Moderate communication
You don't need to call or email your friends too much. Communication can be short, five minutes by phone or a short email. Know your friend's schedule and don't call your friend too early or too late. If there is an emergency, you should inform your friends immediately. You don't need to mind interrupting their rest and know what others think of you.
Ask a loyal friend what he thinks of you getting along with others. Pay attention to anything that needs improvement and try to change.
Do not compare.
Don't let friendship become a hidden dispute, compare who has the most money, who has the best clothes and who has the coolest car. Don't quarrel with friends, it will only turn friendship into bad comparison. Establish a healthy and realistic self-image.
Vanity and inferiority will prevent you from making new friends.
Determined to improve themselves.
Cultivate honesty, generosity and humility, and make you a compassionate, respected and attractive friend. Avoid endless complaints.
Constant complaining is boring, which will make friendship leave you. Talk to your close friends about how to change the unpleasant parts of your life.
Take a positive attitude towards life.
Trying to find something humorous, laughter is infectious and attractive.
Listen attentively.
Care about your friends and know their living conditions. Don't always talk about your problems. Friendship will not last long if you are only keen on your own ideas. Because of the particularity of men and women, the opposite sex will attract each other. If you want to be a truly profound friend of the opposite sex, you must control and grasp a degree, and you can develop in friendship without crossing the line. Whether one party or both parties cross the border, they will have feelings for men and women and enter the stage of love, but once they change back to friendship due to some internal and external factors, they will become "different" friendships.
Without friendship as the foundation, entering the love stage is roughly the following three situations:
1. I am in the embryonic stage of love, because I fell in love at first sight or met through blind date and friendship. I am trying to lay the foundation for the development of love, but I haven't reached the level of quantitative change to qualitative change: through a series of efforts, if both sides become male and female friends, everyone will be happy; If the two sides don't become boyfriend and girlfriend, they can become friends or stop contacting each other. For example, when a boy says to a girl, "Let's make friends", the other person's mind is just like Si Mazhao's. As long as girls are not kindergarten children, they should all know well.
2. A feeling transformed from love. When a man and a woman love each other deeply or both love each other, but they can't get married due to some internal and external factors, it can be transformed into a "different" friendship, which is based on love, so it is called a noble friendship. For example, Jin Helin only praised their deep friendship in many articles, but he didn't know that the hidden story behind it was Jin's closest relative Lin, who married Liang Sicheng, Liang Qichao's eldest son. Kim's deep affection for Lin can only be transformed into friendship. However, knowing that there was no result, Jin was trapped by love and had to stay married for life in order to change his role. This is to add pain to himself. I wonder if there is any ideological pressure or even a trace of apology when Lin and Jin are in contact: they love you wrongly and marry for life wrongly.
3. It is purely a way of communication, but it must be played by both parties, and one party cannot complete it. For example, a foreigner from a company in China is very close to a beautiful China girl. When introducing him to the outside world, he claimed that "we are ordinary friends", but do ordinary friends of the opposite sex sleep together? They may be dreaming that one day they can change from sneaking around to becoming formal girlfriends and climb high branches to go abroad, but don't lose the face of China people. If friendship is an evergreen tree, it must be watered by a clear spring from the heart; If friendship is a beautiful and undefeated flower, then it must be the rising sun in my heart. How much laughter friendship evokes and how many tears friendship dries. The harbor of friendship is warm and affectionate, and the breeze of friendship sails. Friendship is not an emotional investment, and there is no need for dividends and dividends.
