After the "Eleventh" holiday, some non-commissioned officers who were visiting relatives returned to the team and asked each other with concern: How about going back to their hometown this time? Is it appropriate? Different answers, different expressions and different experiences. Men are old, and women are old. Since the implementation of the non-commissioned officer system in our army from 65438 to 0999, the proportion of non-commissioned officers in the army has increased greatly, especially the second-and third-grade non-commissioned officers have entered the marriageable age. How to solve their lifelong events is directly related to the stability of the army. ? At present, what makes grassroots soldiers a little anxious is that a considerable number of non-commissioned officers have encountered many difficulties in finding the "other half of life". Why is it so difficult for petty officers to get married and fall in love? How to crack it?
"When I got to the third-level master sergeant, I began to worry."
"The first-level sergeant is relaxed and leisurely, the second-level sergeant is watching while the third-level sergeant is in a hurry." Gao Wei, a non-commissioned officer of a certain army, analyzed that most of the third-level non-commissioned officers in our unit came from the countryside, and their peers in their hometown got married earlier, so the pressure of marriage and love of the third-level non-commissioned officers came from home, and many people were "very anxious".
Why are the first-and second-class petty officers not in a hurry to find someone? It turns out that the relevant policies stipulate that only non-commissioned officers above the third level can arrange jobs after changing jobs in the future, thus realizing the real "jumping the farm gate". "After eight years of hard work, returning to China is equal to zero." Liu Wei, a 27-year-old second-class noncommissioned officer of a regiment, said with a wry smile, "You think I'm not in a hurry? What's the use of anxiety? If you can't choose a third-level non-commissioned officer, you can't talk to the' public'! "
The author understands that many second-level noncommissioned officers who have reached the age of the subject but have been slow to act, like Liu Wei, are looking forward to crossing the "hurdle" of third-level noncommissioned officers and finding a "city girl" as soon as possible. In this kind of waiting, when I arrived at the third-level chief sergeant, I began to worry and regretted missing the opportunity to find someone.
Chen Yageng, director of the political department of a certain department: Some non-commissioned officers attach great importance to the woman's urban hukou and family background in marriage and love. It is understandable to want to find someone with better conditions, but I think "the right one is the best". As a soldier, only by taking like-minded as the premise of choosing a spouse can we establish pure and lasting love. Therefore, non-commissioned officers should follow the fate in marriage and love, and they can consider it when they meet the right one. You don't have to wait until the third-level sergeant selection.
"Love is a science as well as an art."
According to the survey, most non-commissioned officers are newly in love, lacking experience in dealing with young women, and are not good at talking. When we meet for the first time, we often blush and heartbeat, which is too formal. But now some young women are more romantic, eager for each other to speak appropriately and have a sense of humor. Many petty officers are inexperienced, which greatly reduces the success rate of love.
Zhaowei, a third-class petty officer of a company's training brigade, is a technical expert in the army, with excellent auto repair skills, but he has been frustrated repeatedly in marriage and love. During the National Day this year, he went shopping with his girlfriend who had known him for two months. When passing a flower shop, my girlfriend stared at a bunch of roses for a long time, but she couldn't guess the girl's mind and was indifferent. As a result, my girlfriend broke up that night.
Liu Jianjun, a petty officer of a certain army, thinks it is very important to show "gentlemanly demeanor" when meeting for the first time. At the appointed meeting place, he sat the other person in a seat with a wider view. "After you sit down, you should find a topic that interests the other person." Liu Jianjun smiled and said, "Personally, I think we should pay attention to some details. For example, if you buy a bottle of drink for the other party, you should take the initiative to help the other party unscrew the bottle cap. " He later asked his girlfriend what she thought of him when she first met him, and the answer was: "Not bad, very considerate."
Li Changjiang, political commissar of a certain department: Love is a science and an art. One of the important reasons why some non-commissioned officers often encounter "blowing lights" is that they have not mastered the art of love. On the one hand, non-commissioned officers need to learn from the "experienced people" around them and learn to deal with different links and details in love; On the other hand, the army can invite people from the resident etiquette company to teach social etiquette. Cadres should also make friends and pair up with non-commissioned officers, understand their love process, and actively make suggestions for them.
"Good quality is the best business card to attract each other."
"May my love surround you like sunshine and give you brilliant freedom." When this famous saying by Indian poet Tagore was used by a sergeant Zhang Yuguo to reply to his girlfriend's "broken letter", his girlfriend's attitude changed 180 degrees.
"It was that reply that made me see his quality and mind and strengthened my determination to marry him!" Now Zhang Yuguo's wife recalls that she broke up because she was afraid of separation between the two places, but after reading Zhang Yuguo's reply, she was finally "captured" by his mind and talent. The author understands that Zhang Yuguo is recognized as a "gifted scholar". He is not only good at calligraphy, but also the announcer and editor-in-chief of the unit publicity briefing. He was awarded the title of good soldier for many years.
Compared with Zhang Yuguo, some non-commissioned officers' personal qualities are not high, which has also become an important reason for their failure in marriage and love. According to a preliminary investigation, at present, the education level of non-commissioned officers is mostly high school level, their comprehensive quality is not high, and their skills are relatively simple, so it is difficult to win the favor of lovers. The conditions that young women in some places expect are: "Bachelor degree, driving and writing."
Chen Fei, director of the political department of a certain department: There is an old saying in China: "If you plant a plane tree, there will be a phoenix." Good quality is the best business card to attract each other's attention. Many non-commissioned officers have successfully found their ideal partners, all of which are related to their good qualities. A soldier is not a soldier, so non-commissioned officers should read more books and cultivate more hobbies after intense work and training.
"Petty officers have less love time, and organizations should help more."
Talking about marriage too hastily is a problem for many non-commissioned officers. Wang Tao, a third-class non-commissioned officer of a certain unit, is 29 years old. I introduced him to several people, but they didn't make it. The reason is that the time for dating is limited. "Even if a girl is willing to continue to associate with you, it is difficult to develop into a boyfriend and girlfriend just by writing and calling." Wang Tao is somewhat helpless.
In the interview, the author found that considering the short vacation time every year, some non-commissioned officers began to seek other ways of marriage and love. Some consider developing marriage and love partners in the resident, while others adopt the love way of "casting nets generally and focusing on training" during the holidays. Zhang Wendong, a second-class petty officer in a regiment and a battalion, is very handsome. He adopted a wide range of contacts and choices in love. During the "Eleventh" holiday, I contacted three girls successively. In view of this careless way of love, the company cadres criticized and educated him.
Hsuanchan, director of the political department of a certain department: We should guide the majority of non-commissioned officers to establish a serious marriage attitude and prevent immoral ways of love; Non-commissioned officers who do not meet the relevant conditions and find objects at the station should be dealt with severely. Of course, non-commissioned officers have less love time, so organizations need more help, such as contacting the women's Federation and other departments in their hometown to help the troops match the love and marriage of non-commissioned officers.