China people go abroad for a better life, especially some successful families in China want a higher quality of life and a better education for their children, so some go to Australia to break new ground in the name of studying in Australia, or simply become family immigrants. A pioneer works hard overseas, and a pioneer stays at home, full of expectations, hoping that one day he or she can reunite with his or her distant family and fly in a foreign country together.
Before going abroad, these families all had the same ideal, thinking that overseas arachis duranensis was a paradise, regardless of difficulties. When one party is far away from home, facing the pressure from all sides, the loneliness of the soul, the loneliness of leaving home, and the hardships of a person's struggle will all cause a great psychological gap. At this time, the words and encouragement of distant family members are difficult to solve the loneliness in a foreign land and the indifferent reality of society. Therefore, in order to seek mutual snuggling, they temporarily joined together and made a fire to find a partner to live, and overseas "temporary couples" came into being.
First, sign a temporary couple.
"The gentleman's agreement, domestic families don't know his wife.
When I first arrived in Melbourne, I knew the owner of a restaurant in China. He is from Nanjing. Before he came to Australia, he was said to be the boss of a third-class army. Before going abroad, he met the person in charge of a domestic bank through friends. After several years of communication, they became good friends. Through this good friend, he deposited most of the domestic funds in his friend's name. When he went to Melbourne after completing all the formalities in China, he found that this friend had resigned and left, taking all the funds under his name. Even more helpless, he rented a China restaurant with the money he carried with him, and his wife and children's promise to come to Melbourne was dashed.
The owner of this restaurant is at a loss about all the laws and regulations in Australia because he doesn't know the Australian language. When recruiting waiters, the boss made it clear that employees must understand the laws and regulations of Britain and Australia, and those who meet the requirements are well paid. As the saying goes, "there must be a brave man under the four rewards." A lady from Shanghai came to apply for a job. She studied economics in a school in Melbourne for two years and is about to graduate. It is difficult to find a job. She wants to stay in Australia. Although her husband wanted her to go back, she "wouldn't obey foreign military orders", so the woman began to work in the boss's restaurant.
In a few months, the relationship between them has developed by leaps and bounds, appearing in pairs in front of friends and classmates. The boss said that they had a "gentleman's agreement", and if their family came to Australia in the future, their temporary cohabitation relationship would end immediately. Because the boss can't give up the children in China and the women can't give up the beautiful Melbourne, their "temporary husband and wife" gentleman agreement is unknown to their families in China.
Second, in Huadu, I am content with the status quo and emotionally "herding sheep"
Another painter friend of mine used to be a teacher in an art academy in China. After arriving in Melbourne in the 1990s, my life was wandering and I didn't land, so I painted in Melbourne. Because my friend's painting skills are solid, he is familiar with character sketches, and he is diligent and witty, and his income is getting richer day by day, and he has gradually gained a foothold under the Melbourne Tower. A year later, he moved out of the temporary store and applied for a cheap government studio outside Melbourne.
The painter's friends have a stable life and their feelings are turbulent. His wife also teaches at a university in China and is unwilling to come to Melbourne. He is lonely and free. With more and more China students coming to Melbourne, his friends have gradually become temporary "inns" for single female students' "feelings" and "bodies". After delivering one batch, another batch will come. Later, I heard that he was divorced and his wife was having an affair in China. My friends didn't pay special attention, because the ending now is also in imagination. Because of the divorce, the painter's friend has no last hurdle psychologically, and his emotional life has become more free. This situation of painter friends can be said to be a special case of overseas Chinese life.
Situation 3: Make love when you are drunk, and disperse when you wake up.
With China's opening to the outside world, some teachers and scholars from domestic universities and research departments came to Australia, and some visiting scholars from China came from the north and south of the motherland and some from a city. Their time in Australia is usually short, ranging from one year to several months. However, it is difficult for them to fill their temporary loneliness with the fragrance of flowers traveling in a foreign land, so some of them live a "temporary couple" life semi-openly and semi-secretly. After the visit, the husband and wife came home. Were they strangers or just sneaked in? People don't know.
There are also some people who have stayed here in the form of tourism from China in recent years. Most of them are laid-off workers in China. After these compatriots arrived in France, life was even more difficult because of the language barrier, and it was difficult to find a job. A dozen people crowded into a room, commonly known as "bunks". Among the people who opened the shop, men worked as coolies, and some took risks to start a triad business. Women work as nannies in overseas Chinese families, and some also engage in prostitution. After their respective jobs, they went home to live together as "temporary couples". Most of these compatriots have homes in China, and China people are proud of their faces. They always bring good news to their families, not bad news. They only describe Australia's colorful world and beautiful paradise, but never mention the bitterness and bitterness overseas. The situation of China compatriots overseas is really like a duck to water.
The "temporary couples" in overseas China have different styles and different endings. Some have changed from temporary to lifelong, some have changed from staying behind to husband's (wife's) cliff, and some have a paper marriage, both of which have their own opinions. Some have gone through hardships and finally returned to the sea.
How to keep the hope of "Goose Qi Fei" from becoming "Yuanyang Tomb"? There may be only one way: when considering going abroad, couples must know the real "foreign land", think less about the bright future, think more about the unknown difficulties, think twice before you act, and be careful.
The Case of "Temporary Couple" for International Students
Mr. Li, who lives in Tianjin, went to Australia alone five years ago in the name of visiting relatives. His wife and five-year-old son stayed in Chinese mainland. Due to economic and emotional factors, after staying in new york for half a year, he began to live together openly with Miss Zhang, who is also from the mainland. Miss Zhang, who is studying in Sydney, also has a family in the mainland, so the two reached an agreement that as long as one family member applies to go to the United States, the cohabitation relationship will be terminated immediately. Mr. Li in Beijing had the same experience, but the ending was quite different. He lived with women in China and insisted on refusing to divorce. As a result, his wife in Beijing broke up because of the distance, and the two married cohabiting partners in Australia and China respectively.
Miss Zhang, who works in Sydney, lives with Mr. Wang, a visiting scholar from Guangzhou, because of her mental and economic needs. Before cohabitation, both parties made it clear that each other's other half would return to their respective places when they came to Australia for reunion. However, because nosy people revealed to their partners that they eventually parted ways with another partner, they were not married.
Chinese mainland experts say that the biggest enemy of marriage is being replaced. In the past, because of war and famine, husband and wife separated, and finally the tragedy of Lao Yan's separation was unknown. However, in modern society, because of the floating population, the divorce rate keeps rising, just like the rise of China people living in Australia? Temporary couple? Phenomenon, although the proportion is not high, but the impact is not small, it can be said that it subverts the traditional concept of marriage and love in the mainland.