Xu Zhimo's poems are still full of charm, especially the romance and lingering language. If it is used to write love letters and pick up girls, it must be "invincible" Facts have indeed proved this point …
1897 1, Xu Zhimo was born in Lao Xu, Haining, Zhejiang. His father, Xu Shenru, runs a bank and is absolutely rich in Jiangnan. He is the only son of his eldest grandson, so it's only natural that he should be exposed to the wind and rain. A distinguished family, luxury and luxury, is a proper rich second generation …
Xu Shenru hopes that he will inherit the mantle in the future and run this family business well. Of course, he laid the groundwork for him early. When he grows up and is sensible, he will be sent abroad for further study. He will go to the United States and Britain to study economics …
Who knows that Xu Zhimo is not particularly interested in economics? Relatively speaking, he prefers to make friends with literati, pick up girls, write love poems and write an article, which makes him feel uncomfortable. Later, it was introduced that he studied under Liang Qichao and met many top literary masters at that time, such as Hu Shi and others (Yu Dafu was his high school classmate). Since then, he has "gone further and further" on the road of literature …
Before he went abroad, just when he graduated from high school, the financial tycoon in the Republic of China (who later established the People's Bank of China) went to the Xu family to propose for his little sister Zhang Youyi. When my father learned about it, he was so happy that he could laugh in his dreams. Zhang Youyi also had a brother, Zhang Youjun, who was a man of the hour in politics at that time. As a merchant family, it is naturally welcome to have powerful in-laws like the Zhang family, but Xu Zhimo is unwilling …
The background of that time was "anti-feudalism". When it comes to marriage, it means resisting parents' arranged marriage and political marriage and emphasizing "freedom of love" and "freedom of marriage". This "wind of freedom" is even worse in the circle of literati! At that time, many famous intellectuals, under the banner of "anti-feudalism", rightfully opposed, belittled and even insulted their wives who came from "the words of parents and matchmakers" ...
As an intellectual who wants to be "free", Xu Zhimo naturally won't call Zhang Youyi, whom he has never met. They don't have any intersection at all, let alone an emotional foundation. So no matter what Xu's father said, he firmly disagreed. Later, Mr. Xu stopped recruiting children and had to move out of his old mother and let her talk about Xu Zhimo every day and do his ideological work. Xu Zhimo gave in to grandma's "inquisition" and finally reluctantly agreed to this marriage ...
Married life can be imagined. He married just to "complete the task", and he didn't have a good look at Zhang Youyi, and even often laughed at him. Zhang Youyi didn't complain about it, but kept his duty, helping him take care of his family and his parents. Because of this, Zhang Youyi won the recognition of the Lao Xu family. They lived like this until he was 24 years old (192 1 year old) …
This year, when he was studying in Britain, he had the opportunity to visit Lin Changmin, a calligrapher and a very important government official during the Republic of China. He met Lin, then 65,438+06 years old. He was shocked by nature and deeply attracted by his temperament. After that, he was troubled by dreams and wrote endless love letters. Although Lin's thought at this time was not mature enough, he appreciated his talent and felt a good impression. The fire of dry wood opened the mode of "burning love" and finally reached the point of talking about marriage. I don't know what he was thinking, but he agreed to their marriage, although he had promised to marry Lin to Liang Sicheng before …
From this perspective, for this relationship, in fact, they are all third parties. At this time, Xu Zhimo had his wife Zhang Youyi and was the father of two children. Lin is the fiancee of Liang Sicheng, the son of Liang Qichao, and had an engagement with Liang Sicheng. But love is so passionate that they forget so much …
It is worth mentioning that Lin is an unmarried woman. That is to say, his father Lin Changmin has several wives at the same time, and her old mother is not very popular with her father. Because of other "stepmother", her old mother has been wronged and seen this situation for many years. With this idea, think again about Zhang Youyi, Xu Zhimo's wife. She made a request to Xu Zhimo: you can get married, but you must divorce Zhang Youyi first …
Hearing this request, Xu Zhimo smiled and thought, is this something for me? Without further ado, I took a "divorce agreement" and gave it to Zhang Youyi for signature. Zhang Youyi knew very well that he had no feelings for himself, and she recognized Lin, so she signed it happily and went abroad with her two children …
