"There is no filial son before the bed for a long time", which means that if the old man in the family is sick for a long time, or even bedridden, then it is difficult for his children to be filial.
Isn't filial piety a traditional virtue that should be followed? Why is there such a statement?
In fact, the reason is simple, but it is human nature.
A filial person will be kind to his parents, pay for their old-age care and medical care, and work hard when their parents are in an emergency, but if their parents are not in great danger, but they can't take care of themselves, it will become an invisible burden in the family.
It's chilling to say so, but that's the truth.
The greatness of parents is that they always think of their children. Therefore, children who become parents will care more about their children, and they also have their own busy lives. The parents of the previous generation will become an embarrassing existence.
When a child is young, parents can go to sleep painstakingly, even without caring about the uncontrollable excretion of the child. But when parents are old, they become white-haired "children". When they grow up, children will care about their loss of memory and ability to act, and of course they will dislike their excretion after bed.
This problem is very realistic and helpless. In the process of blood transmission, people's love is transmitted to the next generation in one direction, just like an old tree gives all its nutrients to its seedlings, but it dries up day by day. People don't care about old trees, but only see lush new trees in their eyes. It is precisely because of this that life will be passed on.
Fortunately, the medical and pension systems are becoming more and more perfect. As long as you have the ability, you can ask someone to take care of the patient. Therefore, there is still a chance to break the curse of "no dutiful son in front of the hospital bed".
It is easy to understand that a poor family has not had a good wife for a long time, because there is another saying that "poor couples are always sad."
Although some girls don't care about each other's family and economic situation when they get married, this kind of marriage that pursues love blindly is prone to various contradictions after the passion fades after marriage.
If it is a temporary difficulty, the wife may be able to bite her teeth and survive, but if there is no hope for the future at all, she will only change her temperament in the trivial matter of daily necessities.
Life is the heaviest blow. As a housekeeper, no matter how clever a woman is, she will never cook without rice.
She can only learn to bargain with the stall owner with sharp teeth and sharp mouth, satirize and criticize her husband for doing nothing, and her heart is full of resentment, thinking about getting married after seeing her eyes.
What's more, she will leave directly. You can blame her for having no conscience, but she is just an ordinary person who thinks hard. There's nothing wrong with that.
In the final analysis, the economic base determines the superstructure.
Although these two proverbs are pessimistic, they are not inevitable. In modern society, even an ordinary person with general talent, as long as he has hands and feet, why not bring a happy life to his family?
The philosophy and wisdom of life left by our ancestors are worth learning and teaching us to see through people's hearts.
After thousands of years, the words of our ancestors are still enduring, not only with a summary of social experience, but also with great wisdom in being a man and doing things, which is worth learning from future generations and making them take fewer detours!