Li Jing, whose morale is stable, makes her mother understand the righteousness.
Li Jingrang (about 789-860) was a minister and calligrapher in the middle of the Tang Dynasty. In the 10th year of Yuanhe in Tang Xianzong (8 15), a scholar, a duke in Jiuquan County, died as a gift to Prince Taibao, and posthumous title was "filial". Liu Shao, a politician of the Five Dynasties, commented: "The scenery makes you ambitious, and your loved ones are filial, and you are upright and have no taboos." His achievements in life benefited from his mother's teaching.
His mother, Zheng, was widowed in her early years, with three young children. Zheng shouldered the burden of raising children alone, and managed the family strictly.
When the family started to be poor, one day, the wall behind the Li family's house collapsed because of the rain, and a lot of money hidden in the wall was exposed. The handmaid happily ran to tell Zheng that Zheng came to the wall to burn incense and pray, saying, "I heard that getting something for nothing will bring about my own destruction." God must have given this money because of my late husband's accumulated virtue and compassion for us. " I hope these children who have lost their fathers can learn something one day, which is also their ambition. But I dare not take this money. "So people buried money underground and rebuilt the city wall.
Under the guidance of Zheng, Jingrang, Jingzhuang and his three sons all became scholars, especially Li Jingrang. But even if his son has grown up, Zheng, who is very strict with his son, will still remember to teach his son a lesson and whip them when they make mistakes.
For example, when Li Jingrang was an observer in western Zhejiang, a tooth would disobey his orders. In a rage, Li Jing asked to send him to kill. The soldiers in the army were angry and planned to defect. After hearing this, Zheng sat in the lobby and asked about it personally, and reprimanded Li Jingrang in public and said, "The son of heaven gives you the power to safeguard the peace of one party." How can you kill innocent people according to your own emotions? " If one party is unhappy, you are not only guilty of the son of heaven, but also ashamed of your mother. What are you taking to see your father? "Say, let the left and right attendants take off Li Jingrang's clothes and whip him on the back.
Seeing this, the soldiers came forward to intercede for them. When Zheng refused, the soldier asked again, and Zheng spared Li Jingrang. Because of this incident, the anger in the army subsided.
Zheng, a diligent and honest mother, is pragmatic.
Zheng's father was a general in the Northern Zhou Dynasty and a native of Kaifeng County. When Zheng was nine years old, his father died and Zheng was knighted. In the early years of Wendi, Wendi entered Wude County. At the age of fourteen, the official worshiped Yizhou secretariat and turned to Lu County as a satrap. During the Sui Dynasty, Yang Di tied for the first place with Fan Zigai, the satrap of Wuwei. The official of the Tang Dynasty was the son of Prince Zuo Shu, who was appointed Duke of Xingyang County. Later, he was appointed as a proofreader of Dali Qing and concurrently served as Minister of Civil Affairs. He is law-abiding and has a great reputation.
His mother, Cui Shi, was widowed at the age of 20, virtuous and intelligent, and adhered to principles. Because she has read many books, she knows how to deal with local affairs.
When Zheng was 14 years old, he worshipped Yizhou as an official. Every time Zheng went to the hall to handle government affairs, Cui Shi sat on the Hu bed behind the screen and listened, because he was worried that his son was young and inappropriate. If he heard that his son's anatomy was reasonable, Cui Shi would be happy to return to Nassera. If he hears that it is unfair or angry at will, Cui Shi will cover himself with a quilt and cry when he returns to Nacella, and will not eat all day. At this time, Zheng knelt in front of the bed and repented, afraid to get up.
