1. If a real man only worries about fame but not success, why worry about not having a wife?
From Chapter 52 of "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms" Zhuge Liang wisely resigned to Lu Su and Zhao Zilong planned to capture Guiyang. Zhao Yun said: "A man only worries about fame but not success, so why worry about not having a wife?"?
It means that a man should worry about achieving a career, not marrying a wife and starting a family.
2. Is it safe to abandon oneself at the sharp edge? If parents don't care, how can they talk about children and wives?
It comes from Cao Zhi's "White Horse" in the Wei and Jin Dynasties, which means facing mountains of swords and trees, never keeping safety and danger in mind. Even his parents cannot serve him filially, let alone his wife.
Extended information
The allusion of why a man has no wife
Zhao Yun led three thousand troops to attack Guiyang, won the victory, and captured Chen, the general of Zhao Fan, the prefect of Guiyang. In response, Zhao Fan had no choice but to surrender. Zhao Fan hosted a banquet for Zhao Yun, and he and Zhao Yun became brothers, and proposed to remarry his widowed sister-in-law Fan to Zhao Yun. Zhao Yun was very angry after hearing this. He thought Zhao Fan had done something unethical and reprimanded Zhao Fan. Zhao Fan had evil intentions in his heart and signaled his left and right to plot against Zhao Yun. Zhao Yun found out and knocked down Zhao Fan with a punch, then mounted his horse and left the city.
Zhao Fan then discussed with Chen Ying Bao Long a false surrender, but Zhao Yun saw through it, and instead used the plan to kill Chen Ying Bao Long and capture Zhao Fan alive, thus completely placing Guiyang into Liu Bei's territory.
Afterwards Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang came to Guiyang, and Zhao Yun narrated what happened one by one.
When Zhuge Liang asked why he did not marry Fan, Zhao Yun replied: "Since Zhao Fan has become a brother with a certain person, if he marries his sister-in-law, it will be reviled by others; if his wife remarries, she will lose her. The second is the big festival; the third is that Zhao Fan first surrendered, and his heart was unpredictable.
The lord has newly settled in Jianghan, but the bed has not yet been settled. Yun'an dares to abandon the lord's important matter with a woman? There are many women in the world, but if your reputation is not established, why worry about not having a wife? ”