Ten children and nine assistants cannot be overstated. In front of my home is a primary school. There are many classes around the school, including remedial classes, hope classes, excellent classes and placement classes. The advertisement in front of the door is getting brighter and brighter, attracting parents to send their children there.
Among them, English classes are the most and signs are the most. Every weekend or winter and summer vacation, the doors of each class are crowded with parents who pick up or wait for their children, which is bustling and lively. Their teaching is synchronized with the school textbooks and one class ahead of the school's progress.
Because there are only two classes in primary school English every week, and one English teacher teaches four or five classes, most children don't understand it at all. If they don't follow the class, they all go to the remedial class to fake it.
Despite the high price and large classes, parents are still flocking to it. Some parents' knowledge level is not high, and they can cope with tutoring Chinese and math. English is weak, so they can only choose remedial classes. Another part of the knowledgeable parents are more than enough to help themselves, but they are too busy to help themselves, or their children can't help themselves. They don't listen to your explanation. When explaining, chickens fly and dogs jump. Listening to other people's classes is smart.
After entering junior high school, well, unless your children are bullies like Aunt Qian, almost all the children in the class have signed up for remedial classes. English, mathematics, physics and chemistry are all big heads. In elementary school, you may only apply for math or English, but in junior high school, you have to pack up and apply for classes. Children in remedial classes have a hard time studying, let alone getting on. This is the strange status quo of education.
My doll is in the fifth grade, and her grades are not bad. She didn't sign up for the remedial class if she could keep up with the school work. After all, tuition is a big expense every year. But I signed him up for the erhu. In this age of chasing after each other, you always have to learn something to feel that you can compare with others.
I dare not talk nonsense now if I don't apply for junior high school. Maybe some classes are outstanding and some classes are difficult, so I'm going to sign up for remedial classes.
In short, there are still many remedial classes. After all, parents are eager to make their children successful, and they are never willing to spend money on their studies.
There is no need to report for those who have not reported for class, or the doll is a schoolmaster. Either the doll is really not the material for learning, and it won't help to report it. However, even if children really don't want to study, parents still have hope for remedial classes. Whether children learn or not, they will always give one or two. That's it.
The child is in the fifth grade, and it is time to go to the sixth grade this year. I haven't attended remedial classes, because I have been with my grandparents before, and I never care about her study. Later, in the second half of the fifth grade, I scored more than 60 points in English and math units. The teacher also sent me a separate WeChat, asking me to help my children with counseling. Since then, my children have been with me. I have made a daily study plan. Basically, besides school homework, I have to study for an hour and a half. I bought her two English and math learning materials, and combined with the teaching video on BBK learning machine, I got 98 points and 93 points in the final exam. Although it is not very good, I have made great progress compared with her! Why didn't I go to the remedial class?
First, primary school knowledge is relatively simple, parents are fully capable of tutoring their children themselves, and I also have time to tutor!
Second, children don't like to go to remedial classes, because even if they go, they will have to be supervised by their parents to recite or practice when they come back, and they will also take up time on the road!
Third, in general, the price is not cost-effective! The remedial class has to pay a lot of money, but it can't be paid. The most important thing is that children should learn the knowledge in their heads and turn it into their own. If they pay, they must work hard!
To sum up, I don't recommend that primary schools apply for remedial classes, because primary school knowledge is relatively simple and study habits and methods are more important. In fact, as long as you study hard at ordinary times, use your spare time, read more books and cultivate other hobbies, such as painting. , it is possible. Children's time is precious. If you study hard at ordinary times, you can make time to play. If you don't attend classes well and make up lessons after class, you won't read or play.
A long stream of water, learning is actually a more efficient learning method and good study habits! Where can I make up classes if I make up classes at school?
My family is the one that didn't send their children to the remedial class. That's awesome.
