Not seeking progress and not thinking about progress is the most terrifying mentality for children. Parents should do everything possible to encourage their children to develop the habit of a positive and progressive attitude
After the exam, parents are most concerned about their children's grades. For children whose grades are not top-notch and do not meet their parents' expectations, parents You may often hear children say, "There are many people who do worse than me." Such a conversation occurs more than once. If a child says this, parents must pay great attention to it.
In fact, this is a child who has no ambition to improve, no motivation to learn, no motivation to achieve, or no strong drive to learn. It should be said that although there may be congenital factors for children to have such a lack of enterprising personality, it is mostly caused by the influence of acquired environment. Factors such as the child's superior living conditions, the comfortable life of his father and mother, and the influence of his grandfather and grandmother may unknowingly form the child's unmotivated personality. The parents have no or weak requirements for the child, or the teacher does not have appropriate requirements. , all may be the direct factors that cause children to develop a lack of ambition.
How can parents help their children develop positive and enterprising habits?
1. Parents and families should create enterprising role models
A positive and enterprising family style has a great influence on children. Because role models will silently and silently influence children.
One of the teachers at Huajia University stayed at the school after graduating from a technical secondary school and getting a graduate degree from Tsinghua University. In just a few years, he was promoted to associate professor, leading graduate students, presiding over the work of the department, and presiding over large-scale projects. He relied on his enterprising spirit to study the subject and completed many books. As a result, his twelve-year-old son not only excelled in cultural classes, but also developed comprehensively in music, body, and art, and was admitted to the High School Affiliated to Tsinghua University. The reason is that although intelligence factor is one aspect, the role model of father and mother is also infinite. Even though his father was so busy, he was still working and went to Peking University to study for a Ph.D., and his mother was a class teacher and was also studying for a postgraduate course. When father and mother write in front of the computer, when father and mother receive academic visitors one after another, this gives a silent call to the child.
In ordinary families, parents cannot write books every day, but parents’ pursuit of work, parents’ pursuit of a better life, and parents’ aggressive and never lazy appearance will set a silent example of progress for their children.
2. Provide positive guidance, set goals, and strengthen children's enterprising spirit
Children's enterprising spirit is mostly transformed from external requirements into their own wishes. Therefore, targeted education is a must. Goals may establish children's ambitions, and ambitions can guide children to pursue them. Napoleon's saying that "a soldier who does not want to be a marshal is not a good soldier" is actually an inspiration.
1. Set long-term goals
For example, in the future, you will first be admitted to a prestigious university, and then go to a certain university to study for a master's or doctoral degree. Among them, some film and television works, especially works that introduce the ups and downs of people, people's situations, and others are used to stimulate children's desire to establish long-term goals.
For example, first play the documentary version of our country’s capital, and then play some outdoor scenes of famous universities such as Peking University and Tsinghua University to arouse children’s yearning for Beijing or the bright future, and then the yearning for these universities or a better life, so they can naturally This leads to the conclusion: we must study hard, lay a good foundation, and learn mathematics, physics, chemistry, Chinese, and foreign languages ??well.
There are many such examples. The great rivers, mountains and ancient cities of the motherland are all good materials to arouse children's emotions. Of course, parents must first be interested. Even if they are not interested, even if they are not interested, when they want to cultivate their children, Do this - and then guide your children: Only by learning the skills can you get to these places.
One thing to note is that when parents talk about vision, they may not be as effective as others. If parents imagine long-term goals as tomorrow's joy, then this joy will be tempting to their children. The goal of "Tomorrow's Happiness Theory" can be higher than the actual level of the child, the motivation level is super high, and the motivation may be greater.
2. Set short-term goals
Short-term goals are goals for one month, one semester, or one school year. For example, it is stipulated that the child will be among the top 10, top 5 in the class in the first semester, or Getting an excellent grade, or writing an essay every two days, or writing a diary every day are all short-term goals. It should be noted that short-term goals are for today. If they are too high and cannot be achieved, it will dampen childish enthusiasm and thus affect self-motivation.
The most appropriate short-term goal is a goal that is slightly higher than the student's ability and that the student can achieve through hard work. For example, if a student has been ranked 15-20 in the exam in the past, the short-term goal can be set between 10-15.
3. Promote good and suppress evil, and carry forward the shining points
Even children who do not seek to make progress have many shining points. By finding out the shining points and carrying them forward, it is possible for children to start from the shining points and enhance their motivation for progress. For example, playing chess, Go, table tennis, calligraphy, dancing, playing the piano, giving speeches, composing poems, etc., you can always find where your child shines, and then focus on developing abilities in this area, and strive to participate in relevant organized activities or competitions. Because it is the child's own shining point, it is very likely to achieve excellent results. Then this kind of achievement will be radiated to other fields through guidance, which can effectively improve the childishness of being unmotivated and unwilling to make progress.
I believe that children always have bright spots, even if they are practicing martial arts, as long as they are interested, they can cultivate talents. We have to admit that all roads lead to Rome, and it is important to pursue and value results, but for children, the process is equally important.
4. Hard-working training and education
Nowadays, people laugh at the past "recalling hardships and thinking about sweetness" exercise. In fact, from a functional point of view, it has great psychological significance and can strengthen People's motivations for understanding the past and thereby changing the present. Why are Japanese mothers so willing to train their children to endure hardships? The process of fighting and conquering difficulties in the jungle can easily inspire children's ambition and self-motivation. The more you train hard, the more motivated you will be. Parents really want to correct their children's current situation of not seeking to make progress, and hard training and education are a good medicine.
Of course, there are more than these methods and practices to correct the lack of progress. Here are just examples to remind parents that the method is by your side. As long as you grasp it, your child's mental outlook will be greatly improved.