So what is anxiety? Anxiety is a kind of irritability caused by worrying too much about the life safety, future and destiny of relatives or themselves.
I was particularly anxious for a while. That was a year ago, because the children's math scores were poor, and their thinking could not keep up. I often tutor her, but I just don't understand. This makes me very sad. What shall we do? It's almost the senior grade of primary school. I am in a hurry. I really have nothing to say.
So I signed up at the online school and asked a professional teacher for help. But she is careless in her homework, and she is not serious at all. Seeing that a semester has passed, my grades have not improved. Learning attitude is not serious, and spending money will not help. I thought to myself: she is not serious and doesn't study, so it is useless for me to invite experts for her.
After a period of anxiety and struggle, I also lost confidence and didn't care much about her academic performance. Things took a turn for the better when I calmed down and stopped paying attention to her grades.
There was an exam at school, and her math score was the second in the whole grade. I was particularly surprised when I got this result, because I didn't have it before.
So first of all, don't just focus on the surface. When you look at the essence of a problem through its appearance, things are different.
Coping with Anxiety is written by Edho Bourne, an anxiety expert, and Lorna Galanaud, a psychologist. The purpose is to let more people know how anxiety is generated and how to solve it.
Often many things are that we pay too much attention to the appearance of this matter and fall into anxiety.
Pay too much attention to one thing, then it may not bring you positive feedback. For example, children's learning pays too much attention to grades, which puts pressure on children and makes them unable to relax themselves. Learning is a step-by-step process and will not have immediate results.
Pursue the result blindly, then there may not be a good result; What we should care about is the process. If the process is good, the result will not be too bad.
When you care too much about one thing and can't get positive feedback, then you can focus on the opposite thing. Transform your brain thinking.
Just like my second treasure, he is extremely naughty all day long. He is also a foodie and loves to run wild outside. I'm always an asshole. I was tortured by her all day. Aren't you going to hit her? She is disobedient. Do you really want to hit her? Suddenly become a good girl, and then become a prototype.
On this day, she is an asshole again. I said to her: how can I raise such a disobedient child? Can't you save me some snacks? Her elf replied, didn't you give birth to me
I don't get angry or laugh when children over three years old say this. Then I can only change my mind, from anger to happiness, and turn the days of accompanying her into a childhood happiness and a pleasure of accompanying her. Parents can accompany their children, but only for a few years.
The more angry and anxious I am, the more I will bring you the opposite result. It is to calm your mind and let go of your anxiety. Change your mentality and thinking, discuss with her, praise her, and then she will be obedient again.
Both children and adults like to praise and say good things. So sometimes if you control your emotions, things will develop in a good direction.
Often the reason for anxiety is that we care too much about one thing, even a small thing, because we care too much and create a dilemma for ourselves. If we fall into this dilemma for a long time, we will have a bad anxiety, which will directly affect our work and life. Some even become psychological shadows.
We ordinary people worry about our lives. We have both house goods and car goods. It's stressful. Then as a star, there will be anxiety. Leslie Cheung, a famous singer, is very famous in the music and film fields. He is sought after by thousands of people, admired by everyone, with high income and high talent. When he reached the peak of his life, he finally chose to end his life.
It stands to reason that his life is sought after by everyone. But why did he kill himself? Because once a person reaches the peak, his pressure is too great to understand and accept.
So his stress brought him a kind of anxiety and formed depression. Yang's depression is very dangerous. At a dangerous border like this, we can see a psychologist and treat it with drugs.
Last year, a high school student here didn't get a satisfactory result because he quarreled with his grandmother. Later, he also committed suicide by jumping into the river.
These tragedies are actually happening everywhere, and the main reason for these tragedies is to care too much about the outcome of one thing. When we change our attention and focus, then maybe the consequences will be a happy ending.
Serious anxiety will affect people's physiological, behavioral and psychological state. How can we adjust and change ourselves? What should I do to get rid of troubles and anxiety?
We have changed from paying attention to ideological activities to paying attention to reality, devoting ourselves to a certain job, participating in an activity and diverting our attention. So what are the ways to divert our attention?
Five tips to help you divert your attention and relieve anxiety.
1, let the body move.
Because when you are anxious, your body and brain are in a state of tension. We can exercise in the morning and evening to relax ourselves. When you sweat, you will have a different pace of life, which will also ease your mood and reduce anxiety.
Or go out for running, swimming, or do aerobic exercise, yoga and regular exercise, which can relieve the muscle tension of bones. You can also gradually relax your muscles.
Talking to people
Talk to friends and people around you about the recent situation, talk about things other than anxiety, let yourself relax and decompress, and stop paying attention to what you are worried about. Friends can speak freely, tell your troubles to friends, and maybe you can find the key to open your heart.
My original anxiety was chatting with friends and talking about other people's children. Then divert your attention and finally resolve your anxiety, and things will get better.
Listen to your favorite music.
Music can make people relax, cultivate sentiment, make people have a happy mood, leave unpleasant things behind and immerse themselves in relaxed music. When you are happy physically and mentally, your mood is very healthy and your state is very strong.
4. Experience pleasant things
You can travel, broaden your horizons and keep your heart happy. Maybe you will meet a confidante or life partner during your trip, which is an unexpected gain.
Or you can read a book that you really want to read. A book can help you solve a problem and a trouble. In this way, you can heal your mind, open your mind, solve your troubles, and let you experience happiness and progress from reading.
5. Do what you like with your hobby.
You can give full play to your hobbies to relieve stress and anxiety. For example, singing, dancing, painting and calligraphy. Focus on other things, concentrate on one thing, and your stress and anxiety will be relieved to the greatest extent at this moment.
You can go to a class to study, and you can learn and make progress with people with the same hobbies. So you can change your focus, put down your anxiety and get out of the shadows.
The book "Coping with Anxiety" is to tell all of us how to maintain our mental state, how to resolve our anxiety and let ourselves live a happy life in a busy crowd and in today's stressful society.
Only when we relax. The whole body will be in a relaxed and normal state. Take care of yourself, take care of yourself, give yourself enough time to get rid of troubles and worries and live a happy life of normal people.