Mom, I can only love you silently in this way
Many times, I don’t want to touch the memories of the past, otherwise I will find that I still have scars, just like I It was clear that everything should be forgotten, but all the memories about that time resurfaced again because of this theme.
My mother is an out-and-out housewife with an ordinary appearance and some education. She married my father when she was not yet twenty years old.
To this day, I still can’t understand what kind of feelings my mother and father have for each other. People in that era often settled on the words of a matchmaker for a lifetime. They never loved each other, but it was still a lifetime.
My mother always said that she was so busy that she didn’t even have time to live, grow old, sick or die. Whether at home or outside, she was always seen working hard and busy. The hardship and hard work contained in these words No one understands the sorrow and sorrow better than me! All the reasons are because of my dad!
Dad has been grumpy, paranoid, and typical of male chauvinism since he was young. He often gets into trouble. For trivial matters, my mother will be beaten and scolded by him. In front of my father, my mother She has always kept her eyebrows down and followed her cautiously, but she didn't dare to say a word for fear of being beaten or scolded... Once my mother couldn't bear it anymore and drank pesticide in the middle of the night. For some reason, I still don't dare to do it until now. I asked, but I just vaguely remembered the screams and convulsions in the house at that time, and the panic. Although my mother was saved in the end, my father's temperament did not change.
At that time, when I was young, I often hid aside in fear. In my heart, I hated my father, his irritability, his lawlessness, and even more, my inhumanity towards my mother. Every time I heard When my mother secretly said that she was no longer with my father, I was filled with joy and naively hoped that they would divorce soon, because then my mother would not suffer so much. But in the end, my mother still couldn't let go of my sister and me. For the sake of this family and for the sake of Child, she spared no effort in silently giving, and could endure all the sadness and pain, but she could not get divorced!
So, in the following years, what followed was countless times in the middle of the night, when I was carried by my mother through the long dark mountain road, bumping back to my grandma’s house; During countless tossing and turning nights, I saw my mother sobbing silently with her head buried in the quilt. So I hated myself, hated myself for not being able to grow up quickly, hating myself for not being a boy, for not being able to protect my mother, for not being able to stand up for my mother to stop my father’s evil deeds!
My mother doesn’t allow me to hate my father! Yes, she told me that my father was actually good at heart, but his bad temper determined what he did. The premature death of his parents and the fact that he had not studied for a few years, and the difficulties and ups and downs of life, made him even more miserable. I experienced all the hardships of life too early... I believe what my mother said, because my father would regret it every time, but he couldn't control himself when his temper got worse.
My father is a tiger at home, autocratic and will take it out on my mother if he doesn’t get what he wants. My mother must listen to what he says and do what he tells me. If he wants to find something, he can’t wait for a moment. , the mother must find it immediately. If he is angry and refuses to eat, the mother will always persuade, coax, and feed him like a child, otherwise, none of us will dare to use chopsticks to eat the meal.
When I grew up, I was stubborn and stubborn and could not tolerate such a family environment. I escaped from it and wanted to run away from home many times. I vowed never to return to this home that made me sad and shed tears. At that time, I didn’t know how worried my mother was about me. Until that day, I had an argument with my father again because of my mother. My father shouted at me to get out of this house, and my mother held me tightly and cried and refused to let me go. Faced with heartbreak and grief, My mother was in tears, and I was almost hysterical. I suddenly realized that I could no longer fight my father like this. If I left, my mother would be so sad, and my father would take it out on her. I could leave, but I would suffer. It will only be my mother who will die. For the sake of my poor mother, I must admit my mistake to my father. No matter what, I can't leave this home!
I know that my father still loves me, but his authoritarian mentality will never tolerate his children's resistance to him. Just like my mother's lifelong obedience to him, we must do the same!
In my father’s mind, I always think that I am my mother’s sky. It is my blessing that my mother married him. Without my father, my mother would have to live a normal life like other rural women. Life is a life of hard work in farming.
Faced with such a father, I feel more resentment. It is clearly his unreasonable, yet so overbearing and unreasonable fallacy!