Now there is a very strange phenomenon in society: parents fidget without sending their children to remedial classes, fearing that their children will feel inferior and lose at the starting line. (Ha ha, just comforting myself. )
My family is also a wonderful work in this respect. From kindergarten to university, children really didn't spend a penny on remedial classes. But he is a serious schoolmaster, and he is a good student every year from primary school to high school. Primary school and junior high school do not live in school. At night, our parents can watch TV. He can play computer and sleep before 9: 30. Other families don't have so many restrictions and rules. Moreover, with the growth of grade, his study became more and more outstanding, and he was admitted to a good major in 985 University, which is what people call other people's children.
Actually, I didn't say so much to show off. I just want to say a reality, it is not only psychological counseling that has a way out to stand out. Mainly cultivate children's habits from an early age, such as focusing on things, not procrastinating, and enjoying reading. I told my children from kindergarten that the most important thing in class is to listen carefully and speak actively. If these two points are achieved, learning will get twice the result with half the effort. Later, he did preview, doing the questions first, and then attending class with questions ... When other children were tired of coping with their daily homework, sleeping late and having no energy in class, he was just the opposite. Therefore, there are ways to learn. His childhood was much more comfortable than other children.
If we must say that families don't let their children go to remedial classes, then I think the answer should be families who can't afford tuition and families who disdain to go to remedial classes. In fact, conformity is not good, but it is most appropriate to have a way that suits you.
First, such parents themselves are very successful in their own industries and have their own opinions and persistence. In such a family, at least one parent is an elite in the industry, has his own opinions and knows his efforts along the way. There is not much anxiety in my heart at ordinary times. For children, they will have their own opinions.
Usually, such parents are more forward-looking and have different emphases. They will never concentrate on their studies and will never go with the flow to send their children to remedial classes. This kind of family may advance and then look forward to the development of children. Of course, usually the children in this family are not too bad, they must be children with their own ideas.
Second: families with particularly good grades will not send their children to remedial classes. Children have good habits and excellent grades, and they don't need makeup at all.
According to a statistic, 5%- 10% excellent children never make up lessons, and it is impossible to maintain their true Excellence by making up lessons. If your child is not "pseudo" excellent, naturally you don't need to go to a remedial class. This kind of family is of course the happiest.
Of course: apart from being born excellent, parents must have done their homework in the early days, and their children got a good enlightenment and had good study habits.
Third, many families think reading is useless. We will find that some people around us are cynical and think that children's success or future development must not depend on reading. Therefore, since "reading is useless", why bother spending so much money to enroll children in remedial classes?
I have met such parents, who have let their children attend so many remedial classes and pay so much sponsorship fees since childhood, so that their children may not have good results. It is better to save money and start a business for your child in the future. As for reading, children let nature take its course. I support you wherever you can go, so don't give up the remedial class.
Fourth, the Ministry of Education attaches great importance to children and has no strong educational concept. Parents are busy with life all day, but they ignore their children, and there will be no long-term planning. Basically, children are in a state of self-destruction.
Parents in this situation are generally busy, hard-working, or comfortable with the status quo, and the surrounding circles are also in this situation, so parents will not be so aware. Basically stay in "children can eat well and be healthy".
Since I have no idea, I naturally feel that it is not very important to go to the remedial class. Why should I send it to a remedial class and spend that money?
Fifth: There is no remedial class around, how can I go? Naturally, such families will not send their children to remedial classes.
This situation generally occurs in some remote cities or towns, and the remedial classes are not prosperous, and everyone is unconscious. Even if I want to attend a remedial class, I can't. In addition, everyone's ideas are relatively simple, and they will definitely not go to great pains to let their children go to remedial classes. In addition, they don't think their children need to attend remedial classes.
In short: families who don't attend remedial classes have their own reasons and situations, and families who attend remedial classes also have their own reasons, but they can't get around one thing: children's grades are not good or not good enough, they must be staring at their grades, and maybe some families will have such a situation. My parents are in such a hurry that everyone is in class. I can't help going! So in order to have such comfort, I desperately sent my children to remedial classes. Does the child need to make up lessons in the end? There is no absolute need or no need, but it can be said with certainty that "remedial classes are definitely exam-oriented education". All teaching revolves around exams and academic performance. As for how helpful it is to children, there is no real evaluation standard. However, too many injury cram schools, too much spare time occupied by children and the increase of physical and mental stress of children are considered as a result.