In the moonlight, I scooped up the clearest cup; After sunset, I hold a wisp of the warmest; Burning red leaves, I picked up the hottest one; I picked a bunch of the most colorful herbs; In the long life, I will take off the heaviest thing in the world-friendship is a ray of sunshine shining in winter, so that people who are poor and sick can feel the warmth of the world; Friendship is the spring in the desert, which makes people on the verge of despair see the hope of life again; Friendship is a ballad floating in the night sky, which gives the lonely and helpless people spiritual comfort. Friendship is good wine, and the longer the years, the more mellow it becomes; Friendship is fireworks, the higher it blooms, the more beautiful it is; Friendship is a pearl. The more it is honed over the years, the more brilliant it will be. Friendship is a touch of color of nature, and only a discerning craftsman can make it perfect; Friendship is a beating note in the music score, and only a singer with delicate feelings can truly and purely express it. Friendship is like a glass of water, it will be lost if you are not careful. When water is spilled, cracks appear between friends and can never be repaired. The best way to maintain friendship is to be happy. Forget all loneliness and make a promise of friendship; Forever happy sea, forever blooming flowers. Friendship can make youth blossom the most beautiful flowers, which is the only myth in my heart that keeps beauty. Will stay in the history books, not haggle over every ounce of interests, but treat each other sincerely. Frank communication with friends will keep us sensitive to our true feelings, erase the clouds in our eyes and make our mood happy again. Friendship is a tree.
When busy, I want to have a rest;
When on vacation, think about the future.
When you are poor, you long for wealth;
Life is easy, and I'm afraid happiness won't last long.
When making a decision, I am worried that the result will not be as good as expected;
I saw it and regretted not making up my mind.
People who don't belong to themselves often have desires;
Holding it in my hand, I miss the comfort before having it.
If life is not now, when is it?
A person can be a lifelong relative with you for no reason, but
A person will not be your friend for life for no reason.
I will remember everything I know about you.
I will also think of the bits and pieces that have happened.
Will we sit in front of the computer and chat with each other until we are old?
Anyway, I hope we will always be sincere and relative friends (confidants).
A friend is someone who likes you and knows you.
May you cherish every friend around you.
Because you and I are destined, we can be friends.
It's harder to be a confidant!
Time is not necessarily the reason why you and I become bosom friends.
But it can be proved that
Your concern for your friends has not been in vain!
I hope you will always be my good friend!
A friend is something you want to share with him when you are happy.
Friends, you can lose your temper when you are unhappy.
Friend, I saved you when you had no money to eat.
Friend, I can panic with you when I am bored.
To realize the value of one year, you can ask a student who failed to repeat.
To realize the value of January, you can ask a premature mother.
To realize the value of one week, you can ask the editor of an ordinary weekly.
To realize the value of one hour, you can ask two lovers who are waiting to get together.
To realize the value of one minute, you can ask a traveler who has missed the train.
To realize the value of one second, you can ask a lucky man who had a narrow escape.
To realize the value of one millisecond, you can ask an athlete who missed a gold medal.
Friends are ... even a little touched and want to share a little thing.
A friend is ... when you cry, he holds your shoulder.
A friend is ... always holding your hand tightly when you face setbacks in life.
How are you?
You can see that this is your fate with him.
It is also your fate to be friends with people around you.
Even if you don't know when these meteors will disappear.
But if you cherish every moment of seeing this meteor.
Then even if the meteor leaves, you won't regret it
Please cherish everyone around you.
Cherish this friendship!
Building friendship is like planting a tree, because friendship is a tree.
(tree):
trust
R: respect (respect)
E: communication (communication)
E: emotional support (spiritual support)
A friend is the strength to accompany you through difficulties and always support you.
Friends are a beautiful feeling that can't be expressed in words.
A friend is in front of others.
The one who will always protect you.
A friend was even a little touched, a little thing.
Everyone wants to share.
