Especially after 90, this generation has its own personality. They have wild ideas and great leaps in their minds, but they still look forward to spending their lives according to their own ideas without regrets. Therefore, the post-90s generation is becoming the main force of unmarried infertility. What is the reason? The answer lies with parents.
In every quiet night, it should be a time to sleep peacefully, but there will be thousands of children hiding under the covers, quietly listening to the voices of mutual abuse and violence between parents, children shivering, tears wet the pillow.
In the eyes of children, they can't figure out why amiable parents curse at midnight. The discord and quarrel between his parents made him see his married life in the future and told them the cruelest facts. Children seem to have been punished in disguised form. Children can deeply understand the harm their parents have suffered in the quarrel, and the unstoppable tears are the best proof.
Every child expects his family to be happier and his parents to get along well. In the eyes of many people, parents love each other deeply, and quarreling is only a temporary disagreement, not a long-term quarrel.
But most children don't think so. Their parents often don't choose to divorce immediately, just because they fully consider that their children are still young, worried that their children can't bear the blow of their parents' divorce, and worried that there will be personality problems after losing their parents.
Therefore, after the college entrance examination, the civil affairs departments in many places lined up. Thousands of men and women who applied for divorce stood there, explaining to everyone the concept of family in the new era, that is, they can divorce if they can't stand it, and their happiness is the most important. Anyway, your child is older, and you don't have to worry about what effect it will have on your child.
Everyone is increasingly pursuing perfect personality and paying more and more attention to their own happiness. Although this is understandable, they never seem to think about their children and never think about how much harm it will do to them.
Children's biggest dream is family harmony, so they can sacrifice everything. They are too young to understand how their relatives can be separated, and they can't imagine what their life will be like after their parents divorce. In the eyes of many children, parents are their greatest reliance, and no matter which one is missing, it will bring great blows to his young mind.
Children living in quarrelsome families are full of expectations for feelings and marriage, but with the change of time, they will gradually lose confidence in marriage. The quarrel between parents, like a curse, affects their yearning for marriage. The separation of parents will become a nightmare, which will accompany them all their lives, like a mark, and affect their views on friends, family, marriage and children of the opposite sex in their later lives.
With the growth of age, children themselves are thinking about the true meaning of marriage. All kinds of ideas will make them stop insisting on traditional ideas and gradually start to think about whether marriage must exist. What does it mean to get married and have children? Does everyone have to get married and have children? In this series of thinking, they will gradually understand that the past reproduction and the guidance of others are both factors that affect whether to have children.
Most of the post-90s generation are only children. Not getting married and not having children means losing the family legacy, which is unacceptable to many older people. And choosing unmarried infertility means that you will bear the pressure from other people's abnormal eyes all your life, which should make many people feel headache. However, some people still choose to take an unusual path because they don't want to follow the crowd. They see that their parents are sad because of themselves and their marriage, and that their parents have all kinds of personality defects because they don't understand family education methods.
On the one hand, they don't want to bear the work pressure brought by getting married and having children. They want to pursue a perfect and casual life and expect to devote their energy, money and time to realizing the value of life. On the other hand, they don't want to hurt their children because of their ignorance. They can't guarantee that they can teach their children well, and they are worried that they will bring a lot of harm to their children like their parents.
After 90, it has become the backbone of unmarried infertility. As time goes by, more and more people will have this idea, but it takes a lot of courage to put it into action.