"Lihua" means an old man with white hair, and "Begonia" means a young girl. This poem refers to the marriage of an old husband and a young wife, where the "white-haired person" suppresses the "shy person like flowers". In today's terms, it is a very old cow eating very young grass.
The version currently circulating is that Su Shi wrote this poem to describe Zhang Xian taking concubines in his eighties. Zhang Xian is in his eighties and of course has white hair. The concubine is eighteen years old and naturally has a smile as bright as a flower. The story says that Mr. Zhang later lived to be 88 years old, and his concubine gave him four children, two sons, two daughters, in eight years. When Mr. Zhang died, his concubine cried so hard that she died of depression within a few years.
In real life, most people disapprove or reject the idea of ??"old cows eating young grass". For example, most people are puzzled by the matter between Professor Yang Chenning and Weng Fan.
A good-looking girl has a high degree of education and good looks. She must be qualified, good-looking, and talented in learning. Why do you have to find a dying old man? Even if he is good at everything, age is an objective reality. How many years can he be with you no matter how good he is? What should you do if he is buried in bliss? Spend the rest of your life alone? It would be better not to marry in the first place. Marry again in the future? Can you still meet someone who understands your marriage of an old man and a young wife?
Some time ago, news came out that Professor Yang had finally made arrangements for part of his inheritance, which meant that he had made arrangements for the rest of Weng Fan's life after his death. In these years, in order for Weng Fan to remarry after his death, they did not have children. As for Weng Fan's future, we can only wait and see. We cannot agree with this kind of marriage between an old man and a young wife, and it is inconvenient for us to make rash comments.
I can only say: Only the parties involved know best whether a marriage is good or not. Just like whether the shoes fit well, only your feet know best.