The most difficult thing to guess in life is the human heart. The most unavoidable thing in life is daily interactions with relatives and friends around you. The situations in life are different, and we will always face different sad or happy situations.
At this time, it is easy for people to open their eyes and examine who are the true friends and which ones are false. Passers-by who only appear when you are proud of your life to lend your light to the road.
For Qi Gong, he has gone through a long journey of joy and sorrow in life, and has long been accustomed to this situation. He once commented on his relatives: "She bullied us when I was in the most difficult time. Today I am fine, and she always sends people to see me." For a master in Chinese studies and calligraphy circles, what is it like? How could his relatives allow him to comment so ruthlessly?
An enemy yesterday, a guest today
As a famous Chinese master, calligrapher, educator and other multi-faceted figures in modern my country, Qigong has always been frank and never criticized others. A nepotistic person. His vision of people is very accurate, and his vision of things is the same as himself, clear-cut, frank and direct.
He could never tolerate sand in his eyes, but when anger surged into his heart, he did not care at all. When he rises to prominence, he will not stir up disputes again over past hatreds.
But for some people who remember the old grudges and see Qi Gong’s achievements today and want to reconcile, Qi Gong’s attitude towards them is very obvious, and he will kill them after getting angry. When he was thrown out of the house, Qi Gong's friend happened to see such a thing.
One day, an uninvited middle-aged man and woman knocked on the door and entered Qi Gong's house with gifts. When they saw Qi Gong, they beamed and said bluntly: "When I came to visit you last time, you I happened to be away from home. I had to leave two boxes of American ginseng. Do you still have any impression? My mother was worried about your health and asked us to come here to visit. "
No matter what. What the mother meant was their original intention. After hearing this, Qi Gong immediately became angry because this mother reminded him of many past events.
Qi Gong's face suddenly changed. He pointed to the corner without thinking and said frankly: "There are a bunch of American ginseng there. Find which one is yours and take it back to your mother." Faced with Qi Gong's attitude, the two of them Of course they looked at each other and couldn't get off the stage. He looked embarrassed where he was, and finally sighed and turned around to leave.
Faced with this situation, his friend persuaded Qi Gong not to get angry. However, for Qi Gong, this old grudge is really deep-rooted. Qi Gong said to his friends with anger, "Because you don't know the reason, it's okay if they don't mention his mother, but he is My mother remembered those things from the past, and I couldn't swallow my breath. At that time, I was in the most difficult time. Her mother came to our door all day long and tried to harass us again and again without any reason, either in front of us or in front of us. The bad things said behind my back were very unpleasant. It was during the ten years of turmoil, and of course I was not spared. She actually took pleasure in bullying me and my husband. Now that my situation has improved, she keeps asking her children to visit me. Do you think this is still a human being? Can he still be considered a member of the same tribe? "
Old grudges
After hearing these words, my friend naturally knew that Mr. Qi Gong was so big. Anger must have its reasons, anger is inevitable. From Mr. Qi Gong's words, we also learned that the mothers of these two people are from the same family as Mr. Qi Gong, and they have a certain blood relationship with each other.
What many people don’t know is that Mr. Qigong was actually a member of the Aisin Gioro family, a royal family during the Qing Dynasty. However, he has always been resistant to the surname Aixinjueluo, which also affected his attitude towards his tribe. Mr. Qi Gong's "disrecognition of his ancestors" affected his relationship with other tribesmen, which also led to the subsequent attitude of his relatives towards him.
With this kind of kinship, the people of the Aixinjueluo family did not support each other, but instead added insult to injury when he was in danger, which was really disappointing.
For Mr. Qi Gong, the slander and slander of others will not make him so angry. In fact, the main reason is that this relative once bullied his wife, which Mr. Qi Gong will never forgive in his life. matter.
Everyone knows that Mr. Qi Gong's attitude towards his wife is well known. Everyone knows that Mr. Qi Gong respects his wife very much.
After the two of them got married, in the eyes of others and Mr. Qi Gong, his wife Zhang Baochen's contribution to the family was obvious.
For example, Mr. Qi Gong’s mother and aunt were taken care of by his wife independently during their serious illness. Qi Gong also saw this and kept it in his heart.
Later, his wife unfortunately passed away and he did not find another partner. He remained faithful to him until death and never married. It can be seen that the two of them have a deep affection, and Mr. Qi Gong also regards his wife as the most important person in the world. However, his wife had been bullied by relatives, so Mr. Qi Gong would never forgive her.
The relatives who despise others and praise others
In addition to this incident, Qi Gong and his people still have countless old enemies. However, it is very difficult to live with so much hatred in this world. Mr. Qi Gong has not forgotten those past events that made him unbearable. Just because he has not pursued them, does not mean that he will forget them.
As for the old grudges with relatives, it would be better if they could keep each other against each other and not have any contact with each other until they die. Anyway, they have already broken the skin. Old grudges can also be resolved through actions, but some people only think of "burying the hatchet" when they see others have achieved something. This means that they have not truly reflected on themselves and want to reconcile. The transformation is rather annoying.
For example, in the case of Qi Gong, if Qi Gong had been living at a low ebb in his life, would his relatives still think of him giving him American ginseng and want to settle the feud with him?
For Qi Gong, the essence of this matter still lies in the bad intentions that people have had since ancient times: "undermining the low and applauding the high".
Each of us actually knows that what we need most is not a friend who can add beauty to the cake, but someone who can give you warm charcoal fire in the snow. Moreover, as a true relative or friend, they should accompany you through the lows and highs of your life.