Watching the children grow up day by day, I feel very gratified, satisfied, joyful and happy.
When Dabao and Xiaobao entered kindergarten at the age of 2 and a half, they were almost never separated from me. Since I had no help from my parents and no dependence, I took on the responsibility for the children’s basic necessities, food, housing, transportation, and most importantly, education. When I first started my business, I had a lot of dinner parties, but since my two babies stayed with me, I rarely attended dinner parties. I was always around my children every day. I had no time for myself, no circle of my own, and sometimes I felt really irritable. , thinking about when will such days end! The particularly troublesome thing is that my cooking skills are very poor. Even the most basic home-cooked meals are very difficult to prepare. Sometimes I have the idea that my children are a burden! Maybe people will grow only in such adversity!
Maybe it is my inner calling and desire, or maybe I am a lucky person. Since Dabao entered the first grade, I was fortunate enough to be exposed to family education. More than a year of study has allowed me to communicate with children better. There have been great changes in communication. I have changed my aloof and majestic attitude as a parent, changed the way I talk to my children, controlled my emotions reasonably, and changed my cold and violent approach to problems... treating my children as my friends. , play and play games with the children.
In 2016, I was fortunate to join Yijia Culture. It was previously a 137 education platform. This time it was another qualitative leap for myself and my children, and Chinese classics were integrated into our lives. Since February 2016, I have been reading classics with my child. From the beginning, I have read classics for the sake of reading classics. The purpose is to let her read and improve her academic performance from classics. From difficult to easy, let the child learn in the future. Of course, this idea should be on every mother's mind. I hope my son will become a dragon and I hope my daughter will become a phoenix. My father has used this classic to teach us since I was young. However, I was still young at that time and could not understand my father’s intentions at all. In order to enable my children to persist in reciting the classics, I can say that I have taken great pains, listened to classes every day, continued to study, and used variant thinking to encourage the children to persist in reciting the classics. (Of course, there are also inappropriate methods - forcing) and I have made changes bit by bit. Growth bit by bit, accumulation bit by bit.
To tell the truth, I insist on getting up early every day. From the moment I open my eyes, I feel like a top. I can’t rest until the moment I go to bed at night. I get up at 5:40, read classics, read books, and do Early, pack up the little ones and send them to school. Time is very tight. After sending the children to work, I worry about and deal with work matters. I pick up the children at 11:30 and go home to cook. I have to take a lunch break at 1 o'clock and go out to see them off again at 2 o'clock. Children, then work again, pick up the children at 5 o'clock, go home to cook, and help the children with their homework. Year after year, day after day, this should be the life of every mother! After three years of persistence, I have really grown a lot, learned a lot, realized a lot, and gained a lot, but this is the real beginning. Although he is like a tight spring every day, Confucius said: "Do your best to know the destiny." Do your best in the limited time, and the results are no longer important.
I once bought a Chinese studies machine, which also came with a set of Chinese classics, but I didn’t use it. I only listened to stories for a month and then went out of business. Inspired by his classmates, he picked up Chinese studies books again, and Dabao began to learn Chinese studies classics when he was 7 and a half years old.
On April 16, 2016, I participated in the first 137 Parent Education Thinking Class with my child’s father
A baptism of the soul changed my thinking and found the role of a woman. role and position, and learned how to get along as a couple. A big turning point after marriage. Gratitude from the heart!
On April 22, 2016, Xiaobao turned 4 years old
The changes after returning, reciting classics with the baby
Because the child read 2 After a month, I started to resist and it was difficult to persist, so I made up my mind and spent 8,000 yuan to buy a set of educational classics. For the sake of money, I had to persist no matter what. The money should not be wasted. I started to enter the 137 education platform at 6 o'clock every day. Listen to morning classes with 10 minutes of yy audio and learn how to encourage children to recite classics.
I learned how to influence Xiaobao to recite classics. After listening to it for about 3 months, Xiaobao was able to take the initiative to read classics with us.
July 8, 2016 influenced Yangyang and Yuanyuan to join us in reading classics.
Because Xiaobao began to resist and did not recite the classics well, I took Xiaobao to participate in the ninth thinking class of 137 Education Platform, so that Xiaobao could feel that she was not the only one reading the classics, but all over the country. The children recited classics with her. She had many companions. Maybe it was her own problem. The child seemed very shy when going out and did not take the initiative to play with the children. She also had a lot of minor problems when going out. The outside world is so big that it would be difficult to go out without going out. Know your child's problems.
This time the team was relatively large. Because it was a holiday, the eldest sister, the second sister, Yincun and Linlin also brought a group of children. After three days of study, everyone brought a lot of positive energy and gains. But nothing can be accomplished overnight. It requires continuous learning and tempering, and cannot just rely on enthusiasm. Any study requires investment. As a woman, investing in yourself is the most important thing. Investment in clothing, investment in the body, and most importantly, investment in the brain. The so-called temperament, qi is yang, which is the spirit, and quality is the body, which is yin. If your body is strong, your spirit will naturally be in good shape; people who are in good spirits are likely to be in good health as well. Reading is the edification of people’s spiritual world.