How could he understand how difficult it was for his mother? How had he ever bothered at all about matters at home and outside the home? For decades, my mother has been like a spinning top, struggling to support the family with her thin shoulders. How could she be missing at home and outside the home? It has been a habit for many years, whether it is my father or me. With my sister, the first thing I did when I entered the house was to look for my mother, and the first words I said were "Mom". When my mother was not at home, the whole family was at a loss. My father didn't know where the clothes he changed every day were placed, or where the light switch was. He didn't know how to use any kitchen utensils, and he didn't even know how to take the medicine he took every day. But even so, he still won't admit his dependence on his mother, and he feels at ease with his mother's warmth, but he doesn't take it seriously!
Or, as long as his mother is by his side, he will never understand how important her is to him!
For many years, my mother has worked hard to serve my father, but my father has never known how to feel sorry for my mother. My mother has coronary heart disease and often has chest tightness, let alone anger. But in such a family environment, how can I do this? She is not angry, she knows that she cannot be sick, and even if she is sick, she will secretly find some medicine and take it, fearing that her father will blame her and be angry if he finds out.
"After so many years, I still don't know what your father's temper is. I'm used to it," my mother always said calmly.
I felt a heartache. This is my mother. My mother has suffered all her life, but still can’t think about herself!
Nowadays, my mother is getting haggard and aging, and my retired father’s temper has also changed. Now that I have grown up and have a family, I gradually no longer have hatred and have learned tolerance and tolerance. I know that there are still things in life. There are many responsibilities waiting for me to bear. For this family and my mother, I can only silently love and repay you with my kindness and filial piety a thousand times or ten thousand times, my dear mother!
There is no limit to the sea of ??learning and hard work on the boat
"There is a road to the mountain of books and diligence is the path, and there is no limit to the sea of ??study and hard work on the boat." This famous saying that has been passed down since ancient times has inspired many people with lofty ideals to devote themselves to reading and study hard, and made useful contributions to mankind. In real life, how many people have proved its correctness through their own personal practice. However, some people today think that students' study is too hard, and the word "hard" should be changed to the word "le" or "qiao", that is, "learning has no limit to the sea and making a boat with joy", "learning has no limit to making a boat skillfully" ". I think this statement is very inappropriate and very harmful. '
Why can't "Work hard" be changed to "Happy boat"? Since learning is hard work and progress can only be achieved by the spirit of hard study, how can we regard learning as a kind of entertainment or a game? How to treat it? Some people say that learning is an interesting and pleasant thing. Only after "hard work", "hard work" and "hard study", progress and achievements can be enjoyed, and the joy of success can be enjoyed. .
Why can't "making a boat through hard work" be changed to "making a boat skillfully"? Since learning is a kind of hard work, it requires an honest attitude, and of course there can be no tricks. Some people say that "qiao" refers to scientific learning methods. Of course, scientific methods are indispensable for learning, but with scientific methods, can we not put in effort and study hard? With good methods, we still need to study hard, so as to achieve higher efficiency. Just imagine, is it possible to just have a good method without studying hard?
Since ancient times, people who have made achievements in learning cannot do without the word "hard".
The famous French writer Balzac was called a "superior novelist" by Marx. Why was he able to achieve such high achievements? According to records, he has been working hard and day and night for more than 20 years, writing continuously for more than 16 hours a day and sleeping only three or four hours. Isn't this hard enough? His great achievements were obtained by "hard work".
The Chinese women's volleyball girls said humorously: "Bitterness is a panacea. If we want to become stronger, we have to take this medicine every day. Although it is bitter, it is bitter and sweet. The flowers will be in the sweat. "Blooming in the world." What a wonderful saying! We say that any success or achievement is inseparable from the word "hardship", and it is all earned with sweat.
In summary, we believe that "learning has no limit but hard work" should always be our motto, so that it will always inspire us to study hard, study diligently, and keep on the road of science. the climb.
Behind success is sweat
In our world, there are some successful people. We often envy these people. But most people only see the joy of their success. How many people can see the hardship of their efforts?
I think: if people want to succeed, they must fight. Everyone should not forget that our country's athletes won 28 gold medals for our country at the Sydney Olympics and brought glory to the motherland. Their honor on the podium was earned with a lot of sweat! The gold medal is the result of their intense training every day. The struggle of athletes can win gold medals; the struggle of inventors can change our world. It can be seen that struggle is the only way to success.
