Some time ago, I began to feel calm, learned to live in peace, and looked at various phenomena in life calmly. All the weirdness and injustice in the world are analyzed with a dialectical attitude. Comfort others, keep a calm mind when you are angry, and try to control yourself when you are emotional; when doing things for others, don’t think about how the other person should repay you, but think more about whether you like them? Do it, pay it, and don’t care what you get in return. , self-psychological satisfaction and comfort are better than anything else. I am also working hard to implement my ideas, so after every effort, I am very happy to see the other party benefiting. Occasionally, a thank you, a compliment, or even a trusting look from others will make me feel worthy, and I will be in a very good mood! So good that it is calm and peaceful, and quiet and a little indifferent, and peaceful and lacking in worldly passion. Beyond the mundane world.
Because if you ask for something, you will get what you ask for, and your heart will be satisfied. Because there is something to ask for, but nothing to ask for, I feel cold. Fortunately, I could take back this situation in time, constantly warn myself in my heart, and learn to calm down in the restlessness, so I gained a new understanding: if people have no pursuit, they will not strive for progress, but will be content with the status quo. If you don't make progress, you will sink. The result of sinking may be decadence, and then such a life has no value. Maybe this is also to find a beautiful reason and gorgeous steps for my restless heart. I personally believe that the true pursuit of no desire is actually a state of mind, indifferent to fame and wealth, indifferent to the world, maintaining a peaceful mind, and being tranquil and far-reaching. "When a person reaches nothing, his mind will be at peace." Growing up in the secular world and detached from the world, it is necessary to keep the mind as calm as water and to reflect the value of life. Come from society, be content with society, adapt to society, and transcend society.
In fact, every time everyone gives, whether you ask for it or not, you will be rewarded. It depends on which angle you look at it. In fact, many people value their own efforts, so they have higher requirements for returns. In fact, we are just an insignificant little particle in the world. It makes no difference whether we have you or not. The sun and the moon reincarnate, the four seasons change, and the flowers bloom and fall. , grass grows and grass withers, nature remains the same, and social development remains the same. It is necessary to realize that "I am just a small member, and what happens to me is insignificant!" The words of comfort often expressed by the elders around me, "There is no difference in fate," may sound a bit idealistic, but it makes sense when analyzed. In fact, this is the case in reality. There are too many things that you can't ask for. It's because you can't run away, not because you can't force it. It is better to maintain a calm attitude towards everything, not to be arrogant in success and not discouraged in failure. Only in this way can we maintain physical and mental peace. Pursue the state of "nothing is needed" and maintain the state of "peace of mind".
Part 2
Being alone quietly, cooking a mellow and fragrant chicken soup for the soul, adjusting and nourishing the mood in a timely manner, is a kind of happiness when you are alone and quiet. !
Be alone, have a quiet space, truly enjoy the time alone, completely forget all the worries and long-standing melancholy, be free and at ease, meditate, introspect, and be at ease. Inspiring!
Stay alone, hibernate in a small study, sit in front of the computer, and greedily enjoy the sensory enjoyment brought to you by the beautiful scenery around the world.
Take a tour of the picturesque Lijiang as if you are actually there; experience the coolness of summer and experience Wutai Mountain, a historic summer resort in Jinyu; stroll through Zhouzhuang, which is full of Jiangnan charm and is picturesque and poetic during the rainy season. alley; be intoxicated by the Shangri-La Meili Snow Mountain at night, blending into the dark blue quiet and cool night sky dotted with gems...
Be alone in silence, holding a book in hand, and touch the faces of different characters with emotion Throughout life, read the thoughts and insights of famous teachers.
Understand the sadness and depression in Lin Daiyu's "The Burial of Flowers"; Qiao Zhiyong's courage and pride in connecting the world with "righteousness, trust and benefit"; re-read "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" with Professor Yi Zhongtian and interpret Cao Cao , Zhuge Liang, and other historical figures, feel the sensitive and ever-changing political situation at that time, capture the subtle changes in the psychology of historical figures at that time, and listen to Professor Yu Dan's interpretation of Confucius's way of life and the inner world of externalization but not internalization in "The Analects" The dialectical unity of
Hold the brush in hand, be calm and guard against impatience, carefully study the secret of "writing, drawing, and closing", and experience the art of line modeling in calligraphy; carefully consider each word, and accurately and comfortably write your own words. Thoughts slip from the tip of the pen onto the paper; pick up flowers in the morning and evening, and be alone quietly, giving your thinking a quiet place and careful nurturing, harvesting your own insights, and cultivating a free mind!
When you are alone, There are clouds between the brows, self-motivation and introspection in the soul, pure heart and few desires, and emotions are sublimated!
