Because I believe that as long as you focus on the present, any result you want is a natural process, and even the result is better than you think. When everything accumulates to a certain extent, it will inevitably accumulate, and the quantitative change will reach the qualitative change. Unfortunately, in this materialistic society, many people are eager for quick success and instant benefit. Usually, they start thinking about goals or results before doing many things, or do something with a strong purpose from the beginning.
Put aside utilitarian heart
The first time I wanted to organize a hand-held account activity, I happened to meet a guest. It's a pity that she pays too much attention to cost and profit. Although she did well, I had to give up.
Fortunately, we got in touch with another guest soon. Very young, very energetic, not only doing a good job, but also being very nice. Not only interact with friends in the group, but also take pains to answer various questions of friends' accounts. I also prepared some small gifts made by myself, not to mention the activities of the guests, and subsidized a lot. When I gave her the guest activity fee, she was surprised because she told me that she only loved her opponent's account and didn't make money. I said, "my principle is that if you pay valuable labor, you deserve to get rewards and benefits." At first, I didn't want to say that I didn't want to attract you to do activities because of money, but I hoped that we were like-minded. "
Thanks to the efforts of friends and guests, the first activity was beyond my expectation, with nearly 50 people, because we expected only 30 people. At the same time, the person in charge of the action school told me that I hope every city has its own interest group and can organize account activities regularly in the future.
I wonder, if the previous guests know the result, will they regret it a little? In the short term, she really didn't make any money this time. But in the long run, on the one hand, she has expanded her influence, which is undoubtedly a good propaganda means for her to increase potential customers; On the other hand, she didn't expect that her friends would like Handbooks very much, let alone that our Handbooks activities would be held every month. Give up because an activity is unprofitable, but what is lost is the whole connected industrial chain. I don't know which is more cost-effective. Unfortunately, many people attach too much importance to immediate interests.
This reminds me of another thing. I had a friend who was a Chinese teacher who came to Singapore together. Later, for various reasons, I didn't like waiting, so I switched to the insurance industry. I have a good relationship with her because they came to Singapore in the same batch and were assigned to the same tutor. She just moved to my neighborhood when she switched to insurance, so she often invited me to dinner or gave me small gifts or something. I didn't care too much at first, but then I felt unnatural and my heart began to worry faintly. That kind of inexplicable beauty always makes people afraid to accept it. Sure enough, after several contacts, she couldn't help but start selling insurance to me naked. At that moment, I felt that she sitting opposite me was not my friend at all, but a veritable insurance salesman. In fact, in my opinion, since I know that you are in this industry, I will naturally think of you when necessary. In addition, a friend was interested in buying insurance at that time, and I was going to introduce it. But such quick success and instant benefit makes me a little scared. It turns out that your kindness to me has a purpose, but you don't really want to make friends with me. In fact, if you really treat me as a friend, I can introduce many friends to her. People abroad value insurance more. But if friends are based on interests, then friendship will naturally not last long. Unfortunately, many salespeople don't understand this truth. They are always good to you at first, and then they start to promote their products after several contacts. Once you refuse, all good things will leave you, and naturally there will be no friendship without interests.
I think it's better to make friends sincerely. Only by putting aside the utilitarian heart and making friends sincerely will others naturally feel your sincerity, and maybe when you will get more unexpected surprises.
If a person pays too much attention to gains and losses, then he will lose the motivation to do things, and it is difficult to find pleasure in doing things. Only by putting aside all utilitarianism and finding fun from it can we focus on what we love and gain more.
If you do things with a utilitarian heart, you will lose many excellent opportunities invisibly. If you do it with pure love and enthusiasm, it will attract many high-quality resources.
When it comes to doing things, it is difficult to concentrate if you are too utilitarian, and it is difficult to achieve your goals without concentration. Careful observation, you will find that when you do something with a purpose, it is often difficult to succeed. When it comes to being a man, if you have a strong purpose, it will affect our relationship, because people are emotional senior animals, and it is easy to feel whether you are sincerely making friends or doing things with a purpose. Who wants to associate with people who make friends with you for a certain purpose?
Don't underestimate the power of accumulation
A friend who knows nothing about flower arrangement wants to open a flower shop. From the beginning, he considered renting a house or taking a flower class, each of which was expensive. If you have enough money, no problem. You can toss and turn, and if you fail, start all over again. But the problem is that funds are not plentiful. I told her that you don't have to quit your present job, but you can learn some basic knowledge of floral art in your spare time. After my own research, I will try to get in touch with the market slowly on the Internet, understand the customers' needs, and then improve my floral art with my own knowledge. When I have a deeper understanding of this industry and have accumulated some customer resources, I will quit my full-time job and concentrate on running my own flower shop when the time is ripe. Compared with her previous practice, although the time is slower, the investment is not so much, and there is no need to bear the risk of entrepreneurial failure.
Nowadays, many people yearn for slash's lifestyle. However, Slash didn't just mean what he said, and he didn't just resign on impulse and go home to start a business. I think if you live a diagonal life, you can accumulate while working, and it is not too late to start when the time is ripe. Susan is also immersed in reading and writing. It took nearly three years to slowly accumulate My Slash Lifestyle, which has now spread all over the circle of friends.
I believe in the power of nature. Just as Jobs studied calligraphy, he never foresaw that it would be applied to the design of Apple mobile phones one day. Just as Susan insisted on writing at the beginning, she would not have thought that there would be such popular articles and various projects in full swing now; Just like activists, I didn't expect the current partner circle to blossom everywhere in a short time; Just like I never thought that one day my second identity would be a lecturer in a writing training camp. Everything, I think, is because there is no utilitarian heart and I insist on accumulating with love.
After everything, I don't value fame and fortune now. I just ask myself if I really like it and have passion for it. Because I believe that as long as I like it, I will do it wholeheartedly. As long as things are done well enough and to the extreme, I am not afraid of not attracting high-quality resources.
I still prefer the feeling of letting nature take its course, taking its time and enjoying the creative process seriously. If anything accumulates to a certain extent, it will naturally accumulate one day, and success is also a matter of time. If that day has not come, it means that it is not good enough. Just calm down, concentrate and stick to it.