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My enterprise teacher paid three experiences, one of which was handled well and the other two were not successful.
Let's talk about it first Master Wang can't cook after he is single. After consulting with his children, he will find a nanny in his forties. Julian Waghann has a good personality. He went out for breakfast, left early and cooked dinner at noon. During Master Wang's lunch break, the nanny played mahjong for a long time and ate some leftovers for dinner.
Master Wang is clever. If the nanny has school holidays, she can come and live with him and take care of the food. Children buy new clothes and gifts for nannies on New Year's Day, and help nannies in their seventies bathe. They may promise to give another sum of money until they are old. Some people say that it is more than100000, but housing is not given.
The other two were teachers and soon hooked up with the nanny. Some of them saved money, but it didn't last long. Due to the change of life rules, people in their sixties are not as healthy as before, and as a result, they get sick. During the hospitalization, the nanny ran away, because it was better than saying nothing and being angry with her daughter. Before, she ignored her daughter if she had money or illness, and ignored her daughter if she had no money.
Also, a teacher is underpaid and stingy. His daughter is in front of me: how useless it is to him. One yuan for Chinese New Year is not for granddaughters, but only for grandchildren.
After living behind her daughter's back for less than half a year, the nanny went to find her daughter. It turned out that the nanny knew that he had traveled all day and came home to see an empty home. He found people and drove them all away. Because I have lived together, I can only bear it, and my daughter can't help but buy it again.
Once you get the certificate, you have to divide the property, but you can't obey the rules. A woman of fifty is a flower in front of a man of seventy.
If the purpose is to find a nanny to do housework, the problem of being young and old is not big, as long as it can meet the requirements of the employer. In fact, the age of nannies in the labor market is generally 40 to 50 years old, and older men are not even willing to find older ones.
If a 70-year-old man wants to take care of a nanny, if he wants to take care of a nanny in his 65 s and 70 s to avoid suspicion, he will go to the labor agency market to ask how a woman of this age can come out to be a nanny, and his answer is no. In the end, he only chose a nanny in her fifties, which made the society criticize again. More than 70 people found a nanny in her fifties with impure motives.
Nanny's home care is generally an elderly person alone or an elderly family. Many lonely old people are taken care of by nannies, and some of them have developed feelings with nannies in their long life. Both sides are also intentional, and the nanny relationship has become a cohabitation partnership or a husband-and-wife relationship. This kind of thing is not uncommon, but it can't be concluded that the old man is alone and the nanny can't find a big age difference.
No matter how old the nanny is, as long as there is no wild desire, the nanny always maintains the relationship between the employer and the client. Nanny does housework diligently, takes care of the elderly enthusiastically, is careful and responsible, and the elderly are very satisfied with life and happy. This is also the reason why the old man found a good nanny. Don't worry, you get paid every month, and you can also add red envelopes when you are willing to celebrate the New Year.
Nannies and employers can cherish this life based on mutual trust and sincerity, which is a kind of happiness. Once the relationship between the employer and the nanny is crossed, only the two sides can understand whether the future life is happy or sad or bitter or sweet. This result is basically happy in front of them and then sad.
If an old man really has no other ideas (you know), don't hire a young nanny, and trouble will follow.
