If you are weak or admit that you are weak, you are likely to be bullied by others.
For example, Zhu Zhiwen, big coat.
Zhu Zhiwen was a farmer and a lazy farmer before he became famous.
He doesn't like doing farm work, but only likes singing.
Because he didn't like to do farm work, he was looked down upon by the villagers, so he became the weak in the village.
Before he became famous, everyone bullied him and criticized him.
He is used to being criticized, so he is used to it.
Therefore, he is used to pretending to be weak.
After becoming famous, he still pretended to be weak.
The weak have a psychology that they like to please the strong.
Therefore, after he became famous, he still used to please those people in the village, and he responded to the demands of the villagers.
However, when the village saw that the person they despised the most became a big star, they were unbalanced and tried to bully him.
For example, borrowing money from him, borrowing it again and again, and deliberately not paying it back.
When Zhu Zhiwen went to collect the bill, he wanted to give him a beating.
However, it is said that Zhu Zhiwen later became tough on the villagers, and they gradually became tolerant.
Therefore, when a person is weak, he is surrounded by the worst people.
Another example is Ah Q in The True Story of Ah Q, who is also a weak person in their village and is always bullied by them.
But he wants to bully people weaker than him, such as little nuns and little d.
Many people are used to bullying people weaker than themselves.
Another example is Wu Dalang in the Water Margin. Because he is short, he is often bullied by others, but as long as Song Wu is at home, others don't even dare to fart in his house.
Because of weakness, Ximen Qing seduced his wife.
Because of his weakness, Ximen Qing and Pan Jinlian conspired to poison him.
Imagine, if he is a malicious character, does Ximen Qing dare to play Pan Jinlian's idea?
Does Pan Jinlian dare to poison him?
Another example is my grandfather, who is a very honest man.
In collective production, he was elected as the captain of the production team because he was very hardworking and not lazy.
There is a Zhang San in the team who has a problem with Li Si.
So Zhang San urged my grandfather to secretly push Li Si down from a very high slope on the grounds that Li Si was not active in labor.
As you can imagine, my grandfather's punishment will not be too light.
As long as you are weak, someone will try to bully you.
Another example is that I have a neighbor whose son grew up with me.
His parents died when he was in his twenties.
Nobody cares about him, so he doesn't do farm work at home.
He is not lazy, but he can't discipline himself.
His great strength shows that his parents did a lot of things when they were alive.
He never refuses others' help when they have something at home.
In those years, because there was no food, many people stole the collective trees and sold them.
He is one of them.
Later, the country implemented the family quota system, and everyone had food, so he stopped stealing trees, but he didn't change it. He not only steals trees, but also chickens and dogs. In the end, he simply stopped stealing trees and only stole chickens and dogs.
His wife also ran away.
People in the village told him to do farm work, but at the same time they hated him, saying that he had had a good meal all his life.
While buying his stolen goods cheaply, they criticized him and educated him to do something serious.
He usually steals from people far away, but whoever loses something nearby, such as a chicken, will ask him for it. He can only honestly lose a chicken.
As long as you are incapable, as long as you are weak, you will become the object of education by others.
I have always felt that he is actually an honest man. If his parents were here, his life would definitely be better than most people.
"Weak" is sometimes not really weak, but kind.
Others regard kindness as weakness.
If you are too kind, you will be surrounded by many bad people.
For example, when Ma Xiao first came to work in the company, she took the initiative to help them do this and that, so as to impress the colleagues in the company.
Later, people in the company not only didn't feel embarrassed, but regarded him as a maid who ordered him around.
She can't finish her own work, and she has to help them finish many tasks.
So she decided to refuse them.
One day, a colleague brought a document and said to Pony, help me print this document.
Sorry, I still have a few forms to do. I really don't have time.
Later, colleagues gradually stopped bothering her whenever something happened.
Therefore, when you meet unreasonable demands from others, you should know how to refuse, otherwise you will be regarded as weak and bullied.
Another example is a good man selling garbage. He made a lot of money selling garbage in Shenzhen, so he gave 500 yuan to a group of beggars there every month.
Later, the business benefit was not good, so only 100 was issued.
This caused great dissatisfaction among beggars, and some even called the police.
A beggar said: if he did something good, the country would definitely lose him, and now he has embezzled the money.
So if a person is too kind, there will be the worst people around him.
Since we are weak, there are the worst people, so what should we do?
That's naturally stronger.
Being strong is not overbearing and unreasonable, but not letting others think that you are a weak person.
So, how can we become stronger?
First, fight for breath, don't be looked down upon.
Brother Tai was bullied because he was too lazy to sing and do farm work.
If he can not only sing, but also do farm work and is not looked down upon by those people, then after he becomes famous, the villagers will not only be jealous of him, but also be proud of having such a big man in the village.
If my neighbor can be self-disciplined and stop stealing chickens and dogs, he will definitely use his own strength to make his life better, instead of listening to their education when he meets everyone.
Second, don't please the strong, don't bully the weak, yell at them when they are bullied, and don't get used to treating yourself as a weak person.
The reason why Ah Q is regarded as a weak person is because when he is bullied, he also please the bully.
In order to please those strongmen, he deliberately molested the little nun.
When someone bullies you, you should yell at him loudly. Many of them dare not bully you from now on because of your imposing manner, instead of secretly saying "my son beat Lao Zi" like Ah Q.
Never get used to thinking of yourself as a weak person.
If you are used to thinking of yourself as a weak person, you will really become a weak person.
Third, when encountering some powerful evil forces, we should dare to use legal weapons to protect ourselves.
For example, if Wu Dalang is bullied, he can complain to the yamen. Of course, it may not have much effect in his time, but it will still be very useful in our time.
Fourth, think independently, don't be too honest, and don't be what others say.
Like my grandfather, he is the easiest person to be used by malicious people, as others say.
Therefore, we must have our own ideas in everything, and don't be what others say.
Fifth, we should know how to refuse and dare to say no.
If you can't say no, you won't refuse. Not only will others not regard you as Lei Feng, who is helpful to others, but they will also think that you are a fool who can come and go at any time.
I hope everyone in the world can restrain the bad habit of bullying the weak, don't please the strong, don't bully the weak, and be a strong and kind person.