Men have men's pursuits, and women have women's pursuits. The pursuit of a man is nothing more than a dry cloud; The pursuit of women is nothing more than elegance. Masculinity is dry, so that you can glad you came in this life; Only when a woman is elegant can she remain young forever.
A man is a gentleman only if he keeps three qi.
inhale air
When a woman looks at a man, what she often values most is self-motivation; When men look at men, they often value ambition the most; One is qi, the other is ambition, and together they are "ambition". If a man wants to do business, he can't do anything without ambition. As Shen Juyong said in Qing Dynasty: Nothing is impossible without ambition; Lv Kun in Ming Dynasty said: What's wrong with ambition?
Therefore, a gentleman should be like the old man Song Wan said: a tiger is thin and ambitious, while a man is poor and ambitious. As Liu Guo said in the Southern Song Dynasty: A hundred rivers can move mountains, and people's aspirations are like this. For example, "Water Margin" said: Broad-chested, invincible; The words are grand, and the ambition of Lingyun is spit out.
Ambition, ambition is the direction of men, and qi is the motivation of men. With direction and motivation, why not achieve the goal?
Brave deeds
Ambition is a firm will in the heart, and heroism is a surging pride in the chest. Ambition is not heroic, even if the road of life is striding forward, there is always less feelings and less interest. A gentleman is always full of heroism. The implication is that, as Xin Qiji said in his words, Jin Ge is an iron horse, swallowing Wan Li like a tiger. Another example is Lu You's poem: drunken whale slaying depends on heavenly sword, laughing waves help Sichuan boat.
Where does heroism come from? From the strong self-confidence of "going out laughing, we are Artemisia selengensis", from the far-sighted vision of "not afraid of floating clouds to cover our eyes", from the clanging pride of "Oh, how can I bow and scrape to those high-ranking officials who will never suffer, and never return", from the firm will of "the wind is rustling, the water is pouring cold water, and the strong men are never coming back".
Heroism is not only emotion, but also mind, cultivation and wisdom.
vital/breathing capacity
A man's life must have his own accumulation, which is where a man's confidence lies. The first is the accumulation of reality, which allows you to establish your own career and settle down, take care of your relatives and friends, and make you stand up for life. For example, in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, it is said that a gentleman can't make contributions, and he is almost as rotten as vegetation.
What is more important is the accumulation of inner self-cultivation, because it is not only related to the quality of life of men, but also the foundation of men's career. Although literacy also needs to be improved, it must be ahead of what needs to be done when doing business.
These essential qualities include being able to see the overall situation, and the Western Han Dynasty said: Carving a small skill, forcing a husband not to do it; Knowing how to advance and retreat, Li said in the late Qing dynasty: a gentleman can bend and stretch; With firm principles and ethics, the Book of the Northern Qi Dynasty says: I would rather die than surrender; Strong practical ability, rather than ambitious and boastful, "The Book of the Later Han Dynasty" said: "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" Li Yu of the Ming Dynasty also said: A gentleman is very efficient!
With confidence, there is a bottom in my heart, a bottom in my career and a bottom in my life.
Raising three elegant women is the real beauty.
graceful
The charm of men lies in masculinity, and the charm of women lies in elegance. Elegance in the heart becomes noble, which is called elegance. True elegance is a kind of temperament, a kind of style, which is related to the heart and is by no means beyond the reach of bling and luxury. This elegant spirit can only be born in the cultivation of women.
This elegance of women has been exquisitely described by the ancients in poetry. Its charm lies in "there are beautiful women in the north, and they are peerless and independent". "Who is cuter than her? However, she lives alone in an empty valley "; Its manners are "looking forward to glory, whistling like the blue sky", "bright as Yun Zheyue, fluttering like a snowstorm"; Its appearance is "the mouth is not sharp but contains Dan, the eyebrows are not painted but horizontal and green", "the lotus is not as good as the beauty makeup, and the water temple is fragrant" …
So, it is really elegant.
graceful
The elegance of a woman is single-minded, and the elegance of a woman lies in her posture. For myself, elegance is a kind of cultivation; For others, elegance is an education. For myself, elegance is a kind of self-sufficiency of the soul; For others, elegance is a real touch. Beauty is only temporary, but elegance can last a lifetime.
Elegant woman, she is quiet, that is, "two bends are like frowning, and a pair of eyes are like joy but not joy"; When she moves, she is "quiet as a flower shines water, and moving like the wind helps the willows"; She said, "Smile like a flower, and jade sounds flow gently"; She is silent, that is, "Huansha makes clear water and waves freely" ...
Such an elegant woman is charming because she is moving.
Elegant and exquisite
The best state of life is indifference; A woman's elegance is the most exquisite. Elegant woman, pure spirit and elegant body are the most natural and natural. Clear and faint, even from a distance, it is already slightly drunk.
In this impetuous and utilitarian era, elegance is extremely rare. If you meet such a woman by chance, you will find her temperament, "clear water produces hibiscus, natural carving"; Her smile, "the wind returns to the yard, and the willow eyes continue to spring"; Her style, "To compare the West Lake with the West Lake, it is always appropriate to wear heavy makeup". Even if we meet, we will never forget.
In addition to temperament, elegance also represents a kind of woman-if elegance is described as a good family, then elegance is a small jasper, which is not the same as elegance. Elegant woman is light, "a cloud is a vortex, a jade is a shuttle, a light shirt is thin, and a pair of snails are light." It's the same kind, "it's still a peach face, low-frequency arch eyebrows." They just live quietly and faintly. "bloom flowers fall, regardless of the year."
Elegant woman, such as willow tip wind, flower dew like a mountain cloud.