On the road of struggle, we need to sweat. God is very fair. How much you pay will be how much you get. Who in the world today achieves success without hard work? If no one had worked hard and worked hard for the Chinese revolutionary cause, the People's Republic of China would not have been established; if there had been no people working hard and working hard for the "four modernizations", there would not have been what we are now. a happy life; similarly, if we don’t work hard now, China will gradually decline in the future. So, how should we strive to achieve success?
Edison once said: "If you want to succeed, you should use perseverance as your good friend, experience as your staff, caution as your brother, and hope as your sentinel." I believe that the first step towards success is, It should be to clarify goals and establish a correct outlook on life. This is a necessary condition for success. Without goals, success becomes an empty talk. Secondly, we need to keep fighting. The journey to success is full of ups and downs. Someone once said: "Success is the result of overcoming difficulties and obstacles." If we give up when we encounter a little failure, we will never taste success. Edison had more than 1,000 inventions in his life. Among them, he experienced many failures, but he did not give up his career. He once said: "Failure is also what I need. It is as valuable to me as success." Again, Opportunity is also a factor in success. I believe that only by clarifying your goals and working hard for them when opportunities come, can you succeed.
Let us strive on the journey to success and exchange our own sweat for the fruits of success.
Where there is a will, there is a way
Aspiration is the determination to do something; success is to achieve something.
All those who can achieve something in their studies and careers, ranging from passing the examination and seeking an official position, to the prosperity of the country, the country, and the nation, are all people with great ambitions.
"What foreigners can do, Chinese people can also do!" This is not an impulsive rhetoric, it is the "ambition" of the Chinese people who are discriminated against. It makes Tong Dizhou, Zhan Tianyou expressed the pride of the Chinese people in front of the world.
Lu Xun, the toughest modern Chinese writer, unhesitatingly raised the flag of anti-feudalism in an era of rapid changes, severe disasters, and extremely sharp and complex national and class conflicts, using his extremely sharp pen. To awaken the sleeping people and become the greatest writer and thinker in modern times. At that time, Lu Xun, a young man who was passionate about natural science, realized that even if the Chinese people, no matter how strong their physiques were, could only serve as shooting materials or as numb spectators, it would be meaningless for China's social reform, so he took I picked up my pen and wished "I recommend Xuanyuan with my blood". Such a profound choice and such a firm ambition made Lu Xun a Kunlun of modern Chinese culture.
The numerous examples of being picked up by others all illustrate the importance of "ambition" to "success". A person without ambition is like being in a vast desert with no oasis in sight and only dying from sweating.
Zhongyong, who could "point to objects and compose poems immediately" at the age of five, lost his "ambition" only because his father was greedy for profit. Everyone is lost." There are also many people who have no "ambition" and "exhaust their talents". If "Zhong Yong" and "Jiang Lang" were determined because of their talents, our ancestors may have too many "Edisons".
However, it is easy to aspire but difficult to achieve. There are two monks in Western Shu, one is poor and the other is rich. Both monks have the ambition to go to the South China Sea. However, the rich have been trying to buy a boat to go down to the South China Sea for several years, but they have not been able to do so, while the poor have arrived with a bottle and a bowl. That’s it. Why? Those who are rich only have "desires" that remain untouched, while those who are poor make unremitting efforts. In this way, the rich are just dreaming, that is, their ambitions have not been put into action. What is the difference between talking on paper and having no ambitions?
Because of ambition, the creeks merge into the sea; because of ambition, the dead branches look forward to the green leaves of spring; because of ambition, human beings contribute to the height of the mountains. Let us stand on the horizon and build our dreams, because we are determined and will fight for our dreams. We will be the sea, the green leaves, and the one standing on the top of the mountain will be us.
Where there is a will, there is a way.
My view on money
People need money to live, but they cannot live just for money. Money is a condition of life, but it is not the only thing in life. In human society, there are many things like money. Money is more important.
I once read an article called "Chasing money puts people in jail" (A money chaser who loves money as much as his life - A Ming's confession): A Ming really wants to use Money buys social status. He believed that money could make things worse, so he quit his job in the police and went to sell clothes. His business is going very well and he is gradually getting richer. He believes that his "value" is increasing day by day like money. He worships money even more and is arrogant about everything except money. His endless desire for money became the catalyst for his accelerated degeneration. In order to make more money, he gradually embarked on the criminal path of fraud. He defrauded the elders in his hometown out of 1.47 million yuan and a certain unit in the south out of 1.3 million yuan. From then on, he lived a life of spending money like water. He wanted to be successful and rich, but a pair of cold handcuffs tightly cuffed his hands. In the end, he was sentenced to 15 years in prison. His wife left him. The most golden moment of his life was about to be spent in prison. He lost his family, relatives and freedom.
