This point of view is wrong. In the workplace, people who don't have their own principled stand and bottom line for dealing with others are commonly known as bad people. In order to please others, they can lose their own position and principles. The more they please others, the more they look down upon them, and of course, the easier they are to be bullied. First, why bad people are more vulnerable to being bullied by others.
you often meet some bad people in the workplace. "It's better to do more than less, and I'm afraid of offending my colleagues. No matter how sarcastic and sarcastic my colleagues are, he chooses to keep forbearing and smile, and never loses his temper." Colleagues always ask him to do things that his colleagues don't want to do in front of his servants. He doesn't know how to refuse, so he is stupid. He doesn't take the credit, and he usually takes the blame. A bad guy like this is always looked down upon by his colleagues, and of course he is more likely to be bullied by his colleagues. In the workplace, what kind of good person to be will make it easier to succeed in your career.
Only when you have your own opinions and principles can you win the trust and respect of your colleagues. Within the scope of your power, take the initiative to help your colleagues, and help more if you can. Remember to make unreasonable demands on your colleagues. It is your duty to learn to refuse decisively, help you, and not help you. Learn to talk to people and talk nonsense, and you can handle the relationship with leaders well when you see fairy tales.
according to my ten years' working experience, in the workplace, the better you are, the easier it is to get a promotion and salary increase, and the better you are, the easier it is to get a promotion from a leader.
I want to emphasize here that it is true that being a good person ≠ being a good person is easy to be bullied. Why can't you be a nice guy?
Good people refer to those who have no principles, will not refuse, and want to please everywhere.
I believe that everyone will meet some nice people at work, and some people are even nice people themselves. Then please recall, do these people usually come to no good end?
everyone knows the truth of fighting rice enmity.
whoever asks you to help at work will do everything, and you will not know how to refuse, and you will be afraid of offending others. Then you will have more and more things to do, and you will do what you should and shouldn't do. If you can do it well, you can forget it. However, in real life, there is a high probability that you have done many mistakes.
when you finally can't stand it, and learn to say NO, your leaders and colleagues will quickly start to hate you. They will think that you used to do it when you were asked to do it. What do you mean by quitting now? Do you look down on me?
Do you think you can get a promotion and a raise after everyone you work with has this idea? I'm afraid I'm not dreaming! You have to start over somewhere else, so don't be a good guy. How to be a person who can be a person in the eyes of others?
In many people's subconscious, being a man = high emotional intelligence = loving flattery. In fact, even if we can't kiss up to others, we can become people who can be human, as long as you can do the following two things:
If people like to associate with you, you have to be a grateful person. If others have helped you, you should express your gratitude, remember it, and try to give back to each other at the right time.
In the workplace, reporting is a kind of gratitude. Many people just bury themselves in their work, but they don't know how to report their achievements to those who have helped them, which is not conducive to their promotion and salary increase.
For example:
My leader assigned me a task and casually pointed out what I should do. I didn't finish the job quietly, but went to the leadership office to tell him that I had finished it and thank him for his guidance.
the leader will think that I can do things quickly and well because of his guidance. He has a great sense of accomplishment and likes my gratitude, so he listed me as the key training object.
being reliable means that everything is accounted for and everything is settled. At the very least, it is to meet the expectations of others and at least satisfy them.
If you want others to think you are particularly reliable, you should learn to surprise them. What should you do?
On the one hand, you should learn to manage expectations, which can make others have reasonable expectations, but you must not let others expect too much, otherwise it will be difficult for you to exceed expectations.
On the other hand, you should surprise people with the results. For example, if someone's expectation is 8 points, you will give them a delivery of 12 points, and then you will surprise them.
If you are recognized as a very reliable person in the workplace, it will be easier for you to get opportunities and get a promotion and salary increase.
Good without a bottom line is not good, but weak, and bullying is human nature.
It is the rose with thorns that makes people feel noble and revered.
If your goodness has made you feel hard and painful, what you should think is, is your so-called goodness really good?
Being good under weakness can't create a healthy, balanced and harmonious situation. On the contrary, it will make you more and more passive and harder, and even turn into a situation that is unfavorable to yourself. In the eyes of others, there is nothing for you but use. Even once you lose the use value, everyone will be indifferent to you.
instead of being a weak and rotten good person, it will not pay off in the end. It is better to be a good person with a bottom line, do what you want, give and give happily, and your inner abundance is first of all the best reward for yourself, and maybe you will gain sporadic real friendly relations.
I am the victim of this problem. I am too accommodating and then I am bullied.
Being a good person has always been pursued, but it was not until middle age that people discovered that they didn't earn money, didn't get promoted, and changed jobs several times.
That year, I accidentally learned that my boss opened a processing factory outside, supplying the factory, and it accounted for a large part of the factory's consumption. I was very upset during that time, because I had to turn a blind eye. Anyone who has worked in a factory knows that suppliers will have problems with their incoming materials from time to time. And I made a guest appearance as QC supervisor during that time. During that time, colleagues in the purchasing department often asked me to transfer some drawings, and I would be happy to help if I could finish my job. But one day my boss talked to me alone and said a lot, which means don't mind other people's business, just don't help. After listening to what he said, he was devastated and helped him hide a lot of problems in his small processing workshop. Accusing me of doing small things for other colleagues.
There are people in the workplace who will take advantage of your kindness to seek benefits for themselves, and may even make you a scapegoat at a certain stage.
There are good and evil in human nature, and some people like to be clever.
Before being a good person, it is more important to learn to protect yourself!
