During the summer vacation, I found a job as a tutor under the recommendation of the counselor. This is the first social part-time job I have found since I started school. When I got the job, I was both excited and grateful. Excited, I got an opportunity to exercise my ability, but also reflected my value; Thankfully, the counselor really cares about me in every possible way. As a result, my summer vacation life has added a beautiful scenery. This scenery has taught me a lot, tasted a lot and thought a lot. ...
The first poor man inherited the wind.
My student is called Ma Ning. The first time I went to his house, he sulked in the study (because he didn't agree to ask for a tutor at first). Uncle Ma and my aunt warmly received me and had a sincere conversation with me in the living room for a long time. On Ma Ning's academic specialty from his personality hobby. Therefore, I first met Ma Ning, not through direct contact with him, but through conversation with his parents. During the conversation, I learned the following points: Ma Ning is tired of learning, lazy in learning and playful. "Because of the above reasons, his performance is not satisfactory. His parents have great expectations for him, hoping that he can be admitted to a key middle school and come to university for further study. And his current study situation makes his parents feel very depressed and disappointed.
During the conversation, I can feel my parents' ardent expectations for me and their hatred for steel. Parents' expectations of their children are ardent and selfless. They look far away and see the future of their children; They are selfless and even deeply blame their children for their incompetence. I am deeply moved by the kindness of parents to their children, and I also feel a heavy burden on my shoulders. After all, he is a "challenge" for me who has no experience in tutoring.
He is my student, a hard stone that has not yet been carved.
His name is Ma Ning. Tall and thin, with a pair of bachelor's glasses on his high nose. There is always a trace of indelible fatigue on a childish doll's face. This is his first impression of me.
On the first day of tutoring, I explained the final exam paper to him. The handwriting on the test paper is scrawled, whether in English or Chinese. Knowing people by their words, I think he must be very casual in his studies and not demanding of himself. In the process of explaining the examination paper, I found that he looked tired when he was listening to the class and yawned from time to time. The effect of such a listening state can be imagined. I also began to realize that the first task now is not to lecture, but to help him correct his learning attitude.
The next day, I gave him an ideological education class and explained to him the responsibility of students and the purpose of learning. He seems to understand something. Nod your head from time to time to show your agreement. Since then, I have often given him similar courses and talked with him from time to time. His class status has been greatly improved. I'm very happy about it.
Work for more than two hours every morning, with breaks. During recess, he won't take the initiative to talk to me about things because he is very introverted. He likes reading newspapers and magazines. During the break, he always looks for some newspapers to read and something he is interested in (especially football news). Occasionally, I will play football in the living room. He said that football was his favorite and he made many friends.
Reading newspapers and playing football seem to be his hobbies, perhaps because they don't consume too many brain cells. Faced with a lot of exercises and boring texts, I don't think anyone will be interested. In my opinion, reading newspapers or playing football is actually a way of wasting time and avoiding learning. Avoiding learning is itself a manifestation of fear of hardship. Later, his mother told me that Ma Ning was really lazy and didn't want to suffer. From then on, I met a thorny problem: how to make him overcome laziness. Because I clearly know that his laziness was developed from childhood, learning laziness has become his "routine", and he can't overcome laziness in a short time. So in the future lectures, I gradually became strict with him and often explained the harm of laziness to him. Although he listened, he didn't change. That's understandable.
The third article about family education is bittersweet.
I have to be a tutor every morning, which forces me to get rid of the habit of sleeping late during the holidays (usually getting up after ten o'clock). In the first few days, I got up in my sleep and washed with my groggy head. The taste of that transformation is really uncomfortable!
His home is not far from the school, but because I get up late every day, I always rush in order not to be late. Rain or shine, when I arrived at his house, I was already sweating profusely. You must start work before you can sit down.
When he is listening to the class, he is often absent-minded, and sometimes he seems to be absent-minded. I feel very annoyed in my heart: it is cruel that he ignores me when I speak so hard. Fortunately, I am very patient. Whenever he is absent-minded, I will remind him and tell him patiently.
He likes to observe with glasses when doing problems, but he is lazy to do it. I just "listen" and never take notes during class. This is a reflection of his laziness in studying. I clearly know that lazy people can never eat in their studies. So I warned him again and again that I must get rid of the bad habit of laziness. However, he is actually "disobedient". Maybe he doesn't want to try the pain of transformation.
He sometimes gives me a heavy blow. I remember once, I explained several physics exercises to him, which were moderately difficult. When he was listening to the class, he looked a little hard. After I finished, I asked him if he had any questions. He nodded to show that he understood everything. Two days later, in order to test the effect of review, I took out those exercises for him to do. As a result, he was almost "completely annihilated." At that time, I felt as if I had suddenly fallen into a bottomless pit from the temple in the ninth heaven. This is the biggest setback I encountered in the process of tutoring. Afterwards, I have been rethinking: is it my own reason or his? Anyway, it is obvious that he didn't understand those exercises at all. But why would he lie? Through the communication with Uncle Ma, I found the answer: his lazy thought made him give up when he encountered a slightly difficult problem, and he was too lazy to ask questions because he was too lazy to delve into it.
I feel "helpless" in the face of his laziness. The quality of academic performance often depends on the quality of study habits. Laziness is the enemy of study. I don't have any "magic bullet" to change him at once, but I can only urge him from time to time and urge him to become diligent gradually.
The fourth day of separation
In a blink of an eye, he will start school, and I will end my tutor life. His learning attitude is much more correct than before, and he knows that he has worked hard, and the previous problems have basically been solved. This is the effect of my tutoring. His parents are very grateful for my help during this time, and let me call him from time to time to urge him. I will insist on doing so.
Family education reminds me a lot of Dongsi, and I get a lot of feelings. In my opinion, the city and the countryside are two completely different worlds. People who grew up in these two worlds will behave differently in some ways. Children in rural areas have to go to the fields to help their parents do some heavy farm work. They can appreciate the hardships of labor and the hard-won happiness. Therefore, they will not be lazy. On the contrary, in order to live a happier life, I will work and study harder.
Urban families generally live well, and children grow up in such an environment, and individuals will not even suffer. Someone will pick you up after school, all the requirements will be met, and even your room will be cleaned. Life is so comfortable that it is easy to form the habit of laziness.
Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate children's ability to bear hardships from an early age. I think it's a pity that urban children lack as many suffering opportunities as rural children.
The above is my harvest and experience. At the same time, tutoring also made me realize my own shortcomings. These gains and experiences will affect my future study and life, and have a positive impact on my future work.
The article comes from Yingbai.com(ing 100).
Just change the summer vacation to winter vacation, haha