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Day 1, Essence Interpretation
(20th Century Success Mentor Dale Carnegie)
As long as you want to change, you can change yourself.
In this world, everyone’s personality varies greatly, and their emotions are also varied: bold or timid, introverted or extroverted, optimistic or pessimistic, confident or inferior. They do not only depend on the so-called genetic genes, but more on acquired cultivation and tempering.
The spirit can defeat bad luck, and emotions can dominate life.
As long as we choose and cultivate open-minded, optimistic and positive emotions, we can shape a new self and make ourselves perfect.
If you can't be a road, then be a path; if you can't be the sun, then be a star.
Don’t let size determine your winning or losing, but if you do, be the best version of yourself!
For a tree to grow taller and receive more light, its roots must reach deeper into the darkness.
The boxing champion is not necessarily the most powerful, but the one who can take the most beatings.
If you are determined to succeed and continue to work hard for 5 years, you will succeed within 5 years; but if you want to fail, you have to make up your mind and spend thirty to forty years or even a lifetime to become a success. A total failure. Success is easier than failure, so why should we sacrifice the easy for the difficult?
A change in concept can change a person's life.
If you don’t want to do it, you will find 10 excuses; if you want to do it, you will find 1,000 ways.
As long as you choose to change, you can become the version of yourself that seems impossible today!
By changing your state of mind, you can change your environment
The situation everyone is in now is caused by their past life attitude. Therefore, if you want to change your future life, make it better. If everything goes smoothly, you must first change your thoughts at this time. If you insist on wrong ideas and are stubborn and unwilling to change, no matter how hard you try, you may not be able to experience the joy of success.
When you have indulged in a comfortable environment for too long, everything has become a settled situation. You are just walking along the inertia of life, and you no longer have the eager desire to pursue career and success. The edges and sharpness of the past have been smoothed away. Such people are miserable, destined to be mediocre in their careers and achieve nothing. Therefore, the wise approach should be to start by changing yourself.
It is better to let the environment adapt to yourself than to let yourself adapt to the environment.
The environment you lived in in the past is not important, nor is your past. As long as you are willing to make changes in the new environment, you can blaze a new path through your own efforts.
The most valuable thing in life is a positive attitude
We often hear some people complain that their environment does not create the necessary conditions for his success. In fact, the impact of the environment on people often does not lie in the environment itself, but in our view of the environment. How we treat life is how life treats us; how we treat others is how others treat us.
Everyone is in a certain social environment and natural environment. For a long time, we have been accustomed to thinking that the environment restricts us. In fact, what really restricts us is not the environment, but our mentality. On the road to success, whether you have a good attitude directly affects your understanding of the things around you.
Mindset is the most amazing power in the world.
Our attitude determines our future, transforming the thoughts rooted in our minds into tangible realities. For those who are motivated by a positive attitude to become successful, any adversity will simultaneously produce a seed of equal or greater energy.
A positive attitude inspires people's self-confidence and will. In the face of strong perseverance, no difficulty can be overcome. The day you realize your positive attitude is the most valuable day you will ever experience.
A positive attitude creates your noble personality, is the magic weapon for your success, is your motivation to move forward, and is your most powerful weapon to overcome setbacks. A positive attitude enables you to gain the most valuable things in life.
It can help you overcome difficulties and discover your own strength; it can help you get ahead of your competitors.
Don’t let pessimism occupy your mind
In this world, two different people create two different attitudes. Pessimistic people face life with a negative attitude; optimistic people face life with a positive attitude. Facing life, pessimistic people always see disappointment and even despair; on the contrary, optimistic people always find the last glimmer of hope in disappointment.
If we open our hearts and maintain a healthy and upbeat attitude, even if we are in adversity and surrounded by enemies, we will still be able to see the beautiful scenery outside the window. Once we have our mentality right, we will live and work in a pleasant and relaxed environment. We will feel that the sun is shining every day, so that we can completely relax our body and mind and enjoy life.
Only when you are passionate about life can you see the beauty of life
While you are alive, you must cherish life and not allow yourself to have any shortcomings. If today is the last day of your life, you will cherish life doubly, love life, and spare no effort to do things that are meaningful to yourself and others, so that the eternal theme of survival can be integrated into a more humane experience, then You will experience the thrill of self-improvement.
Be the master of your own destiny
People should be their own masters and control their own destiny, and should not hand themselves over to others. But some people in life cannot control themselves. Some people have given themselves over to money and become slaves of money. Some people have become prisoners of power for the sake of power. Some people cannot withstand various setbacks in life. With difficult trials, surrender yourself to God.
If you are your own master, you cannot become a slave of money or a prisoner of power. Only by having a firm will and maintaining your true nature in the face of various temptations can you not lose yourself. Those who are too keen on pursuing external things may eventually get what they want, but at the same time they may lose themselves.
We have the right to decide for ourselves what we should do in life. We cannot let others make decisions for us, let alone let others influence our will.
We should be the masters of our destiny and not let our fate control us. When we face the inevitable setbacks, difficulties, and illnesses in life, if we are defeated and let these stumbling blocks in life dominate us and focus on the torture of illness all day long, making our days only have pain and no happiness, then It means losing yourself.