The divorce incident caused the collective opposition of Lao Xu families, and also caused a big public opinion storm in the society. This was the first divorce case at that time, and because of the intervention of another woman, how could it not be a "talk" for people after dinner? Because of this incident, Mr. Xu broke off his father-son relationship and his financial resources were cut off. For the sake of Lin, it can be regarded as "looking on coldly, bowing to be a willing ox" …
When he came to Lin excitedly with a "divorce certificate", he found that Lin He had returned to China and Lin had married another woman. His husband's family was Liang Sicheng, the son of his teacher Liang Qichao. So he can't say anything, and he can only be depressed alone. This is also the pain of losing his wife and the pain of soldiers. But he still misses Lin all the time …
Later, he met another woman-Lu Xiaoman. Lu Xiaoman is also someone else's wife at this time. Her husband is Lieutenant General Wang Geng of the Kuomintang army and high flyers of West Point Military Academy, and he is also a strong advocate. But after all, they are like-minded, appreciate each other and are very determined to be together. Finally, he asked Wang Geng to come out for peace talks. At the dinner table, he asked Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman to divorce face to face, but he didn't know what he was thinking. Wang Geng also agreed! Unfortunately, it is not the happy ending of the prince and his beloved princess …
He married Lu Xiaoman, but he was equally cruel and was not accepted by the society. After all, it goes against traditional moral principles. In order to block the long crowd, he wanted to invite Liang Qichao, an authority figure of "anti-feudalism" at that time and his teacher, to preside over the wedding, hoping to rehabilitate his marriage. Liang Qichao was very reluctant, but with the efforts of Hu Shi and others, he reluctantly accepted the invitation of the wedding host …
However, to our surprise, Liang Qichao not only didn't send blessings to the couple at the wedding, but instead swore at the couple, strongly reprimanded it as a very immoral marriage, and finally sarcastically sent a sentence "I wish you this is the last marriage" ... Everyone present was embarrassed, which made the couple even more embarrassed ...
On the other hand, the Lao Xu family also strongly opposed the marriage. Xu Torre had already cut off the father-son relationship with him, and the natural family's property had also been cut off from him, and all the property had been handed over to his ex-wife Zhang Youyi. His newly established small family is in financial difficulties, and his new wife, Lu Xiaoman, is used to living in the Wangs. The contradiction between the young couple can be seen in their married life. At this time, Xu Zhimo was recommended by Hu Shi as a school professor, with income, but not enough. In order to make Lu Xiaoman have enough money to spend, he also took a part-time job-writing articles to earn money. Although his income was 100 times that of ordinary people at that time, it was still not enough for Lu Xiaoman's "spending" …
In A.D. 193 1 year, the forest he yearned for will give lectures in Beijing. He was filled with joy and prepared to fly north from Nanjing to attend her lecture. Before he left, he asked his friend Weng Dragon Boat Festival to take care of Lu Xiaoman, who was in poor health. Unexpectedly, this entrustment became a last wish ... The plane he took was disoriented because of the foggy weather, and finally hit a mountain and killed people. He is always at the age of 34 … Lu Xiaoman, who is frail and sickly, finally spent his life under the care of Weng Dragon Boat Festival …
Some people say that Xu Zhimo dares to love, hate and do, does not avoid people's words, and always adheres to the dream love in his heart, and is a generation of lovers; It is also said that Xu Zhimo abandoned his wife and children because of Lin, and he was heartless. Finally fell in love with another wife, Lu Xiaoman, immoral and neither fish nor fowl. If you ask me, it doesn't matter whether he is a lover who is crazy about love or a rogue in the coat of a gifted scholar. Besides, the dead are gone, the past is like the wind, and how can you appreciate it if you are not a party?
People are extremely complex animals, and there are many things that are unclear and unclear, and at the same time, there are many things that are not as simple as black and white. Besides, who does not make mistakes? Who wouldn't say? Therefore, there is no need for subjective speculation and comments, just respect the facts and savor them carefully.