My friend bought paper, pens and inkstones and asked me to write some words for him to hang in the living room of the new house. This makes me feel a little embarrassed, because I know my handwriting is not good-looking, and I haven't shown my calligraphy for many years.
The friend said, "What are you afraid of? I am honored to hear your words. I'm not afraid. What are you afraid of? "
So, in front of my friends, I spread out the paper, polished the ink and wrote four words, "I often think about one or two." The friend asked, "What does this mean?"
I said, "It means my handwriting is not good. Please forgive me when you see this word. Think of one or two good things about me and forgive me. "
Seeing my joking attitude, my friend said, "Seriously, what do you mean?"
"As the saying goes,' Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory', and in our lives, unsatisfactory things account for the vast majority. Therefore, it is painful for people to live. However, after deducting 80% disappointment, at least 120% is satisfied, happy and gratified. If we want to experience a happy life, we must always think about the 20% beauty, so that we can feel lucky, know how to cherish, and not be overwhelmed by 80% disappointment. "
My friend was very happy and went home with "I often think of one or two".
A few months later, he came to me and asked me questions. He said, "I am tired and angry at the office every day. When I got home, I was happy to see the picture of' I often think about one or two things', but the wall was too big and the words were too small. Please write me a few words! "
I always give everything to my good friends, so I wrote the next couplet "Don't think about 89" for "I often think about one or two things", wrote "Ruyi" horizontally on it, and drew a freehand vase flower in the middle.
Unexpectedly, a few months later, the news of my remarriage appeared in newspapers, which triggered many bizarre legends, and I was deeply troubled by rumors. One day, my friend called and said that he was sitting in front of my handwriting in the living room. He said, "I can't think of anything to comfort you. Read your own words to you: always think of one or two, not eight or nine, and everything goes well. " I was very touched to receive a phone call from my friend. I often feel that it is easy to add icing on the cake in other people's celebrations, but it is difficult to give charcoal in the snow in other people's sufferings. This ratio is about 89 12.
A friend who offers timely help is not a true friend, let alone a friend who falls when he is down. However, after reaching the age of 40, a person has probably learned the skill of being humiliated in life, and will no longer care about icing on the cake, offering timely help in the snow or adding insult to injury. That's because we have experienced the pain and frustration of life and matured a lot. The encounter and separation of emotions have gradually figured out the positive, happy and upward thoughts in life, which is the idea of "thinking about one or two things often". The idea of "thinking about one or two things often" is to look for a glimmer of light in the heavy clouds, open some quiet news in the rolling world of mortals, and take a long breath when you are on the verge of suffocation. Life is hard enough. If we combine decades of disappointments, it will definitely make us unable to move. Life and feelings are in trouble, and sometimes they are helpless, but if even thoughts and feelings are in trouble, it will only be asking for trouble and adding pain.
I have learned how to face difficulties by sailing on the rough sea. I have always believed that in the past, I could find pleasure in suffering in the face of all kinds of torture, but now I can naturally bear a little suffering.
I like reading biographies and memoirs of great men since I was a child, and gradually sum up a formula: all great men are suffering, and their life is almost a true witness of "unhappy people in nine cases out of ten", but they can also maintain an upward thinking mode and "often think about one or two things" in the face of suffering. Finally, they transcend suffering, and suffering becomes the most fertile nutrient in life, preparing for the flowers of happiness and success.
What moved me deeply was not their sufferings, because they were everywhere. What moved me was their persistence, optimism and courage in the face of suffering.
It turns out that happiness or unhappiness does not determine the fate of life, but depends on one thought.
It turns out that it is not 1989 that determines the quality of life, but one or two.