My neighbor Uncle Geng is in good health. I was seventy years old last year, and my wife died of illness for two years. My children can still be filial, but they all have to go to work and no one can take care of them every day. What shall we do? I looked for two older nannies (both around 60 years old), which were not bad at first, but they were all dismissed for various reasons. Later, my hometown in the countryside introduced a woman in her forties to his home as a nanny, which was not bad at first. The children didn't object and the old man was very satisfied. The problem is that half a year has passed and there has been a lot of noise. The old man's retirement salary is more than 6000 yuan, giving the nanny 4000 yuan, subsidizing his grandson to go to school 1000, and leaving 1000 as living expenses, which makes him very nervous. The old man had to use his savings to pay for water, electricity and gas. So old people and nannies simply can't afford it. What should I do? I had to use the deposit of 2000 yuan and ***3000 yuan as the meal. This lasted for more than a year. It happened in winter. It's very cold this year. It's freezing, and the door is blocked by heavy snow. The old man asked for a nanny to accompany him to bed, but the nanny said yes, but he needed to borrow 20 thousand yuan for his son's marriage. When asking for money, the old man's daughter found the problem. Because the old man's savings are kept by his daughter. The old man's repeated demands for money aroused the children's vigilance. Why do you need money every day? At first, the old man hesitated, but the nanny told the reason for accompanying the bed. Tearing his hair out about several childishness, one after another demanded dismissal. The nanny said that if she couldn't do it, she would have to pay 50,000 yuan, otherwise it would go away. Make a scene, the child is afraid of shame. Whether you ask or not, it's no good going on like this. What did we do? Finally, the neighbors helped solve it. Is to dismiss the nanny and give up the 20 thousand yuan that the old man promised to borrow. At this time, the old man was also afraid of making a big shame, and immediately agreed. Although the nanny didn't agree happily, it didn't do much good to be made a big fuss by the public, so she signed it. This matter has been quarrelling for two months and finally comes to an end.
At the beginning, the old people should respect themselves and love themselves, and don't have any bad ideas. They should either find a wife honestly or live a decent life, and don't find a young nanny to accompany them to bed. These things can't be done. Old partners and readers have different opinions to exchange.
Is it more troublesome for single elderly men to hire young nannies? It doesn't make sense.
Nannies range in age from young to twenties to sixties. Nanny has a living bag, food and shelter, and an hourly worker. Services range from cooking and buying food to doing all the housework and caring for the elderly. Take the live-in nanny as an example, which generally includes taking care of the daily life of the elderly and contracting all the housework. It's hard, and old people may not be competent. Young and capable nannies are still very popular with employers, and attractive nannies are naturally favored by men, but young nannies are not necessarily willing to serve bad old men. So the live-in nannies on the market are basically middle-aged and elderly people. Some families have financial difficulties and simply come out to make money; Some avoid marriage, some are alone, come out to see the world and find opportunities to get married. Even if the old man has an idea about the nanny, the nanny may not value it. The so-called troubles are nothing more than problems involving love and money. Living under the same roof for a long time, two of a kind, no matter she is young or old, some sparks are normal. The law does not prohibit nannies from marrying single elderly people. I'm afraid the nanny was full of ulterior motives from the beginning, seducing the elderly. The old man was still in the dark, cheated by the nanny, and the dumb ate coptis chinensis. Nannies nowadays are also very open-minded. In addition to earning wages, some also comfort the elderly with their bodies. Those who have families, in order to live a happy life, do not hesitate to break up with their husbands and fall in love with male employers. This situation may be troublesome. In extreme cases, the nanny's ex-husband and children came to the door to fight, causing a storm in the city; Some nannies are more open and directly become sleeping nannies and enjoy the treatment of their wives. They have no shame, only greed. Some have drained employers of their hard-earned money, and once they leave, employers have no reason to live.
Whether there is trouble or not is mainly decided by the employer. I just hire people to do housework, take care of my daily life and stand the temptation. It's no use for the nanny to have any more wild ideas. Employers are paranoid, lucky and cheating, and nannies have an opportunity, so the probability of natural accidents is high and there are many troubles. It is not that the nanny was in trouble when she was young, and it was an accident that the old nanny was disobedient and had evil thoughts.
I think what you said is quite reasonable.
Many old people find a nanny to take care of themselves when their wives die in their later years, especially male old people like to find a young nanny, which is understandable and relieves their children's worries.
However, some people are nominally looking for a nanny. In fact, this nanny has several jobs, and everyone knows that it is a real husband-wife relationship.
Some old people look for nannies who are twenty or thirty years apart from themselves, saying that they are nannies, but they are actually living together. There are a lot of troubles in this way. First, injury ethics. They are not a generation at all, which makes people point fingers and is immoral. Second, the nanny's goal is your property. If you don't have a qualitative statement, the nanny may transfer the property. In the future, children will definitely not give up, and they will definitely make a hullabaloo about and even go to court to solve it. In this way, the affection will be gone, and you will become a loner when you are old.
