There are always people like this in life:
They take trivial matters seriously, compete with insignificant people, stubbornly dig into their own horns, and live like a mess. , The life was like a piece of cake.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Many of the pains in life come from blind competition."
Always holding on to one thing makes you exhausted, and you miss out on many other brilliant things. The beautiful scenery is too much to gain.
In life, don’t live too "competitively".
01. Don’t get angry with villains, because it’s not worth it
Among all living beings, everyone’s cognitive level and cultivation connotation are very different.
Guo Degang has a very vivid saying: "When the waves are big, I don't know what kind of seafood is blown up."
In this life, a person will meet thousands of people and speak thousands of things, what kind of things are they? You will meet all kinds of villains, and you will see all kinds of bad things.
If you care about everything and everyone is angry, your life will be miserable.
There is a saying that goes very well:
"If you want to grow into a big tree, don't fight with the grass; if the general has a sword, don't kill the ants."
Listen to netizens I told a story like this:
When I was traveling in the countryside, I met a monk preaching Buddhist scriptures halfway up a famous mountain.
The monks dress simply and teach simple principles. They teach everyone how to maintain a peaceful mind and avoid anxiety.
Passers-by listened with gusto and nodded frequently.
But suddenly a young man with dyed yellow hair appeared and taunted the monk loudly: "You are talking nonsense, not just to defraud money." As he spoke, he raised the milk tea in his hand and threw it at the monk.
The milk tea hit the monk's body, and the dirty liquid dripped down the loose monk's robes.
The monk looked calm and continued to preach, without even wiping it, as if he was not affected at all.
A bystander thought that the monk would get angry and fight back. When she saw that the monk remained calm, she was very surprised and asked the monk: "Master, aren't you angry?"
< p> The monk smiled: "Why should I be angry?""That man threw dirty things at you and spoke rudely." The aunt looked like she was avenging the injustice.
The master did not take it seriously: "In his opinion, he has humiliated me, but in my opinion, he has humiliated himself."
As the saying goes: "Often Compete with like-minded people and don't argue with fools."
A fight will not solve the problem; making a fuss will not improve the other person's understanding.
Wasting your time, ruining your mood, and making yourself a fool is really not worth the gain.
Unbeknownst to you, the dog barked at the sight of people, but no one barked at the dog.
Lincoln once said:
Instead of arguing with a dog and getting bitten by it, it is better to let it go first, otherwise even if you kill it, it will not cure you from being bitten. of scars.
My life is already complicated and noisy enough. I really don’t need to waste energy on people who don’t care. It’s better to walk away. 02. Don’t reason with your lover because it hurts your feelings
The person who stays with you the longest in your life, besides yourself, is the one who walked through ravines and dangerous shoals together, experienced a lot of chicken feathers, and pots and pans every day. People, we call them "lovers".
The reason why we add the word "love" in front of people is naturally to speak with love.
But a stupid mistake we often make is: being tolerant and polite outside, but insisting on right and wrong when we get home.
As everyone knows, when you reason at home and argue with your lover about right and wrong, you lose and you lose.
Yang Jiang once asked Qian Zhongshu: "Why do you give in to me every time we quarrel?"
Qian Zhongshu replied: "Because you are mine, even if we quarrel If I win, what can I do? If I win the truth, if I lose my feelings, if I lose you, I will lose everything in my life."
My neighbor Xiaomei is a gentle and romantic girl, and she is currently preparing for her wedding. Booked during the Mid-Autumn Festival. The bride-to-be was supposed to be radiant, but she was unhappy.
It turns out that Xiaomei’s husband is a man in science and engineering, and his logical thinking is very rigorous. Any disagreement between the two of them, her husband would quote scriptures and put forward a lot of reasons in the hope of convincing Xiaomei.
When decorating her new house, Xiaomei wants to lay wooden floors, but her husband thinks that wooden floors are not practical, are troublesome to clean and maintain, and are not as affordable as floor tiles.
Then he talked about the truth endlessly, from the properties of the board to the structure of the floor heating.
Xiaomei wants to go to the top floor of the central square to eat Western food and enjoy the rainy view. However, my husband recounted how dangerous it is to travel on rainy days. He has to cross several tunnel bridges and how deep the water will be.
Xiaomei, who was extremely depressed, just hoped that her husband could comfort her.
There are not so many big issues between husband and wife, and there is no need to convince the other party to prove that one is right. Only by learning to accommodate each other will you gain more.
Home is not the court; lover is not the other party’s lawyer.
For problems that can be solved by hugging, don’t use words; for problems that can be solved by emotions, don’t use reason.
What can protect a family from moving forward and prospering through thick and thin, what can support close lovers to live together and grow old together, must be warm tolerance, not cold truth.
For the rest of your life, don’t let yourself become that “always right” loner. 03 Don’t compete with yourself, because it’s meaningless
There is a question on the Internet: "What is it like to have too much obsession?"
One of the answers is: "Hide in your heart It’s hard to live a life like this.”
Many of the troubles in life come from not letting go of yourself and endlessly competing with yourself.
Many times, when you compete with yourself, you have too high expectations for yourself. You stubbornly believe that you can do better, and you cannot accept your incompetence, so you create a prison in your own heart.