I like rain, because you won't know I'm crying ... you have talent, and I'm not poor. -(Qing) Zheng Banqiao
Know yourself in the sea, and heaven is still our neighbor. —— (Tang)
We were all unhappy until the end of the day, when we met. We understand. What is the relationship between acquaintances? . -(Tang) Bai Juyi
Mochow has a vast road ahead, and everyone knows you. -(Tang) Gao Shi
There are no happy friends and no happy friends in the world. -(Qing) Pu Songling
Know each other, know each other, know each other, know each other. -(Spring and Autumn Period) Mencius
A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, but a friendship between villains is as bitter as cucumber. -(Warring States) Zhuangzi
If you live with the lame, you will learn to limp. -(Western Jin Dynasty) Fu Xuan
Life is a matter of life, so why use gold and money? -(Tang) Li Bai
Make friends and keep your word. -(Spring and Autumn) Midsummer
Never forget the friendship between cloth and clothes. -(Tang) li yanshou
Gentlemen and gentlemen take Tao as their friends, and villains and villains take fun as their friends. —— (Song) Ouyang Xiu
Life is about getting to know each other. -(Song) Wang Anshi
The enemy should reconcile, not reconcile, and turn around. -(Ming) Feng Menglong
Heroes in adversity. -(Qing) Wei Xi
Two thousand gold is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find. -(Qing) Cao Xueqin
For my heart, for your heart, we will know each other and remember each other deeply. -(Song)
Zhong Ziqi died, and Boya never played the piano again. -"Han Shu"
The mountains and rivers are not heavy enough. It is important to know yourself. -Bao Rong
Be a gentleman and a hero in the world.
-Biography of the Three Kingdoms, Shu Shu and Liu Ba
A gentleman does not slander when he makes it, and he does not blaspheme when he makes it. -Zhouyi
If you know that all the seas are brothers, where can you meet an old friend? -Chen
Friends, those honest people. -(Song) Zhu
Clothes are not as good as new ones, and people are not as good as old ones. -"Han Yuefu"
Concentric and economical, consistent. —— (Song) Ouyang Xiu
Once you die, you know your friendship. Poverty and wealth are a state of knowing each other. One is expensive and the other is cheap, and friendship can be seen. -"Historical Records"
I got drunk without saying anything, and I won't have another drink. -(Jin) Tao Yuanming
There is no distinction between old and young in life. Why should we get along first? -(Tang) Du Fu
Soul mates, not face to face, from now on. -(Tang) Bai Juyi
Making friends in life begins and ends, not for ups and downs. -(Tang) Helan
Have fun today, and don't forget each other in the future. -(Three Kingdoms) Cao Zhi
Friends in the world, know yourself and know yourself. -(Ming) Feng Menglong
Teenagers know each other happily, but miss their old friends at dusk. -(Tang) Han Yu
One is expensive and the other is cheap. -(Tang) Luo
It is no good getting to know each other in an emergency. -(Tang) Li Bai
Throw it out with papaya and hold it with Qiong Yao. It is always good to repay bandits. -The Book of Songs
The most important thing in life is to know yourself. We are all flesh and blood in the whole world. -"Wild Goose Gate Collection"
Friendly friends never tire, but close friends speculate. -(Ming) Feng Menglong
If two people are connected, their sharpness can cut metal. -"hey. On the copula "
Baby, it makes a harsh sound and asks for its friendly voice. -The Book of Songs. Xiaoya "
Happy, happy, new friend -(Warring States) Qu Yuan
Friends in trouble. -"Han Zhuge Feng Biography"
People who have affairs are not our kind. -(Tang) Meng Haoran
My friend is eager to think. -The Analects of Confucius. Lutz "
Courtesy is reciprocated. -The Book of Rites. Qu Li "
A gentleman makes friends with words and helps others with kindness. -The Analects of Confucius and Yan Yuan
Pay with money, pay with money; People who pay with color fall in love with Chongqing. -"Warring States Policy"
The luxury of pine and cypress can only be known when the husband's frost and snow fall. -"Huai Nan Zi"
Those who combine strength are exhausted. -"Historical Records"
A man knows his companion in a long journey and an inn. -"Selected Songs of Yuan Dynasty". Try to be grateful. "
Knowing each other far and near, Wan Li is still a neighbor. -(Tang) Zhang Jiuling
Just met a smile, and sending turned into sobbing. —— (Tang) Wang Wei
Even if the Peach Blossom Pond is deep, it is not as deep as Wang Lun's sending away my love. -(Tang) Li Bai
Old friends are closer. -(Tang) Du Fu
Although there are brothers, it is best to be friends. -"Bao Puzi newsletter"
A gentleman is as light as water, the older he gets, the truer he is. The population is as small as honey, and it is an enemy in an instant. -"Xun Zhi Zhai Ji"
Friends shouldn't mix together. -"Bao Puzi". Communication "
Friends of power can hardly go far. -(golden) land machine
Old bus friends must be poor, and poor people make friends first and then make relatives. -(Tang) Gao Shi
Landing as brothers, why flesh and blood. Tao Qian
Sweet taste is perishable, and a friend who knows a gentleman at the end of the year is as light as water. -(Southern Song Dynasty) Xin Qiji
A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and there is no evil voice. -"Warring States Policy"
It is enough to know one thing in life, and the world should treat it with empathy. -Lu Xun
Find a friend who praises you, it is better to find a friend who finds fault with you. -"Contemporary Youth Talk about Life"
