I read the answer upstairs and found it quite interesting. Let me talk about it.
A principle is "nothing more than three things", and so is educating children. Your classmates' parents have educated you so many times, and if it works, it will have worked long ago. Therefore, when reasoning is not an effective method, we should consider whether we think we have done something right. In fact, many times, the ideas and methods that we think are appropriate, reasonable and correct are just what we think of ourselves. This is a basis for the opposition between parents and children. It's easy for parents to think of themselves as experienced people who know the dangers of society and how to avoid these unnecessary things. However, as children, although they have certain rational cognitive ability, they still maintain a high desire for pleasure. Therefore, parents' reasonable explanation is not the basis for effectively preventing children from doing something. Wouldn't it be the same for you? In many things, even if the parents say something broken, even if they say something bloody, it will have little effect on you. Therefore, to make sense, in addition to wasting saliva, it is to make children bored.
let's judge what it means to love playing and falling in love with the internet. The nature of play runs through one's life. How to play and what to play are the most concerned issues for parents. The contradiction between the two is concentrated here. You say that your classmates are not too serious, then it can be judged that it is simply the rejection of parents caused by playing computer. It can also be understood that he knows that he should not play too much, but it is impossible not to let him play. This is at least one of his life rights. From my contact with internet addiction groups, it's not that they don't know that they shouldn't play for so long and get so deep, but they just can't grasp the degree, time and frequency of fun. Moreover, the upstairs mentioned that he should cultivate his other interests and hobbies. However, in other words, modern life has made it very rare for us to have our own interests. If interest is cultivated in teens, it is very late and troublesome. Computer games have occupied most of the spare time of modern teenagers so quickly, because society lacks other activities that interest us, and those activities often need to spend more money, energy and time. In contrast, computer games are even more attractive. Our principle of pursuing happiness is the minimum cost, the minimum effort and the highest happiness. Therefore, his behavior cannot be said to be his own responsibility. He just obeyed the characteristics of society, according to his own needs, and expressed his resistance to his parents for his own sake in adolescence.
how to deal with this situation? An important foundation lies not in how eagerly parents want him to change, nor in how strongly friends ask him to change, but only in whether he is aware of behavior problems and wants to solve them. If he has this will, it is simple to help. However, if not, it will be super difficult. Because other people's suggestions and plans are equivalent to the efforts made by his parents. In this way, we will turn into his other parents' image, and he will only reject and go his own way. In the past, there have been many schools for abstaining from internet addiction, which are basically military-style life and education. But what happened inside also scared many parents. In fact, many students who go in will share their game experiences and feelings together even if they can't play computer games. Even if they can't touch them, they will still have a good time. This kind of school generally uses the theory of behavioral psychology. However, the hidden danger is that the students who come out of this school can change because they have the will to change as mentioned above. But after the others came out, there was a more serious addiction to computers. It is generally called vanishing explosion. It means that in the process of behavior correction, after a period of behavior elimination, there are conditions that can satisfy the previous desires, then the behavior that was originally eliminated will appear at a higher frequency and to a higher degree. In addition, other recent schools are not only established, but also a business operation addiction at most. I don't expect too much from this kind of school.
what should I do when parents and classmates can't recognize whether he has the will to change? It is very difficult for students to help with this matter. At least it's a second force. My general process is to communicate with my parents and him first. Find out what is the contradiction between the two and the node that makes him unable to control his behavior. Only by building a bridge of equality, mutual trust and communication for both sides can we balance their respective needs and gradually move towards the realization of the goal from the minimum change. This means that it is impossible and risky to stop this behavior immediately and unconditionally. After all, human rights are implied in human consciousness. People don't obey a certain instruction, which means they have their own scope of rights. It is easy for parents to infringe on the rights of their children. This is one of the reasons why children resist. When we establish this limited change plan for them, we can make them give up their requirements and standards and slowly replace change with improvement. Many parents have gone into a misunderstanding, that is, taking change as the goal, but taking change as a means. In fact, this is impossible. Change is the ultimate goal, so improvement must be the method of process. This process is similar to putting the two sides in a fair and equal negotiation range, and replacing the tough command behavior with a fair and just agreement that both sides can bear and recognize. This is a general complaint, and it is also the standard in the process of making it. Depending on the model, many additional methods and conditions will evolve. Generally speaking, this method is very effective for modern teenagers. It not only respects both parties, but also respects the demands of both parties, balances the contradictions of both parties, and can also establish the goals that both parties recognize and pursue. So, you can forward this information to his parents and himself.
what is the role of classmates? The role of classmates can be said to be big if it is big, and small if it is small. If his interpersonal relationship is good, then his friendship can be a force to supervise and help him improve and change. However, if the relationship is average, it will have little effect. You should have seen some people give up smoking, drinking and fighting for their loved ones when they are in love, right? Why? Because this relationship is enough to support him to change a certain behavior. So is the relationship between classmates. If the relationship between classmates is not strong enough, saying more is equal to zero.
generally speaking, according to your friend's situation, what I said is as above. There is no need for any special scheme. It doesn't need to be sent to any special school. What's more, there is no need to invite a super master to give a talk. Not a big problem. The key depends on how he and his parents prepare. We'll talk about it if we have requirements.