■ Pan-Shu Ya
My son, a sophomore in junior high school, left a composition entitled Never Again. Just four words made me lost in thought. For a person who is about to go to school, too many things are gone.
There is no more time to waste. Ma Weidou, 60, said in the lecture that 30 years ago, he met an old man who said that his time was calculated by the day. Thirty years later, Ma Weidou said that his time was calculated on a monthly basis, and 360 of the 365 days in a year were awakened by an alarm clock. "Encourage in time, and time waits for no one." Where has my time gone in my limited life? Think back to how much time WeChat has occupied me in the past few months. I have to read it before going to bed and getting up, even when I go to the toilet. In a day, it takes at least two hours to waste on WeChat, and shallow reading in the era of reading pictures is harmful. I feel that there is a three-volume collection of Zhu Guangqian's aesthetics. The first edition was bought from the old bookstore in Niujiaxiang, Pingjiang Road, Suzhou last year. I can't help regretting the lost time. It has been a habit for more than a week to put it back on the pillow for an hour or two before going to bed every night.
Zhu Guangqian said: "If a person really understands a valuable literary work, his temperament and thoughts will inevitably change. If a person is exactly the same after reading a book, his temperament has not changed before reading it. There are only two possible explanations, either that he has shortcomings or that book has shortcomings. " I want to chew on this book that I like. Recently, I also bought several calligraphy theory books online, including Learning the Method-Talking about Calligraphy, Qigong Telling You about Calligraphy, and On the Art of White Religion, as well as Zhu Tangmeng's Notes on Calligraphy, Notes on Book Spectrum and Notes on Two Kings' Famous Posts. Life in summer vacation is not empty.
Never go back to the old friendship. I am not good at making friends, but I am not a person without friends. At every stage of my life, I still have one or two confidants. Childhood playmates, congenial classmates when they were young, and inseparable colleagues in the unit gradually faded out of sight with the passage of time or the adjustment of work. Sometimes, you want to ask someone out, but you're afraid they don't have time. You are not in the mood when others have time. About friendship, like marriage, it also needs to be managed with care. And I often don't take the initiative, largely because I refuse to pay my time. Two days ago, two colleagues and friends who haven't been together for a long time got together. They talked a lot, and I heard a lot of unheard-of things, and suddenly I felt like a stranger in the eyes of my colleagues. "Everyone else does. Why are you different from others? " "I don't want to be a maverick, but there are some things I can't do, not for anything else, just for leisure and peace of mind."
As Zhu Guangqian said: "A person's personality achievement is closely related to the friends and relatives he often makes." Reading the chapter of Tao Yuanming by Zhu Guangqian, we find that there are probably four kinds of people who associate with Tao Yuanming all his life. The first kind is political figures. Most of them are not friends with Tao Yuanming, but Yan Yanzhi is indeed a friend. He has a close friendship with Tao Yuanming. After his death, he wrote a famous obituary. The second kind of friend is a colleague when he was an official, which seems to have little influence on Tao Yuanming. The most interesting and elusive relationship between them and Tao Yuanming is the third kind of people, that is, people who may have contacts with Tao Yuanming in ideological interest and art, such as Hui Yuan, a monk of the Lotus Society, two lay disciples of Zhou and Hui Yuan, and Liu adherents. Tao Yuanming is lonely in this group of scholar-bureaucrat circles, and the one who has the closest contact with him is a field elder in the neighborhood. In the more than twenty years after returning to the field, he got some comfort from the friendship of Tian Ye. Perhaps, friendship without any selfishness and conflict of interest can stand the test of time.
"The common fault of most of us is that we live in a very narrow world, so narrow that there are only people and things in the world now, and there are only people and things with immediate interests in space; If these closely related people and things are not satisfied now, we will be caught alive by them and can't move. There is no way out except to complain. " Tao Yuanming is different. He has freedom that no force can deprive him of. He cultivated his personality into a perfect poem of life, full and brilliant. For the rest of my life, I have Tao Yuanming and Su Dongpo, "I am not alone"!