I never forget when others help me, but I don't remember when I help others. -Hua
Those who praise us behind our backs are our good friends. -(West) Cervantes
In fact, everyone's friends are advanced and backward. The problem is how to help a backward friend make him progress. Never follow him. This is the real "enough friends". -Xie Juezai
Three friends and four friends, eating, drinking and having fun, are called "fair-weather friends". Friends get together, not talking about work, not talking about study, not talking about politics, only talking about personal interests and personal grievances. This is called "living in groups all day long, and the words are not correct." -Xie Juezai
Friendship is always the assistant of virtue, not evil. -Cicero
A stupid friend is worse than a clever enemy. -(India) Sakyamuni
Anyone who wants to get help in bad luck should be tolerant of others on weekdays. -(Persian) Sadi
Those who attribute friendship to interests, I think they have written off the most precious thing in friendship. -Cicero
Some people always compliment you, but they are not all friends in need-Shakespeare.
Ungrateful people are hopeless when they are in trouble. -(Greece) Aesop
Friendship is really the most sacred thing. It deserves not only special praise, but also eternal praise. -(Italy) Qiu
Snobbish, don't bother! -(British) Byron
If you are smart, don't take that man as a friend, if he has a deep friendship with your enemy. -(Persian) Sadi
Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity. —— (Li)
A friend in need -(Soviet Union) Lenin
Friends will know us when we are happy; In difficult times, we will make friends. -Collins (UK)
It is not credible to abandon a friend in an emergency. -(Greece) Aesop
Don't get friends by giving gifts. You must contribute your sincere love and learn how to win a person's heart in an appropriate way. -(Greece) Surajid
Choose your friends carefully, and abandon them more carefully. -Frank Green
Keep a certain distance between friends, so that friendship will last forever. Charles
Although insidious friendship can get you some insignificant benefits, it will deprive you of your treasure-independent thinking and pure love for truth! -belinsky
True friends don't talk about friendship. They don't ask each other for anything for friendship, but do everything possible for each other. -belinsky
Kind words and promises are easier said than done. Only when we are in trouble can we see the sincerity of our friends. -(Russian) krylov
No matter whether it is sentimental poems, beautiful articles, or leisurely happiness, nothing can replace extremely close friendship. -(Russia) Pushkin
A true friend should tell the truth, no matter how sharp ...-(former Soviet Union) ostrovsky.
A true friend is happy for you when you succeed, but doesn't support you. I will give you timely support and encouragement when you encounter misfortune or sadness. When you have shortcomings and may make mistakes, you will give correct criticism and help. Marx
True and rational friendship is the best priceless treasure in life. -(former Soviet Union) Gorky
Many good friends are better than many wealth. -(British) Shakespeare
The foundation of friendship lies in the greatest similarity between two people's hearts. -(Germany) Beethoven
Two thousand gold is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find. -Cao Xueqin
Make friends, be strict and trustworthy. -Confucius
A fence, three piles, a hero, three gangs. Mao Zedong
You will know the pine and cypress when it is cold, and you will see the truth when it is difficult. -China proverb
Disagreement between friends is an opportunity for the enemy to attack. -Aesop
True and rational friendship is the most beautiful and priceless wealth in life. Gorky
Friendship needs-loyalty to sow, enthusiasm to water, principle to cultivate, understanding to care. -German proverb
If you live with the lame, you will learn to limp. -Fu Xuan
There are three kinds of true friends: those who love you, those who forget you and those who hate you. -Sanford
A true friend is the soul of two people. -Aristotle
Studying alone without friends is ignorance. -Confucius Liang Shiqiu's prose "Talking about Friendship"
Friends are under the five ethics. In fact, friends are extremely important ethics. The so-called friendship is actually a good relationship between people, including many virtues such as understanding, appreciation, trust, tolerance and sacrifice. If friendship is the basis, other relationships, such as father, son, husband, wife and brother, can be successfully established. Of course, there is no choice between father and son and brother. Although couples have a choice, once they get married, they will never divorce, and friends are inseparable. However, to put it bluntly, father and son, husband and wife and brothers are all friends, but they are slightly different in form and nature. Strictly speaking, anyone who has completely good friends must also be a good father, son, husband, wife, brother and elder brother. or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium
Our ancient sages attached great importance to making friends. There are many words about making friends in The Analects of Confucius. The same is true in the West. Cicero in Rome has a famous "On Friendship". Montaigne in France, Bacon in Britain and Emerson in America all have articles about friendship. In my opinion, modern writers are unwilling to waste ink on this topic. Is this a symbol of Ji Shu's lifelong friendship decline? I dare not say.