Therefore, we must be careful when looking for a nanny, and then decide whether to find a wife or a real nanny after careful consideration. I hope to think twice.
Do you think it's reasonable for old men not to hire young nannies?
Older people can hire male nannies, so there will be no more trouble. Hire a nanny because you have an idea about a nanny, want to take advantage of them, or want to do something unclear and warm, so that you will be honest and have no troubles.
Some old people don't respect the elderly, think that the nanny is easy to bully, want to give her money, or want the nanny to double it for him, so they talk nonsense and embarrass the nanny. Xiao Li works as a nanny at Uncle Wang's house. Uncle Wang is an old cadre. For years, he felt lonely and unbearable at home. At the age of 83, he fell ill and was taken care of by nanny Xiao Li.
Xiao Li is a 50-year-old aunt, who is conscientious and responsible in her work. She washes the old man's face four times a day, once when she gets up in the morning, once when she sleeps after a middle-aged meal, once when she wakes up at noon and once after lunch. She told me that it was more troublesome because it didn't take long to wash your face.
The trouble is that the nanny has to take care of the elderly 24 hours a day and can't leave for too long. I can't stand it after a long time. Unlike other jobs, it has a sense of time. If there is trouble, only the owner can find a nanny.
Xiao Li went to uncle Wang's house as a nanny. At first, uncle saw that Xiao Li was honest and would do it. He thought that if he gave her some money, he would sleep with him, because the family was very big and there were only two of them. Grandpa asked Xiao Li to accompany him at night and he gave her money. Money other than salary.
Xiao Li told him not to talk nonsense like this. Although I am a nanny, I earn clean money. At work, if you are not satisfied, you can raise it. If you want to make such a request, I will tell your son to pay me and leave.
Uncle Wang said, I'm sorry, don't tell my son, forget what I said, the old lake has passed, ok? Because I am your son's nanny, I forgive you once, because you are an old man, I don't care. Although I am from the countryside, I don't want you to scold Xiao Li for disrespecting him.
Be honest and upright, and you won't be in trouble. Uncle Wang wants to take advantage of Aunt Xiao Li. After being scolded by Aunt Xiao Li, he never dared to talk nonsense again. He respects her, too. I will still give him a red envelope like my own child during the Spring Festival.
Aunt Xiao Li is also dedicated to the elderly. Under the care of Aunt Xiao Li, all the sons, daughters and grandchildren went home. Uncle Wang is very grateful to Xiao Li. Without her, the children won't go home for dinner because they can't cook. Only eating out, no popularity at home.
As long as you do well, others have nothing to say. The trouble is that some people are greedy for money, and being greedy is even more troublesome. The trouble is caused by themselves, and sometimes it can be solved simply and rudely.
However, if possible, it is better to hire someone who suits you, such as a woman, a nanny and a man, so as to avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles.
It is not much trouble for an old man to hire a young nanny, but it depends on how to correctly handle the relationship between the two. Take the example around me as an example. A few years ago, there were two widowed veteran cadres in my unit, one surnamed Zhao and the other surnamed Hu. Zhao Lao is over 70 years old and has hired a nanny who is over 50 years old. This nanny looks fair and diligent. Zhao Lao fell in love with her and said he would marry her. Despite the opposition of his children, he began to fly with her. Since then, trouble has come. The nanny asked for a gold necklace and bracelet and high-end clothes. Zhao Lao satisfied her. Later, the nanny's son was going to get married and asked Zhao Lao to help buy a house, and asked Zhao Lao to give him money when he got married. Her relatives came regularly and sent red envelopes. After several years of tossing down, Zhao Lao's old family was hollowed out, and he had the cheek to borrow money from the unit's financial office. Not only did the pension be spent, but people were also sick and admitted to the hospital. The nanny went to wait on them for three days, resigned and went back to her hometown. Later, the children waited on me, and I followed my eldest daughter after discharge. In less than a year, I died.
Hu Lao also hired a young nanny, but the situation was different. Hu is honest. I usually practice calligraphy, painting and writing poems at home, and the nanny buys food, cooks and cleans. He abides by his duties and gets along well, but he does not cross the bottom line.