When you are alone, "a pot of wine among the flowers, drinking alone without any blind date", "I sing to the moon and wander around, My dancing shadows are messy." "Singing to wine, how is life!"
Third
"Flying flowers come to an end every month, and the flowers float and the water flows." Everything in nature. Changes are natural and in line with the seasons. Therefore, when we face all this, we feel calm and calm. And "I don't care about being favored or disgraced, I just watch the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court; I don't care about leaving or leaving, I just follow the clouds rolling in the sky." It also requires a certain amount of cultivation and sufficient inner concentration.
Regarding life, different people have different pursuits, and different people hope to achieve different realms.
Wang Guowei described three realms of life in his "Human Words": the first one is "The west wind withered the green trees last night, and I climbed up to the tall building alone and saw the end of the world"; warning us that the current situation is bad , only those who can climb high buildings, stand condescending, have a far-sighted view, see the distance, see the end of the sky, and see places that others cannot see, can they eliminate external interference, not be confused by temporary smoke, and finally achieve what they want. Target. This is the basis for success. This realm is mainly about determination and determination. Only when this condition is met can the second and third realms be achieved.
The second state is "The clothes are getting wider and wider, but I don't regret it in the end, and I feel haggard because of the beauty." The second state summarizes a perseverance and perseverance in character and persistence. Describes how to work hard to achieve this goal. It is inevitable that you will encounter all kinds of difficulties in life, but you must persist in fighting and keep moving forward, regardless of any difficulties for the sake of your career. There is no smooth road in this world. We must not only dare to innovate, but also be good at waiting. This is a persistent pursuit, a selfless struggle, and it is also a test of willpower.
The third type is "Looking for him thousands of times in the crowd, but suddenly looking back, that person is in the dim light." The third realm means that after many setbacks and years of training, a person will gradually mature. He can clearly see things that others cannot see, and he can suddenly understand and understand things that others do not understand. At this time, he will make a creative and unique contribution to his career. This is a matter of course. Of course, what we reap are flowers watered with blood and sweat, and buildings built with lifelong efforts.
From Wang Guowei's theory of three realms, later generations classified it as: knowledge, action, and attainment. There are many people who admire it, and some people follow the division of "three realms": knowing, liking, and enjoying; Feng Zhikai believes that "material, spirit, and soul" are the three realms of life; some people think that the three realms of life are nothing more than It is for oneself, for the family, for the society; some people say it is for knowledge, for oneself, and for others; some people think it is ideal, career, and love; and some people vividly compare it: "Looking at mountains is a mountain, looking at water is water; looking at mountains is not "Mountains, water is not water; mountains are still mountains, water is still water" and so on, all kinds of things are dazzling. Of course, they all have their own characteristics.
What I like most is the theory about the realm of mountains and rivers. Wise and goes straight to the heart.
“If you look at mountains, they are mountains; if you look at water, they are water.
I would like to ask, what kind of indifferent heart does this require?
The definition of indifferent is also simple and clear. It means that you don’t care whether you are favored or humiliated, and you are not moved by personal gain or loss. It comes from a poem in "In Huai County" by Pan Yue of the Jin Dynasty: "It is easy not to be surprised by favors and disgrace, but it is difficult to think about love."
Of course we will not forget that "indifferent" is an ancient Taoist thought . "Laozi" once said, "Tranquility is the best, winning but not beautiful." Later generations have continued to appreciate this artistic conception of "peace of mind and soul". For example, in Bai Juyi's poem "Asking about the Autumn Lights", "the body and mind become peaceful, and the smoke and scenery are indifferent". He reflects the author's long-term and broad realm of having no distracting thoughts, being focused and at ease, and not limited to immediate gains and losses. Liu Yuxi used his humble room to clarify his ambitions, played the piano, read the Golden Scriptures, and enjoyed himself; many writers used words to build castles in the air in pursuit of a spiritual destination and to maintain a good mental state in the intertwining of ideals and reality; Ouyang Xiu's "Drunkenness" The purity and leisureliness of "Weng's intention is not in wine, but in the mountains and rivers", and Zhuge Liang's "indifferentness makes one's ambition clear, and tranquility makes one go far".
I believe that regardless of being indifferent or being unfazed by honor or disgrace, a person is required to maintain a calm mind in a complex social environment. In addition to being able to withstand the temptation of glory and wealth, one must also be able to withstand loneliness and deal with reality and pursuits in an orderly manner. This is an extraordinary state. And only after experiencing all the ups and downs and hardships, recalling the past, and suddenly looking back, maybe we can understand the profound meaning and mystery.