Parents should consider the specific situation, but I suggest parents relax their evaluation of their children and don't just stare at the results. For educating children, we must be forward-looking, we must see their strengths and weaknesses, evaluate children with multiple intelligent standards, find advantages in primary schools, make up for some disadvantages, and cultivate advantages appropriately, so that junior high schools and high schools can focus on developing advantages, start making some career plans and academic plans for children, pay attention to their physical and mental health, and let children walk well all their lives.
After all, studying exams is only a part of a child's life, and school education is only a stage of a child's life. Learning ability is king, and only paying attention to grades will definitely suffer. Bless everyone!
I have been engaged in trusteeship classes for 8 years and have brought more than 300 children by myself. Over the years, more than 1000 children have been seen and known in the trusteeship class. What kind of families and parents do I see children who don't go to remedial classes?
First, learn to bully my clever little girl. Let me talk about what impressed me the most about a little girl who never went to a remedial class.
Five years ago, a little girl came to our trusteeship class under the guidance of her mother. She is small, but she looks smart. The little girl's need to come to our custody class is simple, the traffic is safe, there is no homework, but the class discipline is good (this is her mother's requirement).
The little girl's mother was busy, because she couldn't pick her up at noon, so she was put in a custody class. In our many years, this child has never scored 95 points, and he is basically one or two in the class.
She began to accept her mother's request to cultivate reading habits from grade one, and began to read a lot of books and copy and recite good sentences from grade two. Next semester, I suddenly found that she began to learn simple Olympiad by herself. In the third year, she began to practice English more.
Once I asked the little girl how her mother took care of her, and the following dialogue came:
Me: You won't let us check our homework, so mom will go back and help you check it?
She shook her head: I checked it myself, but my mother didn't. If only the teacher corrected it.
Me: Did Mom enroll you in extracurricular classes? For example, those topics you did in the Olympics before?
She: No, it's just that my mother bought me a textbook. Actually, it's not difficult I don't know how to ask my mother and teacher (I do ask us occasionally).
Me: Is Mom usually busy? What do you do when you go back every day?
She: Actually, I just don't have time during the day. In the evening, I just finish my homework, take a bath, read a book and then wash and sleep.
Me: Didn't mom check your study?
She: No, my mother said that studying is my own business. I only look for her when I need it. There is no need to try not to look for her.
I talked to her mother many times. This is a short, thin but energetic mother. She didn't send the little girl to extracurricular classes, not because of her family conditions (her family conditions are quite good), but because she didn't think it was necessary. After all, her daughter is excellent.
Later, I made some conclusions about how such a mother can cultivate such an excellent daughter.
Second, the characteristics of excellent parents combined with other parents who can cultivate excellent children, I came to the following conclusion:
1, I have more confidence in teaching my children well.
2. Have a clear direction on how to train children.
3. The cultivation of children's personality and habits takes precedence over children's learning.
4. Work and life can be managed in an orderly way.
5. The idea of education is to achieve yourself first, and then complete your children.
I have asked some parents who have raised excellent children what they think of their children's study and homework. The mentality of most parents is: study or future work, and even life choice. It's all about the children themselves. What parents can do is to teach them how to choose, not to choose to do it for them or to control their choices.
Therefore, the most agreed point is that children who study well are never "forced out". These children often understand that learning is their own business, and they will learn to adjust and change when learning fluctuates, so as to maintain excellent academic performance for a long time.
Third, can cram schools make up excellent children? Can cram schools "make up" excellent children? My answer is of course, but I can't make up the best.
In fact, many times cram schools are "life-saving drugs" and "fairy grass" for parents who don't know how to raise their children. Because how to teach your children well is beyond their cognition and can only be handed over to cram schools and training institutions.
