10 year1On October 23rd, Tianxin celebrated its 9th birthday.
On their birthdays, the two of them sent articles to celebrate Tianxin's birthday.
Jerry took a photo with Tian Xin on the social platform and wrote: Happy birthday and happy growth to my little princess, naughty boy and elder sister Tian Xin.
Li XiaoLu shared a group of photos of Jiugongge's mother and daughter. The sweetness in the photo is lovely and beautiful.
As a mother, Li XiaoLu also sent her best wishes: May time slow down and you smile like a flower.
Whether we take a photo with Jerry or Li XiaoLu, we can see the smile on Tian Xin's face.
Meanwhile, Jerry and Li XiaoLu have been divorced for three years.
Tianxin has also changed from a lovely cute baby to a big girl.
As we all know, since the divorce, Tian Xin has lived with Li XiaoLu most of the time.
Although Li XiaoLu will be vomited by netizens every time she appears, this does not hinder her responsibility as a mother.
Judging from the daily life shared by Li XiaoLu, Tian Xin seems to be a versatile little beauty.
At an early age, he not only played the piano and danced ballet, but also left behind painting, calligraphy and taekwondo.
At the end of last year 1 1, Li XiaoLu exposed the whole process of Tian Xin's piano performance.
On the stage, Tian Xin wore a blue princess dress and smiled sweetly. Frozen was playing on the piano.
In the cooperation with the adult band behind her, she did not have stage fright and the typhoon was steady.
Tian Xin's achievements are closely related to Li XiaoLu's long-term careful teaching.
Li XiaoLu is not a qualified wife, but from the confidence and optimism revealed in Sweetheart, we can see that she is a competent mother.
02
Back in the day, Li XiaoLu Jerry's divorce.
Both of them posted, don't hurt my family again.
The family here naturally includes the "apple of his eye" sweetness in his palm.
They always have the same goal to protect their families.
After the divorce is settled, everyone is worried that their sweetheart will get hurt.
After all, a harmonious and beautiful family suddenly collapsed and her parents suddenly separated. It must take a while for a little girl to accept it.
Fortunately, although Tianxin does not have a complete family, her parents are never absent, and there is no lack of care and love.
On every important day when Tianxin grew up, Jerry expressed her love in a special way.
As we all know, after the divorce, Jerry and Li XiaoLu seldom interacted.
And every time I am in the same box, it is for the sweetness of my baby daughter.
At the beginning of 20 19, they participated in the final performance of Tianxin together.
Tian Xin performed on the stage, while Jerry and Li XiaoLu watched from the audience.
The two cheered Tianxin on the social platform, which was the first time that they had similar interaction after their divorce.
Last year, on Children's Day, Jerry, Li XiaoLu and Tianxin's three-in-one video streamed out.
At the sight of Jerry, Tian Xin immediately threw himself into his father's arms and gave him a "massage" on his face.
Then Jerry played badminton with Tianxin.
Accompanied by parents, Tian Xin had a happy Children's Day.
On Children's Day this year, considering that Tianxin likes small animals very much, Jerry gave Tianxin five chickens.
On the ninth birthday, netizens also bumped into Jerry taking sweetheart to the mall.
Jerry is carrying two big bags of things. They must be gifts for Tianxin.
From all indications, Tian Xin is still the "little princess" who is loved and happy by her parents.
The complete love of parents is more important than the complete marriage.
But not everyone agrees with this view.
Every time Jerry and Li XiaoLu appear in the same frame or at the same time, there is compound news.
The reason is simple: give Tianxin a complete home.
In the real society, quite a few people (especially the older generation) have conservative views on emotional problems.
"Try not to divorce for the sake of children" has become their basic principle in dealing with the contradiction between husband and wife.
Even if the relationship between husband and wife has come to an end, in order to take care of the children's mood and interests, they often choose to maintain a state of "appearance and separation".
Seemingly loving and harmonious, in fact, I don't know how many times I quarreled behind my child's back.
The seemingly calm "home" has long been seen through by children, who accompanied their parents to stage a lonely family "affectionate play".
After the breakup of parents' feelings, living in a formal family with only an empty shell, is the child really happy?
Without correct guidance, children will feel insecure, form an inferiority complex, sensitive and fragile character, and are prone to various psychological problems.
If marriage inevitably comes to an end, then gathering and parting is the greatest responsibility for children, and it is also the love and protection for children.
As a netizen said:
"A family of three full of' wars' can't compare with a warm single-parent family in any case."
03
In life, many people choose divorce because of many factors.
Divorce, for adults, is not the initial partner.
But the children still have their mothers and fathers.
How to minimize the harm of divorce and how to communicate, explain and educate children effectively are the continuation of children's future life.
Because every failed marriage hides an innocent child.
Huang Qianling is a living example. She is the daughter of actresses Crystal and Yi Huang Qing.
On 20 14, Crystal and Yi Huang Qing started a war of divorce and mutual tearing.
Finally, they signed a divorce agreement, and the custody of their daughter belongs to their mother, Crystal.
However, Huang Yiqing still has 10 days to accompany her daughter every month.
Originally a warm day loved by her father, Huang Qianling was tortured.
I didn't expect Huang Yiqing to completely ignore the father-daughter score and induce her daughter to shoot all kinds of small videos.
Under his guidance, Huang Qianling spoke ill of her mother against her will:
"Mom hit me, my mother is pregnant again, and I just want to live with my father ..."
What is even more unexpected is that Huang Yiqing actually let her daughter say that she was sexually assaulted.
Huang Qianling, do it.
In her eyes, it is right to please her father properly.
"As long as I say that you are not good at all and my father is happy, I can speak ill of you less online."
But she doesn't know that people are sinister, and her sincerity has become a sword for her father to hurt her mother.
Huang Yiqing sent all these fake videos online to attack Crystal.
After seeing the video, Crystal collapsed instantly.
She was very angry. Why did the daughter lie and why did she cooperate with her father to make these videos?
She was angry and kicked her daughter out.
Huang Qianling cried and begged: mom, don't do this, mom, don't do this.
After crying, she said to Crystal rationally and calmly, "Mom, I really don't know what is right and what is wrong."
Crystal blamed herself very much after hearing this sentence.
And Huang Qianling's heart also left indelible damage.
There is a saying that "happy people use their childhood to cure their whole lives, while unfortunate people use their whole lives to cure their childhood."
There are many endings for both husband and wife in marriage.
* * * Spend the rest of your life together, or say goodbye to each other and be happy.
There is also the maintenance of superficial harmony, or entanglement after divorce.
Aside from the status of spouses, as parents, there is an eternal conclusion between them and their children.
If you can't be a competent wife (or husband), at least be a qualified parent.
Because parents' love and care for children is an important source of children's happiness.
Marriage integrity is not a necessary and sufficient condition for children's happiness, but love is.
Of course, this also reminds us that when choosing parents, we must be cautious and think twice before you act.
Once you make a decision, you should take responsibility.
Only children who are wholeheartedly loved by their parents will accept themselves and live a wonderful high life.