You may never have thought in your mind: If a person is particularly lazy, how lazy can he be? Whether it is the theory of good nature proposed by Mencius or the theory of evil nature advocated by Xunzi, in short, there are no people in this world who are born hardworking, and certainly no people who are born lazy. But one thing that cannot be ignored is that in this huge world, there are always no two identical leaves, and the same is true for humans. The differences between people are actually fundamentally influenced by society and family.
A 23-year-old young man in Henan named Yang Suo was too lazy and eventually starved to death. Yang Suo's laziness to death is more or less a reflection of family and society on Yang Suo. But as far as I know, before the age of 23, Yang Suo had been in a closed state for more than 20 years. Therefore, it was actually family factors that had the greatest impact on Yang Suo's death from starvation. In short, Yang Suo's laziness can be seen as excessive pampering by his parents.
There is nothing wrong with Yang Suo’s parents’ love for their sons, and all children need the meticulous care that Yang Suo’s parents had in childhood, but how to transform this meticulous care into other forms of love? , and then impose it on children. This is common sense in life that parents should think about. While caring for children, we should let them understand the value and significance of fate, and then urge them to explore the value and significance of fate themselves, help them cultivate correct values, and avoid "dying before they grow up."
When I heard this sentence, I don’t know how many people, like me, were yearning for Yang Suo’s beautiful state of being “handsome, smart, and hard-working”. How many people didn’t want to hear that? Once the word "laziest" is related to laziness, the handsome appearance and intelligent brain given to this person by God and genes will be almost a waste. The most thorough explanation of Yang Suo's death must be the evaluation of him by his fellow villagers: "Yang Suo's death was completely caused by his parents."
Yang Suo, who was starved to death at the age of 23, is from Baoan Village, Zhutang Township, Luoshan County, Henan Province. He has been regarded as a weirdo by the local people because of his unusual laziness since he was a child. After all these years, I have never seen anyone lazier than Yang Suo. It is said that Yang Suo's name also has a story. In order to keep their son by their side forever, the parents gave their son the single word "Suo" based on their surname. Growing up, Yang Suo was either held in the arms of his parents or carried on a burden.
Yang Suo, like other people of the same age, carried his schoolbag to school in the east end of the village when he was old enough to go to school. According to the teachers who taught Yang Suo, Yang Suo was indeed very smart, but the teachers did not dare to be harsh on him. Once Yang Suo felt disgusted, he would tell his parents after school. She over-indulges and protects her children, and often takes her children to school indiscriminately, wanting to ask for an explanation from a certain teacher. Since parents are so worried, why bother sending their sons to study?
Before the age of 13, Yang Suo also tried to work in the fields and do things within his ability like other children. However, due to lack of patience and parents' over-protection of their sons, Yang Suo often failed. Lock has never been able to complete one thing. What kind of embarrassing situation do you often find yourself in? Sometimes, Yang Suo is trying to do something, but during the process, as soon as his parents see Yang Suo taking action, they will say to him, "Just go and play, don't get tired." That's it. .
When Yang Suo was 13 years old, his father unfortunately passed away due to long-term liver disease. In most families in China, the death of his father was almost a devastating blow to the family, not to mention Yang Suo. The family is still an ordinary family in the countryside.
But then I thought about it, my father's death may have inspired Yang Suo. At least his mother would have started to let Yang Suo try because of the heavy burden of life. But the reality afterwards was really a slap in the face, even though his mother asked Yang Suo to do farm work. , but Yang Suo is really lazy.
And what else happened after that? Whenever Yang Suo disagreed with her, he would be verbal or violent towards his mother. In order to maintain the livelihood of mother and son, the mother has been doing farm work and taking care of housework for several years. There is no sense of ambition in such a life. However, looking at Yang Suo who has finally grown up, the mother is really unwilling to swallow it in advance. Let go of this resentment. Keren's body is not made of steel. Years of hard work eventually made Yang Suo's mother sick from overwork, and she passed away when she was eighteen years old.
18 years old is already the age of adulthood, but Yang Suo has developed a habit of laziness in the past 18 years, which is basically a habit that cannot be changed in this life. As a cousin, Yang Yude could not care about the life and death of his relatives, so he took the initiative to move Yang Suo to his residence. The cousin's family was not rich, and he had to go out to work every day to earn some living expenses. As soon as he moved to his cousin's place, Yang Suo let his cousin forcefully drag him to the construction team. However, due to more than ten years of laziness, Yang Suo would run home by himself every time.
The villagers saw him as pitiful, so they found someone to introduce him to a hotel in the county to work as a waiter. At that time, the villagers thought: Since the construction team couldn't move bricks, let others do it. It’s always easier to hold a plate and serve a dish! To the surprise of everyone in the village, after Yang Suo arrived at the hotel, he still looked like he was doing nothing and doing nothing all day long. There was nothing he could do about it. Yang Suo was really unsatisfied. Seeing him looking like he was used to being lazy, the hotel was in a hurry. The Queen of Heaven sent someone to send him back, and his fate actually ended here.
Although he was staying at his cousin's house, his financial situation was also very tight, and it was not easy to maintain his food and clothing. However, Yang Suo was not satisfied with the meager life in front of him. He actually sold all the valuable belongings of his parents during their lifetimes. After selling, he had no food to eat, so the young man in his early 20s went from door to door begging for food. The people in the village saw him as pitiful and would often give him some lettuce and raw meat. But what he looked like when they gave it to him would be the same the next time he went there.
Everyone guessed the time after Yang Suo separated from his parents and cousin. How did you spend it? People in the same village have deep memories. Because he was too lazy, Yang Suo would ask for enough food every time he begged, trying to eat enough at once; then Yang Suo would lie down and sleep, sometimes for two or three times in a row. Yang Suo was nowhere to be seen; summer was fine, but winter was hard to escape. In the end, Yang Suo froze to death and starved to death in his bed, never coming out to beg for food again.
You may have read the ending between the lines. Following the death of his parents, Yang Suo then ushered in the tragic ending of "starving to death". The so-called love can kill people. In fact, this is the doting of parents on their children. While endlessly instilling doting on their children, they have actually wrongly guided their children to form the value of dependence. Before Yang Suo's parents passed away, Yang Suo's existence might still be meaningful. At least to his parents, he was the closest person to them in the world.
But the death of Yang Suo's parents actually foreshadowed Yang Suo's subsequent helpless end. Although after his parents passed away, his fellow villagers and neighbors would help him from time to time. Meals were delivered, but did Yang Suo need ready-made meals? What he needs is that the fellow villagers can bring hot food to his mouth with chopsticks and a spoon. If the fellow villagers can fulfill his wish, Yang Suo will definitely not end up starving to death. But if you were faced with such a person, would you choose to feed him?
Yang Suo is "superfluous" to society. His existence and death are really the "lighter than a feather" described by Mr. Sima Qian in "Historical Records", because Yang Suo has no personal value to society at all. Yan, if this is the case, then his death is not a pity.
Of course, the person involved and future generations can naturally understand something from "Yang Suo's death": the existence of a person who only knows how to take but not how to give is absolutely meaningless. Such people, represented by Yang Suo, don't even understand struggle, so how can they talk about dedicating the value of life?