People in the Song Dynasty were particularly afraid of their wives. According to the literature, among the dynasties in China, the Song Dynasty recorded the most about henpecked husbands, and many of them were well-known historical celebrities, which simply subverted our traditional cognition.
Shen Kuo is famous for Tan, but he is timid in the face of his second wife, Zhang Shi. If Shen Kuo can't control it, he will be scolded, fall to the ground, and the child will cry and pick it up. Those who must be flesh and blood will have the same name, and Zhang will not forgive him. Without saying anything, I punched and kicked, pulled my beard and pulled out Lao Shen's beard. Old Shen didn't dare to say a word, and the child cried. Of course, Shen Kuo is infatuated with Zhang. Shortly after Zhang's death, Lao Shen also died of depression.
As for what we know? Hedong lion? 、? Rouge tiger? , is also the story of the Song Dynasty, Su Shi's good friend Chen Jichang's family had a Hedong lion, which made Su Shi laugh at Chen Jichang. Longqiu laymen are also poor, and they talk about sleepless nights. Suddenly I heard lion roars, and my crutch fell into my palm. . Rouge Tiger tells the story of Lu, a magistrate in the Song Dynasty. His wife Zhu was a rouge tiger, recorded in the Qing Dynasty, and a calligrapher in the early Song Dynasty. Zhu's daughter was so jealous that she married Lu. Cautious words killed Wei's family. Politics is not in itself. What do officials and people say? Lu in The Rouge Tiger not only listens to his wife in family affairs, but also in political affairs. Look how afraid this man is of his wife.
In the sketches of Peisi Chen and Zhu Shimao, there is a saying, namely? I don't believe that handsome Zhu Shimao will betray the revolution? I can't believe that some great historical celebrities are also afraid of their wives.
If we turn over the history of the Song Dynasty, we will find this spectacle. Whether loyal or treacherous, henpecked phenomena abound. A group of old people who reprimanded Fang Qiu in court, and even bad people who murdered heroes by sinister means, just like coming home? Grandson? .
Wang Qinruo and Qin Gui are traitors and villains, and both are henpecked. It is a well-known story that Qin Gui is afraid of his wife. When plotting against Yue Fei, he often consulted with his wife Wang, while Wang Qinruo was afraid of his wife, which was little known. Wang Qinruo, a representative of the Northern Song Dynasty, was a twice-faced, one of the Five Ghosts. On one occasion, Wang Ruoqin built a study in his backyard. Sanweitang? , colleagues tease him? You have a fourth fear! ? Wang qinruo asked:? What is this? ? Colleague replied:? Mrs. Wei. ? Become a joke.
In addition to the treacherous court official, Zhou Bida, Xia Song, Yan Shu, Lu You and other loyal officials who have achieved great success in history are also notoriously henpecked. Note that what is said here is the famous henpecked wife, and I don't know how many unknown henpecked wives there are.
In a word, it is a common phenomenon that men are afraid of their wives in the Song Dynasty, so Ceng Gong, a scholar in the Northern Song Dynasty, left such a feeling. In ancient times, women were quiet. In modern times (Song Dynasty), otherwise, women have been living at home, boasting about their cars and clothes, and showing off their jewelry. People get together and talk extravagantly, so they are jealous and get married before they are adults. If you get married, you will do the opposite, win its color, and make men and women subordinate to their husbands. Regardless of the support of menstruation, if you are unhappy, you will commit crimes, straight men. ? This sentence reveals a lot of information, indicating that women in the Song Dynasty had a high status, lived freely and generally pursued pleasure. What is related to this article? Let men serve women, and husbands submit to women? A typical henpecked dynasty.
Speaking of which, it's amazing. Why were men in the Song Dynasty afraid of their wives? In feudal society, men were superior to women, and it was the other way around in the Song Dynasty. When Wu Zetian was in the Tang Dynasty, she was still a positive image, but when she was written by Sima Guang, she became a hen and was greatly criticized. The point is that Wu Zetian is a woman. Judging from Wu Zetian's experience, the prosperity of Confucianism in Song Dynasty should be a standard society in which men are superior to women.
That's true, but don't forget, the truth of men's and women's family status lies not in rhetoric, but in economic foundation. Different from the previous dynasty, thick marriage prevailed in Song Dynasty.
His wife Wang has a dowry of 200,000 yuan, which is equivalent to tens of millions of yuan today. According to "Three Dynasties North Alliance", Wang tried to get rid of Wang after being released by Jin Bing, and the result was reported by Wang. I married your Qin family, but legally. The dowry alone is worth 0.2 million/200 thousand What's the matter with you? ?
Su Zhe, one of the eight masters in Tang and Song Dynasties, married a daughter and 9,400 mu of farmland in the suburbs of Kaifeng, which is definitely an astronomical dowry.
Fan Zhongyan, a famous minister of a generation, formulated the clan rules of Suzhou Fan family, including: boys get married and the bride price is unified 20; When a girl gets married, the dowry is 30 yuan. It can be seen that the social atmosphere in the Song Dynasty was strong marriage, and the bride price of the woman was more important than that of the man.
There are many similar records. It is always a big gift package for Song people to marry women. There is no reason but willfulness, which makes the groom dizzy, extremely happy and envious of modern men!
Some people don't understand, marry a chicken and follow a dog. After the dowry is sent out, it is not dominated by the husband of the head of the household. Although there are many wives, they just fatten men up.
In fact, the right to dispose of dowry in Song Dynasty has always been in the hands of married women, not husbands. According to the Criminal Code of the Northern Song Dynasty and the Yuan Tiao Law Program of the Southern Song Dynasty, dowry is the only reliable private property of married women, and no man can covet or use it for any reason. Moreover, there is a key point: if the husband and wife negotiate for divorce, the dowry should be returned to the woman.
Tell me, is the family status of Zhe's daughter and his wife Wang low?
If the man wants to keep this dowry, he must be kind and respectful to the woman, or he will be killed. Of course, if the dowry is too small for the man to feel indifferent, it is hard to say whether he respects the woman.
Therefore, in order to improve his daughter's family status in her husband's family, the father of the Song Dynasty often gave her a generous dowry. In the early years of Southern Song Dynasty, a strange phenomenon appeared in Huacheng County, Sichuan Province. Hundreds of old girls who are not ugly are not married. After investigation in the countryside, the county magistrate found that because the old girl was poor and didn't have enough money to buy a dowry, and the man asked for a generous dowry, she couldn't afford it, so she had to stay in the boudoir. Today, there are no girls who can't get married, only men who can't get married. However, in some parts of Fujian, the custom of coarse marriage is still prevalent, and even the dowry value is often twice that of the bride price of the man. A few years ago, there was news in Fujian that a poor man got married by usury, because as soon as he got married, the woman would pay double the dowry, and the man would soon pay off the usury. Men in this field make men all over the world envy and hate.
After all, the economic foundation determines everything!
Because of the crude custom of marriage in Song Dynasty, married women were rich and their family status was naturally high, so there were countless henpecked men in Song Dynasty! So the Song Dynasty made men love and hate each other. Although dowry is much more expensive than bride price, it also brings a new problem-respect!
So, be afraid of your wife, okay? Some people will think of the military softness of the Song Dynasty, but Hu Shi, a great writer in modern times, has another view. A country that is afraid of his wife's story is easy to move towards democracy; Otherwise, no? .