Since no one can avoid it, we can only take the initiative to find a way.
One: pour the law
When we encounter troubles, we will have negative emotions. Don't keep it in your heart. If it takes a long time, something will happen sooner or later. We can find a friend around us who is worth talking to and talk to him.
Two: Entertainment Law
In short, it is to make yourself happy. Put aside those concerns and ignore them for the time being.
Travel is also a good way to get rid of negative emotions as soon as possible. If you like excitement, you can invite friends. If you don't like it, take your luggage and travel.
Three: introspection method
We must learn to grow up and deal with our own problems. Once something goes wrong, we can't turn to the people around us for help. So in the face of negative emotions, we must learn to reflect on ourselves, so as to find a solution to the problem.
In life, we always encounter such troubles, which make people feel depressed and depressed.
In fact, both men and women can't escape negative emotions, but women are more sentimental. These negative emotions are normal and part of our emotional structure. I can't get rid of it and I can't hide it.
But that's life. No one's life will be smooth sailing, and we will always encounter some "valleys".
After all, man is the soul of all things, and we should manage emotions instead of being dominated by them.
People live in society, with different status and environment, and each has its own irritability. No matter how others comfort me, I can't calm down. I can only find countless reasonable or unreasonable reasons, ask myself and answer myself, and convince myself that maybe I can calm down.
I am a humble and weak person, because there is nothing I can do, I can only let nature take its course, because my heart is helpless, so I am happy with it. I have no extravagant hopes for the society and myself, and I am willing to be a dust. The wind rises and dances with the wind, and the wind stops falling at will. When you go to the hinterland, and then sit and watch the clouds rising in Ran Ran, you will see everything lightly, your heart will calm down, and your irritability will disappear.
Anxiety will affect a person's life, work and study. So how do you calm your restless heart? To solve this problem, we must first understand what causes our inner irritability. Generally speaking, there are the following reasons:
A: Upset caused by physical discomfort. At this time, we can use the following methods to relieve our irritability:
First, we should maintain a reasonable schedule and eating habits.
No cell phone, no staying up late, no overeating, no drinking, no smoking, etc. When the body is comfortable, the irritability will naturally disappear.
Second: Go outside and do some slightly strenuous exercise. When you are very upset, you can go outdoors for a proper run and play badminton. If there is really no one to accompany you, you can go to a place where there is no one on the mountain and shout a few times to release your fidgety mood instantly.
Third: Take more rest and listen to cheerful and relaxing music properly. In such an atmosphere, people's bodies will naturally relax and their irritability will be alleviated.
B: Anxiety caused by life and work. When the troubles caused by unsatisfactory life and work, we usually have the following methods to alleviate them:
First: Find a bosom friend and tell him your troubles. It is said that this way is called dumping garbage into your heart. It's still very useful anyway. Never hide your irritability in your heart. This will make your heart more depressed and irritable.
Second: do something else to distract yourself. At this time, we usually choose what we like better. When we finish it seriously, the joy of success will wash away our troubles.
Third: Try to stay away from people and things that upset you. We try to find some people and things that make you happy. Never immerse yourself in people and things that bother you forever, which may make you more annoyed.
Fourth: Travel with friends and relatives. I believe that the beautiful scenery along the motherland will bring you fidgety mood.
Of course, if none of the methods we mentioned can relieve your irritability, you'd better go to the hospital and ask the doctor for advice, so that they can give you medication. In a word, in life, we should be broad-minded, cheerful and happy, and the fidgety mood may seldom patronize you!
I have a unique trick that can calm my restless heart, which is particularly useful to me. I don't know if it's useful for you. You can try it.
My innate temperament is depression, which means that I am naturally sentimental, indecisive, sensitive and fragile, and often fidgety because of a little thing.
After marriage, there are a lot of trivial things. My little universe really can't stand the broken days after marriage and really wants to explode and destroy in this world.
Just when I was upset, I came into contact with Buddhism. I believe in Buddhism and understand that fame and fortune in this world are burdensome and not beneficial to people.
Therefore, every time I am upset, I will keep saying to myself: "Put aside fame and fortune, put aside fame and fortune, and don't be tired of fame and fortune, fame and fortune is a burden!"
Constantly let yourself look down on fame and fortune, constantly let your heart drift with the flow, and your heart will be calm.
Every time you are upset, you can ask yourself, am I so upset because I am pursuing fame? I wish I didn't want this name; Am I so upset because I care about my own interests? If you lose, you will be saved from disaster. Besides, no matter how many people die, you can't take money with you. It's good to have enough. Am I so sad because I am too emotional? Feelings are empty, why should I suffer for them? Wouldn't it be better to live happily for yourself?
Being an indifferent person will naturally calm your heart.
I usually do this when I'm unhappy:
1, self-talk method
Tell yourself if you are upset or not, and your own affairs will be solved. If so, continuing to be sad will calm you down. Sometimes, the harder you try to control yourself, the more upset you are. It's better to do the opposite.
Step 2 write it out
Sometimes I write down my troubles. Any irritability has a reason. I can write whatever I want, throw it away when I'm finished, and my troubles will naturally disappear.
Step 3 read calligraphy
Find a book to read, but if the book is positive, you may feel better if you keep guiding yourself to think about the contents of the book.
No matter which method is adopted, after the fidgety heart calms down, you must try your best to resolve your troubles and solve them, otherwise you will be fidgety when you think about it in the future.
So be sure to take two steps at the same time, let yourself calm down first and find a way to solve it.
Generally speaking, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. Your irritability is caused by some hope. If you lower your hopes, you won't be upset.
Silence is not only a kind of rest, but also a kind of practice. All troubles come from noise, and all pains come from anxiety.
Learn to be quiet, immerse yourself in your heart, and gradually reduce your desire for things; Learn to return to zero forever and take every day as a new starting point.
Stop chasing, slow down the tense heartstrings, calm the heart, heal the wounds and sublimate the soul.
If the heart doesn't move, what does wind energy do? If you don't get hurt, the years will be fine. Live seriously, less fantasy, don't think that happiness comes suddenly, it is around.
The heart is one inch wide and the road is ten feet wide; Life is a season, regardless of spring, summer, autumn and winter, as long as the mood is right, it is the best.
Life is a real existence. Whether you are unwilling to be lonely or willing to be lonely, life is happy as long as it suits you.
In this bustling and difficult world, in this colorful world full of desires, temptations, traps, opportunities, pains, difficulties, etc ... fast-paced life, all kinds of pressures, everyone is tired and feels breathless, which are the reasons for our inner irritability. So we must adjust our mentality. If we have a good attitude, all our troubles can be eliminated!
Tens of millions of bachelors live like mules. Can they calm down when they are upset? Tens of millions of things are sitting in the office pointing fingers and riding on the heads of the people all over the country for profit. Have you calmed the people's uneasy hearts? Unless you are a social gangster with no opinion, justice and morality, a person without medical insurance, old-age insurance and real estate, living a dream of running towards a well-off life, working hard to feed those idle people and waste, your heart will always be restless. Looking at this society from the standpoint of the broad masses of the people, will you be calm?
Life is nothing but life and death. I suggest you go to |CU Ward to see the patient's living conditions, go to the crematorium to see the end of life, go to your family cemetery to chat with your ancestors, go to Tiananmen Square to see the national flag raised, see the monument and inscription of the people's heroes, see the cultural relics of the Revolutionary History Museum and listen to the explanations of the lecturers. If you look at the world we live in, you will certainly gain something. If so, please try it.