Let me give you an example from the reality show The Apprentice. The host of this program is very famous. He is the current US President Trump.
what will happen to people who don't know how to "quarrel" for themselves?
In that program, the two competing teams were divided by gender, that is, a group of boys and a group of girls. In the end, the boys' team won and the women's team failed because of the decision-making mistakes of the team project leaders. The rule of the program is that one person will be eliminated from the losing team.
who will be this eliminated person? Between the project leader and the two people she thinks are the worst performers in the team, choose one of the three.
These three people will have a chance to explain in front of the judges. But it is not so much an explanation to the judges as an argument between these three people to see who can win the chance to stay for themselves.
In this explanation, the team leader commented on the performance of two players and explained why she thought these two players performed the worst. One of the team members and the person in charge had a heated debate, and the two men were tit for tat, which has formed a "quarrel" situation.
The team member said bluntly, "I once questioned your plan and made suggestions to you during the project implementation, but you didn't adopt it." Her meaning is so obvious that she just needs to say the words "It's your fault".
The other team member kept silent and didn't even get a chance to interrupt. It seems that the quarrel between the two people has nothing to do with her.
guess, who will be eliminated in the end?
It was not the project leader who made the wrong decision, but the "good guy" who kept silent and didn't argue for himself.
You must learn to protect yourself before you can help others.
I think this sentence by my teacher is actually quite rich in connotation. It is a woman's philosophy of life, which includes not only dealing with people, dealing with family and social relationships, but also the golden rule of the workplace.
if you put it in the workplace, I think this sentence should be given to all "good people": you must learn to protect yourself before you can be a "good person".
if others blame you for all their irrelevant things, and you hate it, don't be a "good person". Be a good person, don't forget a principle: you can help others, but don't build on your own pain.
In the workplace, how to distinguish between being a person and doing things
The essence of work is actually exchange. First, you must recognize this concept clearly, so that you can distinguish what you have to do within your job.
In the first half of my life, He Han told Luo Zijun that the workplace is not for making friends. Therefore, the first thing in the workplace is to complete your own job.
"In the workplace, the better you are, the easier you are to be bullied".
first of all, we should know how to be a good person. There are many kinds of good people, and the most common one is the good guy. Good people refer to those who have no principles, will not refuse, and want to please everywhere. There is a nice guy in our unit. His name is Xiaohui. He often helps others to do their work on duty. There are endless things, sometimes something goes wrong, and he is criticized by the leaders. He complains himself and enjoys it.
I believe that everyone will meet some nice people at work, and some of them are nice people themselves.
Another kind of good person is an able person. He can do his job well and help others in many things, and he has a good reputation and is appreciated by leaders. This kind of person who thinks what others think and helps others needs can be called in the workplace, and the better he is. Such people will not be bullied, but will be respected more and more.
secondly, how to be a respectable and good person? My answer is to be considerate of others. Someone who can think of others. Never lonely. It is compassion to be able to think of others from their perspective. Willing to think of others, showing carefulness, patience, care, love and respect. Can be exchanged for the trust and recognition of others.
we don't want to be considerate of others in return. That's the utilitarian's thinking, and the key is to get peace of mind and a little relief after helping others. However, God won't let our kindness pass away for no reason. I found that thinking of others with a heart that has nothing to ask for often leads to unexpected returns.
you have nothing to ask for. Pay for others without considering the return, even though you don't think about what you will get. But everyone has a steelyard in their hearts, because you have paid, because you have brought this team together! People will gradually give you many things that you didn't want at all. Just like in the novel Yongzheng Dynasty, Yongzheng didn't want to be a prince at first. Just silently helping Kangxi deal with the affairs of state affairs, regardless of gains and losses, there are other princes who are fighting for power and power for the throne of the prince. Destroy each other, everything Yongzheng did Kangxi saw in his eyes and remembered in his heart. In the end, Yongzheng's actions brought him the throne.
everyone knows that a good cup of tea can't be brewed with warm water. Be sure to use Buddha water. Only Buddha's water can get all the taste of tea in. People, too, should be calm in doing things. If you are impetuous, it is like making tea with warm water, and it will never reach the temperature. It's just that it's hard to make a profit everywhere and everything goes well.
People who enter the workplace have expectations, and all they see is sunshine and flowers. If you only expect but are afraid of hard work. If you are too slow to go on the road or are too arrogant and give up halfway, then happiness will never arrive. And will never be a good man respected by people!
If you want to be a good person in the workplace, you must be a bad person first. This bad person doesn't mean to deliberately harm others by intrigue.
This sentence can be said to be reasonable or unreasonable.
It's reasonable: in the work, it's reasonable to constantly improve your ability, make yourself better and help more people at the same time.
it is unreasonable that being a good person does not mean being a good person. For example, it's like Lao Jin in My First Half Life. Do you think he is good? To tell the truth, it's quite good. Going to the kitchen under the hall not only captured Luo Zijun and Pinger's stomach, but also never quarreled with anyone at work, and was unanimously evaluated as a "good man" by people in the mall.
But it is such a good man. When Luo Zijun saw the reality clearly and proposed to draw a line with him, the hostility of the whole shopping mall to Luo Zijun made people shudder.
in other words, how is he Han? He looks heartless and gets along with righteousness. He not only loves Tang Jing all the time, but also helps Luo Zijun and those who can help him in every detail, and gives them the best advice at the same time. When a problem happens, it's not about who is responsible for it, but about taking it first and then trying to solve it.
then, who is doing a good job? There is no specific standard for this. I think as long as it is not a deliberate "evil", it should be called "good".
yes, you should be a little busy with kindness.