Hu Laofa's painting in a circle of friends
This problem cannot be generalized. Ask the young nanny to work happily and cleanly.
There are generally two kinds of people who hire nannies. One is middle-aged, with a good family life and relative wealth. Because you are busy with your work, find a nanny to help with the housework or help with the children's problems at home.
Looking for a nanny usually goes to a labor service company. They have ready-made people, choose their age, how much to pay a month, sign a contract with the labor service company, and then you take it away. I found it on the street. Such a nanny is unreliable. If something is lost, or the work is not responsible, there is no way to solve it.
It is said that finding a beautiful young nanny has certain benefits, and I am happy to see beautiful women every day, but it is really easy to go wrong. Over time, it is easy to have feelings and cause conflicts at home. Many men looking for nannies have sex with young nannies, which leads to family breakdown and divorce. It's really prone to problems. Looking for a beautiful young nanny, you should ask your wife for permission to avoid problems.
The second is to find a nanny who can accompany you to eat and live, just like finding a wife. They don't register to get married, don't accompany you to eat, live and sleep, and how much do they pay the nanny every month, but most old people are willing to find a younger one. Last year, I wrote on the Internet that there was an 84-year-old man in our local area who wanted to find a 53-year-old rural nanny to stay with him. This is not easy to go wrong. It won't cause any trouble, but the elderly must take good care of valuables, gold and silver jewelry, or the savings discount in their children's hands to avoid problems, because the elderly are old and careless about such problems, and their children should often come to the elderly to look after them and ask about their nannies to avoid being deceived by the elderly.
In short, finding a young nanny has the advantages of being young, but it costs more money and has certain risks. Men must have some control.
This situation sometimes makes sense, and some situations don't make much sense.
1, an old man with quality and morality, please find a young nanny with good quality, and be lucky and win more.
2, the poor quality, poor moral character of the elderly, please hire a good quality young nanny, nanny soon resigned.
3. Old people with good quality should invite young female nannies with poor quality, and they will be dismissed soon.
4, the quality of the two sides is poor, each with his own ulterior motives, each going his own way, family members are restless, go to court, children are dissatisfied, and lose several times.
Looking for a nanny now still needs to be targeted. For a family, as a hostess, I really don't want my nanny to be young and beautiful. As long as it is clean and can work, it hardly matters whether it looks like it or not.
There are certainly many waitresses who have this idea. Because they know that a beautiful young nanny is always good, but there are also some hidden dangers. I won't elaborate here.
Let's just say that older men are looking for nannies. No matter how old or young men hire nannies, they definitely like young and beautiful ones. Why can't older men find young women as nannies?
As long as men are willing to pay and women are willing to accept the job, there will be no trouble. As long as both sides are willing to take what they need, why bother?
Is to find an older woman to be a nanny. Isn't that the same process? In reality, as long as both parties are willing and the price is reasonable, the rest is nothing.
When in trouble, it's about money. The reason why an elderly man wants to find a nanny is that no one takes care of him. Otherwise, if you have a wife and children, it is generally impossible to hire a nanny unless the family conditions are better.
An old man wants to find a nanny, and he will definitely choose what he likes. Of course, the younger the better. No matter from which aspect, from the man's point of view, as long as the hired nanny is willing and likes, it is ok.
Do you want everything? As long as the nanny hired by a man satisfies the man, the purpose is achieved.
As the question says, it is better for an old man not to hire a young nanny, which is a lot of trouble. But I feel that this statement is true and not practical.
What kind of nanny an old man asks, outsiders have no right to interfere. Old men are human beings, and they like young and beautiful ones. It's all about spending money. Why do you want to find an old and ugly woman to be a nanny?
Finding a young and beautiful woman as a nanny can not only help the elderly solve their difficulties in life, but also make them young and full of confidence in life. Because a beautiful young nanny will give him hope and confidence to start his life again.
For a beautiful young woman, as an old man, or even any man, anything is welcome. What's more, the old man is a nanny who pays for it. No matter how much it costs, as long as the nanny is willing and the elderly are willing, there is nothing wrong with it. Find a beautiful young nanny to wait on yourself. The old man is happy. What's the trouble?