University. She is indeed not following the usual academic path. It is her specialty in volleyball. It is her daughter who has entered the US national team. If she had to give up the near and seek the far away and have to practice piano and become famous, I estimate that she might be able to become an excellent piano professional like me by giving her all, but she would not be able to reach the heights of volleyball. Deng Yaping's article talks about the same truth. Faced with many children's hobbies, she resolutely chose table tennis for her children, and table tennis also brought her children a different path.
Similarly, I am also choosing for my children. The sports specialties I choose for my children are martial arts and football. When my child turns 16, he plans to go back to the United States to study. What I want most for my child to walk around the world is the symbol of Chinese culture. And martial arts best represents the broadness of Chinese culture and the masculinity of Chinese men!
Similarly, in the martial arts circle, the most famous martial arts school in the country is in Shaolin. The founder of the most famous martial arts school in Shaolin is the founder of Shaolin. Because of education, we have good contacts. What’s more, I have a good brother of 20 years who is a successful international entrepreneur. His first pot of gold came from teaching overseas students, and the students’ father also learned from him. My good friend has a master's degree from the University of International Business and Economics, and his undergraduate degree is in English. He is the best martial artist and the best English speaker in the Chinese Tai Chi circle that I have ever seen. He is a man of both civil and military skills. His student's father studied with him for two weeks. Not only did he improve in Wu, but the key point was that he discovered that my brother is upright and has a master's degree in economics. He admired my good brother very much. It turned out that this father was the boss of a big fund in the United States. Preparing to set up a representative office in China and looking for a chief representative. In this way, my good brother became the chief representative of an American fund through teaching boxing. His first investment project was the listing of Little Sheep, which also made him the first pot of gold in his life. Later, the students he taught included China's richest man, foreign prime ministers and presidents, and he was invited to give a lecture at Harvard University. And the two of us still maintain the friendship of good brothers for more than 20 years. I am also planning to learn Tai Chi from my good brother after my child has laid a good foundation in martial arts. In the future, I will make friends with martial arts and make friends from all over the world. I will also gain a foothold in education and achieve a career all over the world!
Therefore, for martial arts, I specially brought my children from Stanford Kindergarten to Beijing and then to my hometown. I started my education at the Shaolin Temple last summer, and then I visited a 75-year-old famous martial arts master from the Central Plains in my hometown. I decided to let my child go to school in his hometown for the last day of kindergarten, and practice martial arts after school every day, and he persisted!
Talking about football, I plan to add another sport to football after my child enters elementary school to see if he has any expertise in this area. Even if he cannot reach the level of professional athletes, he should be a top player in the amateur circle. Because football is an internationally accepted sport. His father and I love football the most. Although I don’t have the ability to play professionally (I also represented the school team in middle school and college and won two runner-ups in provincial competitions), I have made friends all over the world through football. No matter whether I went to France, the Netherlands, the United States or Great Britain, I made friends with locals through playing football wherever I went. Haha, just playing football here, there are elites from all walks of life, people from all walks of life. You will never meet or make friends with them in the classroom, school, or workplace. But through football, through fighting side by side on the green field, this kind of man Friendship after physical contact with a man is just different. Haha, this includes the founder of the largest Chinese technology listed company in the United States, who was a teammate of my football team at Stanford, and his first angel investor was another big brother of our team!
Therefore, parents must not look far away from the near and see what they have. Don’t envy other people’s wonderful children. They should adapt to local conditions and make full use of their own family’s genes and resources to cultivate their children.
Don’t just envy other people’s bullfrogs. That is putting the cart before the horse, neglecting your own land, and only looking at other people’s responsibility fields!