Wu Xin once said frankly in a program: "The past three years have actually been very hard. I have been competing with myself and feel that I can do many things."
Life Nine times out of ten things go wrong. Don't be too serious, don't be too demanding, accept your own imperfections, and accept the imperfections of life.
If you know yourself, accept yourself, and let yourself go, you will naturally have a different world.
Calligraphy master Zhang Wenju dreamed of becoming a writer when he was young. To this end, he practiced writing every day, kept writing, and then sent the manuscript to different publishing houses.
Although he worked hard, his manuscript was never accepted.
Finally one day, he received a reply from the editor. He was overjoyed and quickly opened the letter. However, the editor did not tell him that the manuscript was accepted, but told him that the pen writing was perfect. very nice.
Zhang Wenju suddenly realized that maybe he was really not suitable to be a writer. So he decisively gave up writing and started practicing calligraphy, and finally became a famous calligrapher.
Professor Li Meijin said:
Life is actually not difficult, just don’t compete with yourself, always use the ideal me to teach the real me.
Life is a peaceful and steady life, not a tense confrontation. If the mind is careless, the sky will be dark and the earth will be dark; if the mind is relaxed, the wind will naturally be light and the clouds will be calm.
I am very glad that Zhang Wenju did not blindly take it seriously. Although there is one less writer, there is one more calligraphy master.
Life is full of scenery. If you feel that you are at the end of your rope, then change the direction and turn around, maybe there will be a bright future. 04. Don’t live too hard in this life
Whether you live a happy life or not does not depend on how much wealth you have, but on how comfortable and calm your heart is.
Qian Zhongshu wrote this passage in his book:
Take a bath, look at a flower, and eat a meal. If you feel happy, it is not all because of the bath. The main reason why things are washed cleanly, flowers bloom well, or the dishes are to your taste is because you have nothing to worry about.
In this life, don’t live too “seriously”, let go of your obsessions, have no worries, don’t be disturbed by the hustle and bustle of the world, and don’t be tied down by fame and fortune:
Discord with the little ones When a person is angry, he feels refreshed;
If he does not reason with his lover, he will have a harmonious family;
If he does not compete with himself, he will feel at ease.
As Zeng Guofan said: "The future is not welcomed, the present is not mixed, and the past is not loved."
For the rest of my life, there is nothing outside my heart, I just watch the flowers bloom, I have no intention of leaving or leaving, just wait. Flowers fall. 03 Don’t compete with yourself, because it’s meaningless
There is a question on the Internet: "What is it like to have too much obsession?"
One of the answers is: "Hide in your heart It's hard to live a life like this."
Many of the troubles in life come from not letting go of yourself and endlessly competing with yourself.
Many times, when you compete with yourself, you have too high expectations for yourself. You stubbornly believe that you can do better, and you cannot accept your incompetence, so you create a prison in your own heart.
Wu Xin once said frankly in a program: "The past three years have actually been very hard. I have been competing with myself and feel that I can do many things."
Life Nine times out of ten things go wrong. Don't be too serious, don't be too demanding, accept your own imperfections, and accept the imperfections of life.
If you know yourself, accept yourself, and let yourself go, you will naturally have a different world.
Calligraphy master Zhang Wenju dreamed of becoming a writer when he was young. To this end, he practiced writing every day, kept writing, and then sent the manuscript to different publishing houses.
Although he worked hard, his manuscript was never accepted.
Finally one day, he received a reply from the editor. He was overjoyed and quickly opened the letter. However, the editor did not tell him that the manuscript was accepted, but told him that the pen writing was perfect. very nice.
Zhang Wenju suddenly realized that maybe he was really not suitable to be a writer. So he decisively gave up writing and started practicing calligraphy, and finally became a famous calligrapher.
Professor Li Meijin said:
Life is actually not difficult, just don’t compete with yourself, always use the ideal me to teach the real me.
Life is a peaceful and steady life, not a tense confrontation. If the mind is careless, the sky will be dark and the earth will be dark; if the mind is relaxed, the wind will naturally be light and the clouds will be calm.
I am very glad that Zhang Wenju did not blindly take it seriously. Although there is one less writer, there is one more calligraphy master.
Life is full of scenery. If you feel that you are at the end of your rope, then change the direction and turn around, maybe there will be a bright future. 04. Don’t live too hard in this life
Whether you live a happy life or not does not depend on how much wealth you have, but on how comfortable and calm your heart is.
Qian Zhongshu wrote this passage in his book:
Take a bath, look at a flower, and eat a meal. If you feel happy, it is not all because of the bath. The main reason why things are washed cleanly, flowers bloom well, or the dishes are to your taste is because you have nothing to worry about.
In this life, don’t live too “seriously”, let go of your obsessions, have no worries, don’t be disturbed by the hustle and bustle of the world, and don’t be tied down by fame and fortune:
Discord with the little ones When a person is angry, he feels refreshed;
If he does not reason with his lover, he will have a harmonious family;
If he does not compete with himself, he will feel at ease.
As Zeng Guofan said: "The future is not welcomed, the present is not mixed, and the past is not loved."
For the rest of my life, there is nothing outside my heart, just watch the flowers bloom, no intention of leaving or leaving, just wait. Flowers fall.