1. Don't excellent children need cram schools?
In fact, this theory is wrong. I have seen many excellent children go to cram schools, but they have choices and the quantity is not large. In fact, this truth is also very simple. Some level cram schools can teach children some more efficient learning and problem-solving methods. The Excellence of these excellent children lies not in cram schools, but in their own use of cram schools as "tools"
2. Can poor students become excellent through cram schools?
My answer is yes, but this "Excellence" is short-lived. Children's learning problems are closely related to habits, thinking, personality, family and environment. No matter how excellent the cram school is, it can make up for the children's knowledge, but it can't make up for the "defects" in their personality and habits.
Conclusion: All the above are about excellent children. Of course, there are other situations, such as families whose family conditions do not allow, families who think reading is useless, and so on. But these are relatively rare and not worth talking about.
First, we can't afford to send our children to remedial classes. Second, my children don't need to go to remedial classes. From primary school to high school, they can also be called "learning masters". They failed in the college entrance examination because of their comprehensive science. Of the more than 865,000 candidates in the province, 3,800 are enrolled in a fairly good 985 university, and their majors are also the first-class in the school. My son said that none of his classmates who played well (all schoolmates) had attended remedial classes. Children with good habits don't have to go to cram school, and it's no use going to cram school with bad habits. Therefore, parents should not pin their hopes on various remedial classes. The most important thing is to improve yourself and cultivate children's good habits (such as life and study) from an early age, which is stronger than anything else. When their children go to school, they will learn it easily.
My child didn't go to cram school, but went to extra-curricular classes such as Lego, roller skating, calligraphy, chess and eloquence. The main purpose of playing is to help him find the right way to relax.
Many friends and relatives go to cram schools. Although my children are still young and in kindergarten, I still have a say.
My brother's boy, a serious schoolmaster, has never been to a cram school, but he has a talent for learning and a flexible mind, and there is nothing he can do. He still did this in high school. He doesn't stay up late, he doesn't worry, and he doesn't delay playing. Basketball and online games are particularly good.
My friend, a first-grade boy, woke up in the morning and was full all day. He goes to school, has lunch at noon, attends classes in the afternoon and makes up lessons after school. After that, the family in the community picked him up without a license. At night, the parents who worked on both sides took him home first, and then went home to sleep. Let's just say that this child is small and thin, and obviously lags behind other children of the same age in doing problems. He has never missed an influenza-like infectious disease. If it weren't for his mother's gift to the teacher, it is estimated that his family is still making it every week.
Another friend's daughter, in grade six and grade three, has classes in math and English every week except Monday. Her mother is going to make up time and Chinese. The child's personality is ok, but the homework assigned by the school teacher is difficult to finish on time, sometimes it is not finished or not, because it is too busy. Not to mention the after-school homework in the cram school. In short, the counseling effect is not ideal.
Of course, it is also inspirational. A boy from my relative's family got poor grades in culture class. His mother has been mending his art since the first grade. The college entrance examination was admitted to a university in Wuhan, majoring in advertising design. Visual inspection is still promising.
Making up lessons is a matter of different opinions. Parents need to know clearly where their children are and what they really need, instead of blindly following the trend or simply pushing their children's education to extracurricular institutions. This is unrealistic. Fill as many bowls as you have, and don't choose inappropriate ones for the sake of face.
I used to be such a mother. Seeing others go to cram school, I am always afraid that my children can't keep up. I'm afraid I'll suffer if I don't, and I'll also give my children a new concept of English.
New concept English is a classic textbook for decades, which is really worth learning. Later, I found several problems:
First, there are too many children in the class. After all kinds of contacts, their children really have little time to study and waste time.
Second, the teacher's pronunciation is not standard.
Third, the class mode is mechanical.
After careful consideration, I decided to teach myself at home instead of going to cram school.
Because my children have good English ability under my English enlightenment since childhood, there is no need to study mechanically for exams, so I leave more time for reading and reading aloud.
