But if there is no home, there is really nothing.
At the time of marriage, each bride and groom express their love for the other half. After marriage, with the baptism of time and the consumption of daily necessities, the initial love and passion are gradually lost in the marriage life, and the rest is to live like drinking water.
Nowadays, after years of marriage, many couples have been sleeping in separate rooms. There is not much communication between them. Apart from living under the same roof, there is nothing in common, much like a shared life for men and women.
For this kind of marriage, there is a new saying, which is "widowed" marriage.
But if the husband and wife have reached the point where they have nothing to say and no feelings, the final outcome will only be divorce.
Then, in this widowed marriage, why do some people not want to divorce and continue to live like this?
I remember a colleague once returned to work in the company two months after giving birth. Every time after work, she is always in a hurry to go home, worrying that her mother-in-law can't eat with her child in her arms. She said she had to hurry to cook when she went back. I once asked her, "Is your husband not at home?"
Colleagues said: "There is no difference between husband and wife. When I get home from work, my mother-in-law will go back to her mother's house. I take care of the baby and cook by myself. My husband only plays games there. At night, the baby's crying affects the rest, and one person sleeps in a room. If it weren't for the children, who would live with such a selfish man. "
I thought to myself that this man is too irresponsible. Can he sleep without his wife and children?
In my understanding, husband and wife should be husband and wife, regardless of you and me, eating and living together. In the face of her husband's indifference, in any case, colleagues can only continue to insist for the sake of their children.
Later, on a trip, I met a sister who talked a lot and told me how cute her two children were all the way, which made me feel that her family was very happy.
She said that when the child was young, the family was very difficult and there was no savings in her hand. She works while taking care of the children. Many times, in order to save her children's living expenses, she doesn't want to eat all day.
She also said that although she was very tired at that time, every time she went home to see two lovely babies, the fatigue of the day vanished.
To tell the truth, she has been talking about the child. I thought she was divorced, but she would casually mention how the father of the child was.
I asked her husband, and she disdained to say to me, "Don't mention that man. We have been married for 20 years and slept in separate rooms 15 years. There is no affection between us. He doesn't want to talk to me and I don't want to talk to him. It doesn't matter. I have two lively and lovely children. "
It turned out that her eyes lit up when she talked about her two children, because they were all hers.
I attended a class reunion some time ago, and everyone didn't bring their families. There is only one female classmate with two children, one is in the second grade of primary school and the other just knows how to run. She was embarrassed to apologize to us and said that there was really no one at home to take care of the children. She wants to come to the class reunion, so she must take her children with her.
As for Ma Bao, no one will mind her taking the children to the party, but I won't mind anyway. On the way back later, we walked together for a while. She told me that after giving birth to Bauer, she was worried about all the big and small things in the family, and her husband cared nothing but giving them living expenses every month.
Her husband also said that it is too tiring to go to work every day, and the children are always noisy at night. He couldn't sleep well, so he went to the guest room to sleep alone.
This classmate said that she didn't have any income, and her husband probably didn't like her, so he didn't want to communicate with her. Now he basically ignores her, and it is no longer the time to spoil her when he first got married.
Facing her husband's indifference, she also consumed her last love for men. She said she didn't want a divorce. If she gets divorced, adults will be relieved, but what about the other two children?
Married women no longer live for themselves, but to give their children a sound family. Even in a loveless marriage, this is the greatness of maternal love.
Asha has something to say:
Three married women and three different families have similar married lives. In this "widowed" marriage, there are only two reasons why they don't divorce, and that is children.
In marriage, most women are left out by their husbands and feel wronged, but they don't want to end the marriage. Not how much she loves this man, but for the lovely children. They don't want their children to be looked down upon under the eaves of others, and their childhood is unhappy!
These wives and mothers are great and selfless, willing to devote their lives to their children, even if they live an unhappy marriage all their lives.
And those men who left their wives after marriage, wake up, don't let the pressure of life become an excuse for you to change your mind, don't let time erase your love for your wife, don't let time forget your responsibilities, and don't let daily necessities exhaust your wife's love and dependence on you.
Marriage is the carrier of every love. Marriage is neither a beautiful fantasy nor a cruel reality. Marriage is the most important journey in our life, and it is a task that we must devote ourselves to. Marriage is sacred and happy. Marriage carries the meaning of love, affection, morality and responsibility. You can't help but respect marriage or your wife.
Finally, I wish every couple can encourage and support each other, go hand in hand on the road of marriage, and walk happily to the end of marriage forever.