Seeing his son's attitude, Cui Shi got out of bed and said, "I'm not angry with you, I'm ashamed of the Zheng family. I have been doing housework since I married the Zheng family, so I know the character of the Zheng family. Your late father was a loyal and diligent man. He is an honest and clean official, never favoring personal interests, and finally showed himself to the country. I hope you have the same personality as your father. You became an orphan at an early age, and I am a widow with love but no dignity. If this makes you ignorant of manners and training, how can you inherit your father's true qualities as a loyal minister? And when I was a child, I inherited the title, and the officials were government officials. Did you get it on your own? Why are you angry without thinking? If you are willful and proud, you will delay political affairs. "
In order to make his son understand the truth, Cui Shi also tried to teach him. She often spins and weaves alone until midnight. Facing his son's puzzled question, Cui Shi told him that his current salary was earned by the emperor in return for his father's sacrifice for the country, and he should give it to his relatives to show his father's kindness, rather than letting his wife and children enjoy it alone. "Moreover, spinning and weaving are women's responsibilities. From the queen to the wives of doctors and scholars, everyone has their own things to do. If you are lazy, you will be proud and indulgent. Although I don't know manners, can I ruin my reputation? "
Since she was widowed, Cui Shi has been wearing clothes made of coarse silks and never walked out of the door casually. Life is also very frugal, and wine and meat can't be served casually, except for offering sacrifices to ancestors or entertaining guests. All things, if they are not made by themselves, produced by their own manor, given by the emperor, even by relatives, are not allowed to enter their own doors.
Under the guidance of his mother, Zheng Yisheng was a clean and honest official, not extravagant. When he worked in many places, he brought his working meals from home and did not accept any subsidies provided by the government. They were used to repair damaged houses in yamen and distributed to colleagues and subordinates in need. Emperor Yang Di sent Zhang Heng, an ancient scholar, to comfort him, and rated his achievements as the best in the world, so he was awarded the post of Guangluqing.
Chen Yaozi, both civil and military, was still reprimanded by his mother.
China's 1,300-year imperial examination produced 24,000 scholars with one * * *, while Chen Shenghua in Langzhong, Sichuan in the Northern Song Dynasty produced four scholars, two of whom were top scholars and three were equal.
The owner of this family is Chen Shenghua, who used to be an advice doctor from official to left, and gave it to Prince Shao Shi and Duke Guo of Qin as a gift after his death. Wife Feng, madam. His eldest son, Chen Yaosou, was the number one scholar in the second year of Duangong in Song Taizong (989). Later, he became a powerful prime minister with Pingzhang and Tang Tang ranking. The second son, Chen Yaozuo, was born a scholar, and later became a bachelor of Hanlin, a council official, an envoy and an official. He was also given the surname of Prince, and eventually became a fellow (prime minister) under the Zhongshu School. The third son, Chen Yaozi, was the top scholar of the Gengzi family in Song Zhenzong Xianping for three years (1000), and later worked for me. Among the three sons, Chen Yaozi is famous for being both civil and military.
The three brothers and their father are diligent in politics and loyal to the country in their respective posts, and have made great achievements. Sima Guang, a politician and writer in the Northern Song Dynasty, praised the Chen family: "The three sons have one after another, and the descendants have multiplied. Most of them can be American officials and spread Chinese and foreign chess. Therefore, those who claim to be the richest in the world will be promoted. "
The achievements of Chen's third son can not be separated from the strict teaching of Chen Shenghua and Mrs. Feng. Feng said, "Xunzi has the power of discipline, and the home has the cream of the straight government." When his son was young, Feng would accompany him to study every night and strictly supervise his study. After his sons grew up to be extremely important officials, Feng still strictly disciplined them, forbidding them from extravagance and waste and opposing their pursuit of fame and fortune on the basis of thrift. Feng also takes the lead in setting an example every day and takes three daughters-in-law to cook.
During his stay in Jingdezhen, Song Zhenzong, Chen Yaozi was appointed as our special envoy in Jingnan. When he had enough to eat, he went home. Feng asked him what outstanding achievements he had made in the local area. Because he is good at shooting, the world regards him as a god, and often calls himself a "small" person (note: Yang, a Chu man in the Warring States period, shot an arrow in every shot), so he replied: "Jingnan is located in the main traffic road, and there is a banquet every day. I sometimes take pleasure in archery with a bow, and all the guests at the table are amazed. "
Hearing this, Feng scolded, "Your father taught you to be loyal and filial to your country, but you didn't take it as your duty to practice benevolent government. Instead, you took pleasure in showing off your insect carving skills. How can this be worthy of your father's teaching? " After that, he raised his crutch and beat his son, inadvertently breaking the "goldfish bag" that the emperor gave him.
From the above three historical stories, we can easily see that mothers play a very important role in the growth of children. How can a son not become a useful person with a strict mother who values moral education?