A Ming is a typical example of having a wrong view of money. Although he had a lot of money and had short-term joy and enjoyment, it was just a flash in the pan, like a passing cloud. He pursued money blindly and illegally. , not only ruined his future, but also brought pain to many people and ruined the happiness of many innocent people! Is it worth it? Is money really that important?
No! Money can buy it. A bed, but not sleep; money can buy tonics, but not health; money can buy food, but not appetite; money can buy books, but not knowledge; money can buy clocks and watches , but cannot buy time.
The pursuit of life is rich and colorful. The satisfaction of material life is important, but lofty ideals, career success, family happiness, knowledge and health, etc. are the pursuit of life. Although many of them are related to money, they are not. It cannot be bought by money, and it is not of the same value as money.
Money is not brought in during life and taken away after death. Life is short, and the fame, fortune and money in front of you will one day disappear. Only by seizing opportunities, making good use of time, making selfless contributions to society, the country, and the world, inventing and creating, creating wealth (spiritual and material wealth) for mankind, and bringing happiness to others can we turn the short-term into eternity.
Paul Korchagin once said: "The most precious thing for people is life. Life belongs to people only once. This is how a person's life should be spent; when he looks back on the past, he will not Regret for wasting your years, and don’t feel ashamed for doing nothing. “Money is not everything in life. Create a meaningful life, draw a rainbow for life, create a meaningful life in a limited life, and constantly improve yourself. , create glorious achievements, benefit future generations, and allow "life" to continue.
In human society, there are many things that are more important than money, such as noble personality, sincere friendship, parental affection, etc., which are all "out of reach" of money. Even if you have a lot of money and no relatives or friends to share it with you, so what does it matter no matter how much money you have? Even though you have a lot of things (bought with money) on the surface despite being separated from your relatives, money can help you when you are sick or frustrated. Will it heal you and make you cheer up? What's the taste of enjoying delicacies from the mountains and seas alone? Human life must have material life and spiritual life. Material life is our living condition, and spiritual life is the guidepost that governs life. It is more important than material life. More important. In other words: having a sincere, kind, aboveboard heart and noble sentiments is more important than money.
There is a passage in Xin Ying's "The Enlightenment of Epiphyllum": "The epiphyllum condenses its entire life into just two hours, blooming brightly and beautifully in the world. I miss the moment when it blooms." , has become one with eternity and has become a part of eternal life. Then I suddenly realized that human life does not matter the length of time, but whether human life reveals the fragrance of life in a short time. The brilliance of human nature shines through the ages, coexisting with the universe and competing with the sun and the moon. My view on money is: happiness is not an unattainable little flower built on the cliff of money. Money is small, and a meaningful life is great. It is a peak worthy of our admiration and climbing. Only by taking noble character as a guidepost can we reach the peak of meaningful life.
Time and diligence
Time often passes by unconsciously. The earth is slipping away from us. It cannot be seen, bought, touched, or retained. Although we cannot control it, we can make good use of our time to do meaningful things; work diligently and use short time.
Some people do not know how valuable time is, and spend their time being lazy, idle, and indolent. Wasted in vain, only when we are old and weak will we understand the preciousness of time and learn to cherish it. Unfortunately, it is too late, time is gone and will never come back. In the end, nothing will be achieved, time is wasted, and there is no regret!
Some people put their time to good use, studying hard, working hard, creating inventions, and making great contributions to the world. Just like Edison who invented the electric light, in addition to his perseverance, his achievements depended entirely on perseverance. , strive to seize every minute and forget to eat and sleep. The reason why great celebrities at home and abroad have made countless great achievements and are famous for generations is because they are successful time managers, able to seize time and give full play to their intelligence and diligent spirit. , so that you can live a fulfilling and happy life.
There is a Chinese saying: "An inch of time is worth an inch of gold, and an inch of gold cannot buy an inch of time." Success is not a fluke. Students should cherish their time during their studies. Study diligently and don't be lazy. Don't waste your studies day after day. Qian Hetan of the Qing Dynasty pointed out: "There are so many tomorrows. If I wait for tomorrow, everything will be wasted."