I have been reluctant to go on stage since I participated in the 9th session, but this time I was very generous and confident. I recited the Dayi poems on the stage with my big brothers and sisters, and won a small prize of a Peppa Pig bag. Bag, like it very much.
On July 21, 2017, 9-year-old Dabao went out alone for the first time with his luggage. He was worried too much, but the child would eventually leave his parents and face various difficulties alone. and challenges.
This was the first time she got to know calligraphy. The child said that the teacher gave her a tutorial after class and asked her to teach her alone, which seemed to be the material for writing calligraphy.
The ten-day seed camp is over. The children have learned to live independently. They live in a dormitory with friends from all over the country. They wash their own clothes, get up and take care of themselves every day. Children are better off without their mother's arms!
Our online calligraphy course started on September 18, 2017, and Xiaobao is also very impressive.
After hard work, Xiaobao and I learned to swim under the leadership of my sister. Of course, Xiaobao learned faster than me. She can now swim one round trip independently, while I can only swim half a circle.
Xiaobao was particularly considerate and affectionate in the birthday card that his sister made for his sister.
It is also a challenge for me. Because I have to go on stage to give a speech, I have never dared to take this step. Now I feel that it is more because my brain knowledge is too poor and I lack self-confidence. People's self-confidence comes from rich knowledge. If you read a lot of books, you will have barrier-free communication. So it’s important to learn and constantly recharge yourself.
In the blink of an eye, Xiaobao graduated from kindergarten. I still remember how he looked when he first entered kindergarten, and then he graduated again, so the time he spent with his child was really very short. People spend their whole life struggling for material life and devote all their energy. When the material is satisfied, the children grow up, but they lose the most precious time to accompany them.
When I saw the video of Da Niu’s speech that was sent back to the scene, I couldn’t stop crying. I didn’t know how I felt. The mother's worry when her son travels thousands of miles should not be worry, but concern. It should be gratifying to see your children growing up day by day!
Looking back now, although it was a bit rough, many memories are of playing games with children. When the weather is warm, my mother and I read the Bible outdoors, run in the morning, find a small stage for the children to practice, introduce themselves, show talents, tell stories, sing, jump rope, make sandbags, ride bicycles, and other activities. Although we can't go to KTV to sing, we can sing at home. I also have a childish heart and compete with the children to see who can sing better. We also have a lot of fun.
In the past, I played with the children with a purpose, and read classics with the children with a purpose. Gradually, the children and I have turned this unaccustomed habit into a habit. Instead of me accompanying the children, the children accompany me. Because sometimes when the children are away, I suddenly feel very empty and lonely. If your child really leaves you one day, you really won't be able to adapt. Of course, so that I would not be lonely in the future, I chose my own hobbies (dancing, calligraphy) and persisted in dancing for more than 2 years and calligraphy for a year. Although my studies were average, I at least persisted consciously. Of course, this is also far from the Without the support of my two children, they are very supportive of my mother, because when I dance, they almost complete their homework at home.
I have been learning for more than a year. Although it is at the speed of a tortoise, I can now put away the copybook and write. I am really happy. Although my writing is very average, I just need to persist.
In fact, reading classics is not about reading classics, but classics are the link between me and my children, and they are also tools to promote children to form good habits. The parent-child relationship is more important than anything else. Many people ask what effect reading classics has on learning? I sometimes ask myself, can reading classics improve children's grades? Now I am not confused at all, because I do not read classics for the sake of reading classics, nor do I read classics for grades. This behavioral habit has been deeply imprinted in the hearts of children. Persistence may seem simple, but it is not easy. , it seems difficult, but it becomes easy if you persist. Recently, I bought an iPad for my children, who are learning English. Many parents feel that they can't stick to it, but this time it is really simple and easy for the big girl. I don't need to urge and supervise at all, just complete it by myself. This is The foundation laid over the past 3 years. So when we learn anything in the future, we have our own set of magic weapons, which is to persist, learn to use time, learn to make plans, and learn to make choices. Dabao came back yesterday and said that she was selected by the teacher to join the calligraphy group. The music teacher wanted her to join the recorder group. She also wanted to join the track and field group, but she could only choose one. I asked if there was a badminton group, and she said no, even if she She will also join the calligraphy group because she plays badminton on Saturdays and Sundays, so she can use school time to write calligraphy. After hearing this, I was really happy because she can balance and choose what is best and most beneficial to her. of. Because she loves badminton and calligraphy, the child is still very sensible.
Life is a journey, and it is also a spiritual journey. It depends on where you are stationed.