Be serious about trifles, compete with irrelevant people, stubbornly drill into their own horns, live a life of twists and turns, and live a trivial life.
Zhou said: "Many pains in life stem from blind competition. 」
Always clinging to something, making yourself exhausted and missing other colorful scenery, that would be a loss.
Don't be too competitive when you are alive.
0 1. Don't be angry with the villain, because it is not worthy of all sentient beings, and everyone's cognitive level and cultivation connotation are very different.
Degang Guo has a vivid saying: "When the waves are getting bigger and bigger, I don't know what seafood will be blown up. 」
In this life, people will meet thousands of people, say thousands of words, what kind of villains they will meet and what kind of bad things they will see.
If everyone cares about everything and everyone is angry, then life will be miserable.
There is a saying that is very good:
"If you want to be a big tree, don't argue with the grass; General has a sword, but he doesn't kill ants. 」
Listen to a story told by netizens:
On a trip to the suburbs, halfway up a famous mountain, I met a monk who was talking about Buddhist scriptures.
Monks wear simple clothes and say simple words to teach everyone how to keep a peaceful mind and avoid anxiety.
Passers-by listened with relish and nodded frequently.
However, a young man with yellow hair suddenly appeared and laughed at the monk loudly: "Nonsense, not just to cheat money," he said, holding up the milk tea in his hand and throwing it at the monk.
Milk tea just hit the monk, and the dirty liquid dripped down the wide frock.
Monks, on the other hand, kept calm and continued to lecture, even without wiping, as if they were not affected at all.
An aunt on the side thought the monk would fly into a rage and fight back. It's strange to look at the other side quietly. She asked the monk, "Master, aren't you angry?" 」
The monk smiled: "Why should I be angry? 」
"That man threw something dirty at you and said it badly," said Aunt eagerly.
The master didn't care: "In his opinion, he humiliated me, but in my opinion,
He humiliated himself. As the saying goes, "always compete with peers, not fools." 」
Quarrel can't solve the problem; Make a scene, and the other party will not improve their cognition.
It is not worth the loss to waste your time, destroy your mood and make yourself a fool.
Have you ever noticed that dogs bark at people, but no one barks at them?
Lincoln once said:
Instead of arguing with the dog and being bitten by it, let it go first, or even if you kill it, it won't cure your bitten scar.
My life is complicated and noisy enough. There is really no need to waste energy on people who don't care. Better go away.
02. Don't reason with your lover, because the person who hurts your feelings is the one who has been with you for the longest time in your life, except yourself, the one who walked through the ravine and dangerous beach together and experienced trivial things every day. We call it "lover".
The reason why the word "love" is added in front of people is naturally to speak with love.
It's just that we often make a stupid mistake: being tolerant and polite outside, but insisting on arguing about right and wrong at home.
As we all know, reasoning at home, arguing with your lover about right and wrong, losing is losing, winning is losing.
Jiang Yang once asked Qian Zhongshu, "Why do you let me go every time we quarrel?" ? 」
Qian Zhongshu replied, "Because you are mine,
Even if we win, what can we do? I won the truth, lost my feelings, lost you, and lost my life. Neighbor Xiaomei is a gentle and romantic girl. At the moment, she is planning a wedding, and the wedding date is scheduled for the Mid-Autumn Festival. The bride-to-be should be radiant, but she is not happy.
It turns out that Xiaomei's husband is a science and engineering student, and his logical thinking is very rigorous. What is the difference between the two? The husband quoted the classics and put forward a lot of reasons, hoping to convince Xiaomei.
In the renovation of the new house, Xiaomei wants to spread the wooden floor, but her husband thinks that the wooden floor is not practical and it is very troublesome to engage in sanitary maintenance. Not as affordable as floor tiles.
Then I talked endlessly about the reasons, from the plate properties to the floor heating structure.
Xiaomei wants to go to the top floor of the central square to eat western food and enjoy the rainy scenery. My husband has calculated how dangerous it is to travel in rainy days and how deep the water is after crossing several tunnel bridges.
Xiaomei, who is extremely depressed, just hopes that her husband can coax her.
There is not so much right and wrong between husband and wife, and there is no need to convince each other to prove that they are right. Learn to tolerate each other, and you will gain more.
Home, not the court; Lovers are not opposing lawyers.
Embrace the problem that can be solved, don't use your mouth; If feelings can solve problems, don't use reason.
It must be warm and inclusive, not indifferent, in order to protect the prosperity of a family and support the unity of close lovers and * * * and bald heads.
For the rest of your life, don't let yourself be the right person forever.
Don't compete with yourself, because it's meaningless. There is a question on the Internet: "What kind of experience is it to be too persistent?" 」
One of the answers is: "there is a fire in my heart, and this life is not easy." 」
Many troubles in life stem from not letting go of yourself and fighting endlessly with yourself.
