Many people feel lonely and helpless, have no friends in their lives, and have no one to talk to when they encounter troubles. I am very distressed and depressed, and feel that life is meaningless.
Your lover doesn't love you, your relatives don't kiss you and your neighbors don't get along well. In fact, did you find the reason on yourself? [flashing]
If everyone is waiting for others to care about and love themselves, who will start the game? Therefore, you should learn to care and love others first.
Love can be rewarded or not. When you give love, don't think about returning it. Give someone a rose, and your hands will smell good. ) [Rose]
You are willing when you give, and how surprised you will be when you get something in return. When others regard you as a confidant, you will no longer be lonely and helpless. If not, don't take it seriously. Listen to your destiny as much as you can.
I have never felt lonely and helpless. My heart has always been full and warm. Maybe I've been used to independence since I was a child. Love the person I love and do what I like.
Helpless, lonely, nobody cares about me, what should I do?
The answer is that you should care about others first, so that others will not be lonely and helpless again. When others repay you, you won't be lonely and helpless.
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Helpless, lonely, nobody cares about me, what should I do? I think you think too much, how can your relatives not care about you! You can take the initiative to care about others first
Your parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, as long as you are free, these people can contact you at any time! Happiness is to be found by yourself. You can't wait: "Pies fall from the sky!" "The affection between people is to get along. People approach people with the same frequency as you in groups. You won't feel tired when you associate with such people, and such people can also give you a sense of security. They won't hurt you or embarrass you.
If you really don't love you, you love yourself.
If you don't want to reach out to others, you can find happiness by yourself. Read books, learn sports, listen to music, raise flowers and plants, learn painting and calligraphy, go out for a walk and climb mountains, go swimming in the swimming pool, do fitness exercises, learn to cook various foods and desserts, and so on. Keep yourself busy and you won't feel lonely. On the contrary, I feel that I don't have enough time and want to do too many things. Happiness is actually in your own hands.
You should learn to be strong and independent, and don't always want to rely on others.
As we get older, everyone will feel lonely. This is the normal state of life. Even your own shadow sometimes leaves you, so don't feel sorry for yourself. The highest practice of human beings is not talking, so when you are alone, it is also the happiest time for you. Because no one bothers you, you can do anything you like, and you will find it better to please others than to be happy with yourself.
Conclusion: Life is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. Life is short. You should adjust yourself as soon as possible, make a plan for yourself, and do everything strictly, and you will find it is not difficult to find happiness.
Helpless, lonely, without friends, no one cares about helping themselves.
Let me talk about this topic with my teachers and friends.
Today, with money as the dominant position and material culture as the spiritual pillar, some people become more and more selfish for their own enjoyment. In the eyes of these people, there is only interest, and any family friends are tools used by these people. In order to maximize their own interests, family and friends are just tools to gain benefits. In fact, these people are the most pathetic. These people have nothing but money.
If you want others to care about yourself, love yourself and help yourself to love yourself, you must first learn to care about others, love others and help others. You should have a good attitude, rely on yourself in everything, and don't have the idea of dependence.
Have a good attitude, look at yesterday with a good attitude, grasp today and look forward to tomorrow.
Looking at yourself with a normal heart, supplementing yourself, improving yourself, surpassing and improving your horizons are the only ways to broaden your horizons.
Cherish the family, cherish the present, and look at everything in the present with a normal heart. Change your bad habits, have a heart of affection, tolerance and responsibility, give back to the society with a grateful heart, let go of obsession and desire, look down on gains and losses, live a high charm, live a high charm and live a high value, and the road of life will become more colorful, which is also the greatest happiness of life.
If there are any shortcomings, please advise your teachers and friends.
What causes helplessness and loneliness? Do your relatives and friends know about this situation? There is too little information, and there is nothing we can do.
Like a magnet, a person's aura will attract people and things around you to pay attention to you; Help yourself is better than help yourself. Strong people will not easily admit defeat, and will not easily beg for mercy from others. A person with a strong heart will not think of taking a test to show pity and care for you, but you should take the initiative to care for others and let them feel the love power from you. The most important thing for you is to force yourself not only to be excellent, but also to be excellent. Only in this way can you be strong and all problems will be solved!
All's well that ends well!
The Buddha said, "A flower and a world, a leaf and a bodhi. Come back with love and come back with happiness ",which contains the reason of causal cycle."
I'm sorry to say that I don't seem to love you anymore, but since we are communicating, we should be sincere, otherwise it is a waste of time. Right?
Hello, according to your question, I think you are a person who has no friends in life. Maybe it's because you are introverted and not good at talking and socializing. It may also be because you have social phobia and are afraid to make friends with others. Because you don't have a really good friend, you will feel helpless and lonely, and no one cares about you.
The first thing you should do now is to clear up your mood, adjust your mentality and face life positively and optimistically. When you are in good shape, your luck will get better and better. What kind of person you are, you will attract what kind of people. This is called the law of attraction in psychology.
Secondly, what you should do is to make some friends on your own initiative, instead of staying at home every day. For example, take part in more class reunions and social group activities. If you know more people, you will always meet like-minded friends.