In addition to making good use of time, if you want to achieve excellent results, you must not forget the importance of diligence. If you are lazy and afraid of hardship, you will never achieve anything. Edison once said: "Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration." This is the motto we must remember.
Ideals and Success
Ideals are lofty aspirations for the future. Everyone has an ideal, some want to be scientists, some want to be athletes... If someone asks me what my ideal is, I will say without hesitation: "Be a doctor!" If he wants to break the scars (Q) In the final analysis, you have to speak slowly.
I remember when I was in third grade, I caught a cold and had to go to the hospital for injections every day. At that time, I had a very serious cold. I couldn't go to gymnastics or play with my classmates on the playground, so I lost all my energy. My mother stroked my head and said, "Don't lose your energy because of such a minor illness. Some people are more seriously ill than you, but they are still like normal people, doing what they should do. They frown because of illness. It’s not worth it.” From that day on, not only did I regain my energy, but my illness also improved a lot. From then on, I also determined to be an excellent doctor and cure everyone's diseases.
The ideal sounds simple to say, but it is not easy to achieve. You have to start from the usual bit by bit. As the saying goes, "After all the hardship, happiness comes". Only by enduring hardship now can you be relaxed in the future.
One day, I had something to do during the day and my homework was not completed. It was already past 9pm when I got home, and I opened my Chinese language book. 30 minutes have passed, and an hour has passed, and I am still writing desperately. Dad urged me to eat watermelon, and it took less than 5 minutes to eat watermelon with two teeth. For the first time, I felt that time is so important. After eating the melon, I continued to "work" again. It was almost 11 o'clock, and my mother advised me: "Take a bath quickly and go to bed. Today is a special day. I will do the rest of my homework tomorrow." At that time, I was so sleepy that I couldn't open my eyes, but in order not to add a second With a workload of three days, I used my last energy and finally finished the homework at 11 o'clock. The next day, my father gave me an "excellent" rating. This is the result of my own efforts, and I am very happy.
In the past, when I was doing homework in the back room, I was attracted by the sound of the TV and would secretly climb on the door to eavesdrop. Now, I know the importance of learning and I can restrain myself. This can be considered a big progress. Studying sometimes squeezes out time for playing, but only by studying now can you realize your ideals in the future and avoid regrets.
The fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold
Yang Zhonghua (student of our factory) was admitted to the University of Pennsylvania with excellent results. This news broke out in Jinjiang Factory and immediately became a hot topic of discussion. What is it that allows this ordinary worker's son to get into a prestigious American university? Is it because of his intelligence? Or is he just lucky? No. All of this was achieved by his extraordinarily diligent study. Just look at him, a young man in his early twenties with already gray hair, and you can imagine how much effort he put in. It can be seen that excellent results come from diligence, hard work, and hard work. As the saying goes, "The fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold."
There is an old Chinese proverb: "There are roads in the mountain of books, and hard work is the path; there is no limit to the sea of ??learning, and hard work is the boat." Su Qin during the Warring States Period of our country was precisely because of his hard work when he was a child. He studied and became the prime minister of six countries. There are many examples of diligent and studious people like this, for example: Che Yin did not hesitate to carry a firefly to reflect the snow in order to study; when Wang Xizhi was learning calligraphy, he wrote eighteen jars of water, becoming a generation of calligraphy saints in our country... This shows that Learning requires perseverance, perseverance and hard work. There is nothing easy in the world. Even if you rely on interest, you must be strong and focused at the same time to hope for success.
The great inventor Edison once said: "Genius is ninety-nine percent perspiration and one percent inspiration."
"Chen Jingrun, a famous Chinese mathematician, studies hard and diligently, and only has several sacks of scratch paper used to solve mathematical problems every time. It is precisely in this way that he can not be affected by other people's harsh words; it is precisely in this way that he can succeed in mathematics. The calculations were done carefully over and over again in the studio, and finally reached the peak of the mathematical problem "1 2" in "Goldbach's Conjecture"
"If it's not so cold, how can it be so fragrant? "Throughout the ages, those who have achieved great success must work hard, be diligent in their work, and do it with a spirit of perseverance. Only by practicing diligently is the true path. The new semester is about to begin, and I will redouble my efforts to learn knowledge. Strive to achieve good results and take your studies to the next level!