Many times, to compete with yourself is to expect too much from yourself, stubbornly think that you can do better and can't accept yourself, so you draw a prison in your heart and tie yourself up.
Wu Xin once said frankly in a program: "These three years are actually very hard. I have been struggling with myself and feel that I can do a lot of things. 」
Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory. Don't be too serious, don't be too demanding, accept your own imperfections and accept the imperfections of life.
Knowing yourself, accepting yourself and letting go of yourself will naturally have a different vision.
Zhang Wenju, a master of calligraphy, dreamed of becoming a writer when he was young. To this end, he practiced writing every day, kept writing, and then sent the manuscript to different publishers.
Although he worked hard, the manuscript was never hired.
Finally one day, he received a reply from the editor. He was ecstatic and quickly opened the letter. But the editor didn't tell him that the manuscript was hired, but told him that the pen handwriting was very good.
Zhang Wenju suddenly realized that maybe he really wasn't fit to be a writer. So he resolutely gave up writing and began to practice calligraphy, and finally became a famous calligrapher.
Professor Li Meijin said:
In fact, life is not difficult, just don't compete with yourself, always use my ideals to teach me reality.
Life is an endless stream of water, not a tense confrontation. It's dark to care about your heart, and it's light to let go of your heart.
I'm glad Zhang Wenju didn't blindly take it seriously. Although he lost a writer, he gained a great calligrapher.
Life is full of scenery. If you feel that you are at the end of your rope, change your direction and adjust your mentality. Maybe the future is bright.
Don't live too hard in this life. Whether you are happy or not depends not on how much wealth you have, but on how comfortable and calm your heart is.
Qian Zhongshu wrote such a passage in the book:
Take a bath, look at flowers and have a meal. If you feel happy, it's not all because the bath is clean, the flowers are blooming well, or the food is to your taste, mainly because you are absent-minded.
People in this life, don't live too seriously, let go of obsession, have no worries, don't be disturbed by secular noise, don't be bound by the fame and fortune of the world of mortals:
Not angry villains, refreshed;
If you don't reason with your lover, there will be deep affection and affection;
Don't compete with yourself, be at ease.
As Zeng Guofan said: "If the future is unpopular, then we will not be mixed up, and we will not fall in love in the past. 」
For the rest of my life, there is nothing outside my heart, just watching the flowers bloom, staying and waiting for the flowers to fall.
Don't compete with yourself, because it's meaningless. There is a question on the Internet: "What kind of experience is it to be too persistent?" 」
One of the answers is: "there is a fire in my heart, and this life is not easy." 」
Many troubles in life stem from not letting go of yourself and fighting endlessly with yourself.
Many times, to compete with yourself is to expect too much from yourself, stubbornly think that you can do better and can't accept yourself, so you draw a prison in your heart and tie yourself up.
Wu Xin once said frankly in a program: "These three years are actually very hard. I have been struggling with myself and feel that I can do a lot of things. 」
Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory. Don't be too serious, don't be too demanding, accept your own imperfections and accept the imperfections of life.
Knowing yourself, accepting yourself and letting go of yourself will naturally have a different vision.
Zhang Wenju, a master of calligraphy, dreamed of becoming a writer when he was young. To this end, he practiced writing every day, kept writing, and then sent the manuscript to different publishers.
Although he worked hard, the manuscript was never hired.
Finally one day, he received a reply from the editor. He was ecstatic and quickly opened the letter. But the editor didn't tell him that the manuscript was hired, but told him that the pen handwriting was very good.
Zhang Wenju suddenly realized that maybe he really wasn't fit to be a writer. So he resolutely gave up writing and began to practice calligraphy, and finally became a famous calligrapher.
Professor Li Meijin said:
In fact, life is not difficult, just don't compete with yourself, always use my ideals to teach me reality.
Life is an endless stream of water, not a tense confrontation. It's dark to care about your heart, and it's light to let go of your heart.
I'm glad Zhang Wenju didn't blindly take it seriously. Although he lost a writer, he gained a great calligrapher.
Life is full of scenery. If you feel that you are at the end of your rope, change your direction and adjust your mentality. Maybe the future is bright.
Don't live too hard in this life. Whether you are happy or not depends not on how much wealth you have, but on how comfortable and calm your heart is.
Qian Zhongshu wrote such a passage in the book:
Take a bath, look at flowers and have a meal. If you feel happy, it's not all because the bath is clean, the flowers are blooming well, or the food is to your taste, mainly because you are absent-minded.
People in this life, don't live too seriously, let go of obsession, have no worries, don't be disturbed by secular noise, don't be bound by the fame and fortune of the world of mortals:
Not angry villains, refreshed;
If you don't reason with your lover, there will be deep affection and affection;
Don't compete with yourself, be at ease.
As Zeng Guofan said: "If the future is unpopular, then we will not be mixed up, and we will not fall in love in the past. 」
For the rest of my life, there is nothing outside my heart, just watching the flowers bloom, staying and waiting for the flowers to fall.