Finally, what you have to do is to care about the people around you first. Life is like a mirror, it will treat you as you treat it. You give love, you will get love, you help others, and when you are in trouble, others are more likely to help you. So if you want something, you have to pay something first. In this world, there is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason. Everything is mutual.
When you are helpless, lonely and others don't care about you, give up self-confrontation and allow yourself to fall from the bottom of my heart. Only when you fall to the bottom of the abyss of despair will you have the strength to stand up again. Love yourself again, you are strong, you can attract others with charm, and you have the ability to care about others. It's called the ability to love.
Everyone is born with a sense of insecurity, which stems from the dependence on parental protection when he was a child. This experience will never be forgotten, especially when I lost my parents' shelter as a child. This helpless panic will also be fresh in my remaining memory. These are all insecurities internalized by the lack of close contact with others. People who have no sense of security actually lose themselves and need to "know themselves". "Know yourself" is a famous saying engraved on the lintel of Apollo Temple in Delphini, ancient Greece.
While human beings are constantly knowing the world, they are also constantly knowing themselves. This is why we evaluate ourselves in social roles, and then add our own consciousness to the roles, so as to form the normative behavior of the roles, that is, role obedience. For example, employees will obey leaders, and students will obey teachers or parents, which is the expectation of social interaction in specific positions. When a person is lonely, he loses his role, is confused when he knows the world, goes to extremes when he evaluates himself, and internalizes his smallness.
If you know yourself correctly, there will be social comparison in three directions: upward social comparison, compared with powerful people, will produce negative emotional experiences such as jealousy, hostility and frustration, and become indifferent inside; Parallel comparison, looking for similarities in views and abilities, resulting in intimate or competitive relations; Compared with the lower class, it is also a kind of realm, which can make people feel sympathy or improve their sense of self-efficacy, feel useful and capable, reduce negative psychological influence, and enhance their confidence and happiness in loneliness.
In our interpersonal communication, we need to be grateful that we have worked so hard over the years and tasted the ups and downs. Life experience is our own wealth. How can you feel sweet without tasting bitter? Need to be grateful to others, Buddha said: "The appearance of bad guys is to teach themselves a lesson and teach themselves a lot of truth;" The appearance of good people is arranged by heaven to help themselves. Therefore, in any case, we should face the world with gratitude. "
As long as one person communicates, role-playing will occur. If there are exchange activities, there will be relations. Correct your mentality, gain self-confidence, help others by yourself, care for others by yourself, and become an indispensable part of life with others. Others will also pay attention to themselves. The loved one is back, and the blessed one is back. This is why we are getting stronger every day, because we have learned to love ourselves and help others more with our own strength. Being needed by others is not contradictory to our need for others. When we are baptized by sunshine, we are also infected by darkness.
When we are lonely, we will feel that we are not, fragile and indifferent, judge others by ourselves, lose ourselves and find no direction. When I am humble, I often ask myself what I am living for. People live to act and pay the price for their meaningful actions. If others don't care about themselves, why isn't it formed by their own indifference? If they strengthen themselves and become the people needed by others, they should also learn to care and rely on others. This is the network stability of intimate relationship. We need to be self-reliant and trouble others to grow up. The best relationship is always mutual need. Only when we ask for help can we really understand.
People always like to compete with themselves when they are most helpless and lonely. They always feel that no one helps them, no friends, and their relatives don't care about themselves. They pull their emotions to the bottom, regard failure as their incompetence, do not restore their previous lives, resist changing their shortcomings, and can't break the temptation when they are obsessed with mobile phones. At that time, it was ridiculous to say that "others don't care about themselves" can restart their enthusiasm for the outside world. To change or control bad emotions, we should do several things: optimize our own space environment, keep ourselves away from temptation, and leave only things beneficial to our growth in the space environment, such as leaving only one book when we are disconnected from the internet and focusing on the right things; Design a serial stream driver, such as getting up early, setting an alarm clock at the bedside, setting an alarm clock in the living room and setting an alarm clock in the kitchen. In the process of turning off the alarm clock, all the drowsiness disappears, prompting yourself what to do, training into a habit, getting used to changing the mentality, and the mentality determines the correct position; The process of designing goals, when the trough is equal to starting from scratch, starting with low-key and small goals and enhancing self-confidence, is the positive motivation of self-motivation. You need to choose your own life, and where to go is up to you. Choice is a new way of life.
Through the above changes, with the development of outward activities, there is no need to worry about new relationships on the way forward. People will despise their abilities, look down on themselves, hurt themselves, internalize themselves and become worse than dust. Just like the first sentence at the beginning, people are more powerful when they reach the bottom of the valley, and they can see through life and death, just like the song "Starting from scratch": No matter how hard it is, we must be strong, just for those expecting eyes. If the heart is in a dream, there is still true love between heaven and earth. Life is heroic and depends on success or failure, just starting from scratch.
We have had a life experience, so we need to keep running in, forget the grievances, cherish the people around us and get to know new relationships. In fact, we are not alone, but we have never let go of ourselves, forgive ourselves and rebuild ourselves!
Keep a pet.