The person said, what if my parents are ordinary workers and have no special skills or resources! Easy to handle! That's what I am like, both my parents are workers. The old father is from Shandong. His greatest characteristics are kindness, filial piety, and righteousness! He always taught me not to be stingy or hesitant when I can help others, to make friends all over the world, and to travel all over the world! At the same time, my father loved reading. I first read "The Scream" when I was 10 years old. It was the book my father put beside my bed. Therefore, ordinary people can learn from their parents’ kindness, filial piety, and benevolence, and they can travel all over the world!
The above is my feeling after reading the following article. At the same time, the content of the article I read about Deng Yaping’s child training is excerpted as follows:
“Mom Deng Yaping has a very unique educational logic.
She is like a coach to her son. Set goals, analyze pros and cons, and pay attention to combat methods; for another example, she believes that "children cannot clearly recognize themselves, and adults must help them make some choices."
Her son Lin Hanming likes to play basketball. Deng Yaping insisted that he learn table tennis.
The reason is very good. In the opinion of the little Deng Yaping, the height of success in playing basketball is directly proportional to his height. >
The son is held back by the average height of his parents, and his innate conditions are insufficient. He is obviously not competitive as a professional basketball player. Even if he becomes an excellent player, it is impossible.
Some people think that Deng Yaping is jealous and believes that "good education should not make choices for children."
Do you know what is the most painful thing about education investment? Too many times, the results cannot be predicted. It was all money and time invested, but “no big results could be seen.”
I had a friend who sent her child to learn how to swim because she liked swimming.
To achieve good results, you need to train hard. In order to practice swimming, her son runs 5 kilometers a day and swims in the swimming pool 6 days a week. In order to maintain competitive status, he also runs with his mother all over the country. Go to the competition.
After practicing hard for several years, the child has always been ranked fifth in the school team, unable to enter the semi-finals, and cannot participate in the relay race.
Why? There is a clear gap between his height and physique and that of the top four players, so no matter how hard he works, he still cannot get a good ranking.
Although he is very unwilling, he still cannot get a good ranking. Not coming out is equivalent to nothing. As a professional athlete, Deng Yaping knew this very well, so she did not support her son's development of basketball hobbies, and through table tennis training, her Buddhist son won his first championship.
< p> 03Deng Yaping has a natural awareness of education
If genes determine performance and it is related to her past sports career, then family resources allow education to "take a shortcut." , it is an acquired understanding.
Letting my son practice table tennis is not only because of his limited height, but also because there are two national table tennis players in the family, and the mother is still a woman's grand slam.
If you want to learn how to play, the best national players who are Olympic champions can teach you directly; if you want to achieve results, the best training team resources are at your fingertips; even if you find a partner to practice with, They are also fed by the top sparring partners.
Isn’t it a naked waste of resources to just lie down and study other paths at the expense of the near and far?
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Most of the time, family resources determine the direction of children’s education. Moreover, this decisive influence usually does not need to be cultivated deliberately, but depends entirely on "nurturing".
For example, a six-year-old child can read "Historical Records" because his parents are engaged in publishing. The whole room is full of books and the bathroom is full of books. Reading is the family's way of entertainment. , can reading ability be weak?
The second-grade child has more than 4,000 words, because her mother is an expert in English education. Regarding English teaching, everything from planning, materials to step-by-step implementation is engraved in her heart. She can get started at any time. ah!
There are also those soft kids who have won calligraphy and painting awards since childhood. Do you think they came out of training classes? It all comes from family education. If there is a parent who can write and draw at home, rice paper is usually laid on the table, and he can improvise at any time when he is happy...
On the contrary, if no one in the family can calligraphy and painting, there is no calligraphy and painting table. To write a calligraphy calligraphy, you have to clean up the table and spread the felt, fold rice paper, wash the calligraphy brush and pour ink. Before you write the calligraphy, you have to trouble yourself to death...
Under these conditions, even if you give your child If you look for a great calligrapher to be your teacher, you will most likely give up halfway.
Medicine and art usually come from aristocratic families, because there is an inevitability in the intergenerational transmission of family resources. More and more parents realize that family resources are a boost to their children’s future development. ”