Be content and never be a slave to desire
This is a very tempting society. This is an era of expanding desires. People’s hearts are always filled with desires. and extravagant desires. Modern people who pursue fame and wealth always want to wear high-end brand names, eat delicacies from the mountains and seas, live in country villas, travel and buy BMWs and expensive cars... Everything is dominated by desire.
Life is like a river, with its source, its flow, and its end. No matter how long the river of life is, it will eventually reach its end and flow into the ocean. Life will eventually end. What's wrong with having less desire and more happiness when you're alive?
People's dissatisfaction often comes from comparison. Similarly, if people want to be content, they can also get it through comparison. If you can lower some standards in life, take a step back and think about it, you can be content and happy.
Don’t regret the things you missed
Flowers bloom for a season. Everyone wants to have no regrets in this life. Everyone wants to make everything they do last forever. correct so as to achieve the intended purpose. But this can only be a beautiful fantasy. It is impossible for people not to do wrong things, and it is impossible not to take detours. It is normal to feel regret after doing something wrong or taking a detour. This is a kind of self-reflection. It is precisely because of this kind of "positive regret" that we will go better and more steadily in the future of life.
The past is past, don’t cry over spilled milk! Life cannot repeat the past years. Time flies like an arrow and there is no time to regret. Every nourishment in life is a lesson learned from past mistakes. Don't repeat the same mistakes in your future life. You must know that "you can't admonish the past, but you can still pursue the past."
Don’t regret it if you miss it. Regret cannot change reality, it will only miss the beauty of the future and add shadow to future life. Finally, let us remember Carnegie's words: "If we don't get what we hope for, it is best not to let worry and regret disturb our lives. And let us forgive ourselves and learn to be more open-minded."
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There are often many confusions in life, but we rarely realize that behind these confusions, there are often hidden walls in our minds that hinder us and separate us from a beautiful life. Separated.
These thinking walls may be "I don't have a high degree of education", "I am embarrassed to ask for help", "I am just an ordinary person", etc. Remove these walls in your thinking. You can achieve success, happiness, confidence and happiness
"Destined" is an excuse for the weak to comfort themselves
Many people think that they are "destined" to be poor and frustrated. Because they believe that there are some strange forces beyond their control. These forces may be the influence of traditional concepts, the role of negative emotions, etc.
Your confidence and your beliefs are what govern subconscious actions. factors. When you suggest to your subconscious mind, no one can stop you from "cheating" your subconscious mind. We can all turn failure into victory. So, please learn from the setbacks and make good use of them instead of holding on to them. If you have a mentality of being destined to fail, you can take failure calmly.
The most terrible failure is to admit defeat psychologically.
There will be countless opponents in your life, and they will use various methods. Challenge you in many ways, but in the end, the shadow of failure often starts in your own heart
When life throws away a problem, there will inevitably be a solution
We must firmly believe: When life throws us a problem, it will inevitably give us a solution to the problem.
In life, we do not always have to hope for everything to go smoothly and have good luck. You must know that life is fickle. It's the same as the weather. You can't predict what will happen. There will be strong winds and heavy rains at any time. No matter what knocks you down in life, you must be able to reorganize yourself, like a strong warrior, get up again after falling and meet the new situation. Challenges.
Life is not always smooth sailing. Frustration and failure are often encountered unexpectedly. Luck and misfortune are equally unforgettable and unforgettable. No matter what we face, we should not get carried away or be pessimistic and despair. They are successful in their careers because they did not give up in the face of setbacks, but found new ways to achieve success.
Handling problems flexibly
Being adaptable and flexible is a kind of wisdom. This kind of wisdom benefits people a lot.
If we do not habitually think according to conventional thinking and learn to be flexible, then you will find that "there is a bright future in the dark"
Don’t be too biased when things happen
Being flexible can make us less depressed, more happy, less troubled, and more happy.
Don’t be too biased when things happen, and people will feel more comfortable. , and feel at ease.
Put yourself in someone else's shoes, two ideas
Life is full of surprises and changes. Those who only follow the past or are content with the status quo will eventually lose their future. As a human being, you should know how to turn around at the right time and think from someone else's perspective. Find a way out for your difficulties. Difficulties are not as complicated as you think. As long as you change your perspective, you can find solutions and breakthroughs.
What successful people have in common: Dare to think, dare to do, and can do it
If you have the courage to try, then failure in something may be expected; however, Never heard of anyone tripping while sitting still.
Most successful people have three unique characteristics: first, they dare to think, second, they dare to do, and third, they can do it.
To dare to think is not to have baseless thoughts, but to have a clear goal of your own. This thing must be something you really want to achieve; to dare to do is not to violate laws and disciplines or to use any means, but to dare to do it. A persistent attitude is a kind of tenacity that will not give up until the goal is achieved; people who can do it often do not need to have too much talent. As long as you are willing to put in hard work and sweat, you can become the person who can do it.
Changes in life do not depend on others bringing us opportunities, but on ourselves being good at thinking, daring to do, and even better at turning what we think into practical actions. Only in this way can you have more opportunities to change your life.
Dismantling: Love