When we get home every day, we will first give our children some snacks and milk, share all kinds of things at school today, and relax our children's mood.
After 20 minutes, the children went back to their rooms to do their homework. Before doing their homework, they briefly review today's lessons and then make plans. They all predict the completion time of each homework and try to finish the homework at the scheduled time so that the children will not procrastinate.
After the homework is finished, the children preview tomorrow's homework according to the tutorial book, and today's study is over.
Before going to bed, we often do parent-child reading, English picture books and Chinese novels. We all watch them together and talk about our experiences.
I think children's good academic performance is due to our good parent-child relationship, more communication, and their cheerful personality, even if they encounter difficulties, they will not give up easily.
Weekends are basically free activities. On Saturday morning, we do the weekend homework that we didn't finish on Friday. On Saturday afternoon, we taught ourselves C++ programming for an hour, and then we played football until evening.
Sunday morning is also free reading or children's code-knocking practice, and afternoon is also football time.
We give our children as much time as possible for physical exercise, and children's good health is the basis for doing anything. Facts have proved that children's academic performance will not be bad, but will be excellent.
Therefore, parents who apply for general counseling and interest counseling, regardless of whether their children are tired or not, have good learning effects? You can think about this problem.
I am Henry's mother after 80s, and share my life after 80s with you, spreading positive energy.
I focus on family education, English enlightenment and computer C++ tutoring.
By my side, I have only met two kinds of parents who don't send their children to remedial classes.
1. Parents who think there are more important things than grades usually take their children to do other things. I know an outdoor sports coach who often takes his son to try all kinds of outdoor sports, such as camping, skiing, climbing trees, zip-rope ... There is also a coach who works as a balance car, who trained his daughter to ride a balance car from an early age, and then a modified off-road motorcycle ... There are also some parents who take their children around the world just to open their eyes.
These parents all have their own hobbies, and this hobby may be their occupation. They combine this hobby with their children's education very well, so they can be said to be good companions for children.
Second, financial difficulties, parents do not have this concept. Because the company's business is mainly in the county, it is found that many children really want to make up lessons, but they give up because of family conditions, and even don't want to talk to their parents about their ideas. In fact, there may be strength at home, but because children often hear their parents worry about money, they don't want to bother their parents.
Some parents think that learning is useless, and even sending their children to school is a waste of money, let alone going to remedial classes.
My side belongs to the countryside, and now there are remedial classes, mainly after-school homework. Interest classes and super-long classes are not popular. Whether you can't attend remedial classes should be related to both parents and children. As far as parents are concerned, some parents may work freely, and some are full-time mothers to accommodate their children. They will tutor their children one-on-one at home, that is, they will accompany their mothers professionally, so such children will not go to remedial classes. On the contrary, parents go to remedial classes because their level is limited, they can't help their children, or they are busy with work. Then there is the reason for the children. Generally, children with good grades can finish their homework on time and with good quality, and there will not be too many make-up classes, but it does not rule out that there are good ones. The rest always sit on the small benches in the class. These students have poor basic knowledge and basic skills, so they are tired of learning. He can't do it himself, so he can't finish his homework at all. Teachers have a headache at school, and parents can't help it at home, so these will be sent to remedial classes. However, even among these students, there are two kinds of people. One is to cope with parents, symbolically complete homework, and improve their grades after a long time. What I fear most is the other kind. In the name of the above remedial classes, there is no class on time at all, and teachers and parents should communicate from time to time. In the end, parents will let nature take its course and will not spend money for him again.
To tell the truth, children nowadays are hard enough. How much time can they rest 24 hours a day? At the end of the day, they immediately went to the remedial class and sat for nearly three hours. I have seen with my own eyes that many children would rather lie down and do their homework than sit down and write. Poor children, they have struggled to survive in a competitive environment since childhood! Strive for success from childhood, work hard when you grow up, and come all the way under high pressure. Your future will wait and see!