How to face setbacks Everyone will encounter setbacks in life. Moderate setbacks have a certain positive significance. They can help people get rid of inertia and encourage people to forge ahead. Frustration is another challenge and test.
The British philosopher Bacon said: "Miracles that transcend nature mostly appear in the conquest of adversity." The key issue is how to face setbacks.
People all hope to have more happiness, less pain, more success and less setbacks in their lives, but fate seems to always play tricks on people, torture them, and always give people more. Loss, pain and frustration. I remember reading a story: There was a pupa on the grass, which was discovered by a child and brought home. After a few days, a small crack appeared on the pupa. The butterfly inside struggled for a long time. It seemed that its body was stuck and could not get out. The innocent child was very upset when he saw the painful struggle of the butterfly in the pupa. So, he picked up the scissors and cut open the pupa shell to help the butterfly emerge from the pupa. However, because the butterfly did not go through the painful struggle before emerging from the pupa, its body was bloated and its wings were withered after emerging from the shell. It was unable to fly at all and died soon after. Naturally, the joy of this butterfly disappears forever with its death. This little story also illustrates the truth of life. To get happiness, you must be able to withstand pain and frustration. This is a training for people, and it is also a process that a person must go through to grow.
There are many factors that contribute to frustration. For example, setting the goal of struggle too high, there is a gap between ability and expectations, etc. There are also factors of psychological conflict. For example, a college student wants to concentrate on studying for a doctorate, but he is also in love; studying and falling in love are like fish and bear's paws. He hopes to have both, but the best way for him is to choose only one. It is a kind of "double trend conflict". Another example is a couple who are in love. After a few contacts, they feel that they have talked about everything and there is nothing left to talk about. The two of them can only look at each other, which seems very awkward, but one person People will feel more lonely. This is called "double avoidance of conflict."
When people encounter setbacks, they often feel insecure, making it difficult for them to settle down, and their work and life will be affected. So, how should people debug when they suffer setbacks? You might as well try the following ten methods:
First, be calm and calm, don’t panic or get angry.
Second, enhance self-confidence and improve courage.
Third, assess the situation and win in a roundabout way. The so-called victory in a roundabout way means that the goal remains the same but the method changes.
Fourth, keep up the good work and persevere. When you encounter setbacks, keep moving forward. Your stated goal remains the same and your efforts double.
Fifth, adapt to others and be flexible. If the original goal that is too high cannot be achieved for a while, it can be replaced with a goal that is easier to achieve. This is also a way of adapting.
Sixth, find the reasons and clarify your ideas. When you are frustrated, first calm down and find out the possible reasons, and then look for ways to solve the problem.
Seventh, transfer emotions and seek sublimation. You can adjust your emotions and sublimate your emotions through your favorite methods such as stamp collecting, writing, calligraphy, art, music, dance, and physical exercise.
Eighth, learn to vent and get rid of stress. Different people have different attitudes when facing setbacks. Some people are melancholy, and some are hesitant. At this time, you might as well find one or two people close to you, people who understand you, and pour out all the words in your heart. From a mental health perspective, catharsis can eliminate the mental pressure caused by frustration and reduce mental fatigue; at the same time, catharsis is also a self-psychological rescue measure, which can dilute and alleviate bad emotions.
Ninth, seek psychological help when necessary. When people encounter setbacks and are at a loss, they may wish to turn to psychological institutions for help. The psychology will move you emotionally, understand you rationally, guide you into action, and follow the guidance well, so that you can move from the dilemma of "there is no way out" to the realm of "a village with dark flowers and bright flowers".
Tenth, learn to be humorous and laugh at yourself. "Humor" and "self-deprecation" are good ways to vent frustration, balance your mentality, and be happy.
When you suffer setbacks, you may wish to adopt Ah Q's spiritual victory methods, such as "Suffering a loss is a blessing", "Lossing is a blessing", "Loss is a blessing", "Loss is a gain", etc. to adjust your unbalanced psychology. Or "it's rare to be confused", treat setbacks calmly, and use humor to adjust your mentality.
In life, it is impossible to be happy and everything goes as planned. To be able to be as humble as a valley, as wise as a fool, and to maintain a calm and peaceful state of mind in the face of setbacks is to fully understand the magnanimity of life. If a person wants to maintain a healthy state of mind, he needs to sublimate his spirit, practice morality, accumulate energy, and be funny and optimistic. As the saying goes: "A good mood can relieve physical fatigue and pain better than ten pairs of medicines.