(1) more understanding.
In marriage, changing oneself is God, changing the other person is mental derangement, and no one is perfect. No matter how beautiful a marriage is, it is not a place of reason, but a place of love. Don't be too picky, don't be too cynical, turn a blind eye, grasp the big and let go of the small, and know how to "let go". It's really great wisdom in life. The length of marriage is often in direct proportion to the tolerance for each other's shortcomings. Marriage is like porcelain, which needs to be handled with care. Marriage, like business, needs to be managed with care.
② Multiple tolerance
For marriage, everyone's living habits are different. When couples get along well, they will seek common ground while reserving differences, but they will not compromise. Therefore, the most important thing is not to always impose your ideas on each other. Marriage is the mutual nourishment and support of two people. (1) Overcome the difficulties of life together. (2) grow up together and become better together, instead of the other party sacrificing themselves and becoming someone they are not used to and don't like.
3 communicate more.
Express your thoughts directly. The more tortuous the expression, the more likely it is to lead to misunderstanding. If one party actively communicates, the other party will also be infected and the mood will be infected with each other. You can never change each other without changing yourself. We take turns to take the initiative to compromise and show weakness in communication, and make an appointment about which time period is the exclusive time for two people to communicate with each other, and talk about recent troubles, happy things and what the other party has done well, as well as what they think the other party needs to improve. Both sides grow together.
(1) Reduce suspicion
The distrust between husband and wife is like a crack, which is quietly torn open by feelings and temporarily covered up by trivial matters. One day, quantitative change will lead to qualitative change and marriage will break down. Trust is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. A marriage without trust is like a piece of loose sand, which disappears when the wind blows. Only when husband and wife trust each other can marriage be easy and long-lasting. It is extremely important for husband and wife to respect and appreciate each other's mutual trust.
② Less violent communication.
Between husband and wife, flexible communication direction, more appreciation, more encouragement, more praise, more gratitude.
Avoid violent communication, complain less, blame less, compare less, fall behind less, and be weird less.
Serious attitude, serious action and serious management can manage your family well.
③ Less Cold War
Silence must not affect the normal life of husband and wife, which will not only solve the problem, but will worsen the situation. When couples encounter problems, they must open their hearts and communicate freely in time to minimize conflicts and avoid worse things. If you don't want to tell each other, and you don't want to solve your inner troubles, there may be others outside saying that the distance between two people will be farther and farther. The hearts of two people will be farther and farther away.