In ancient times, the so-called "neck and neck" was too high for people to reach. Damon and Pythias, for example, live and die together, which is probably just a fable. Even if the standard of friendship is lowered, it is very rare to become a true friend. Imagine how many friends you can trust if the money is handled. How many friends are willing to visit you when you are frustrated or sick, or even give timely help? How many people are willing to take care of your weak wife and daughter-in-law when you are not at home, but not too many?
To say the least, I have always reciprocated, never against my will. How many people can last longer than failing? If there is no special interest to keep turning, I'm afraid it will be hard not to be a passerby in a few years. Franklin said: "There are three kinds of friends who are the most faithful and reliable-an old wife, an old dog and cash." The wonderful thing is that none of these three friends are friends. But Aristotle's sentence is the simplest: "My friends! There are no friends in the world. " This sentence borders on cynicism. In fact, there are still friends in the world, but although you don't have to find them with lanterns, it's like searching for gold in the sand, which takes a long time to refine. Once friendship is forged, it will be rock-solid and never look back.
People who share the same interests in groups can always think it over. Making friends also pays attention to the correct relationship, although it is not as strict as Jiupin Zhong Zheng, and naturally there is a boundary. "Students and teenagers are not cheap, and Wuling horses are light and fat." Can you swim in the old days without moving your eyebrows after being "light and fat"? Han Guangwu asked Yan Ziling to put his thigh on his stomach, which was magnanimous, but it was especially wise for Yan Ziling to resolutely retreat to Fuchun Mountain. Zhu Hongwu wrote a letter to one of his friends, saying, "Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, Zhu Yuanzhang or Zhu Yuanzhang ..." It was beautiful, and it would hurt to see who he killed later. People's physical and psychological structures are the same, but once they enter the official career, they may suddenly change. Confucius said that people who have no friends are not as good as themselves. I think, first, it only refers to the study of taste, and second, it only refers to not making friends who are worse than yourself, not to say that we must go higher. Friendship needs two things. If both sides want to make friends better than themselves, they will never make friends.
As Oscar Wilde said, "There can be no friendship between men and women." Generally speaking, this is true, because if there is a deep friendship, it is easy to deteriorate. If it is not a soul mate, it is not a friendship. Too much and too little, it is difficult to grasp the boundary. It is possible to forget New Year's friends. Mi Heng is less than 20 years old, and Kong Rong is 50 years old, so he made friends. And the list goes on. But it seems to be limited to the same sex. And as far as I know, the formation of forgetting friends depends on the similarity and mutual appreciation of interests, but on the one hand, the elderly need to maintain a little childlike innocence, on the other hand, the young need to be significantly mature. Being old-fashioned is daunting, and being frivolous is unavoidable. It is easy for a single person to make friends, because he has no emotional sustenance, and he needs an accumulation object most among vagrants, but with children and tea, his mood is different.
"A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water", because it is light, it is not greasy, so it can last. "Make friends and respect for a long time." Respect is to keep your distance, that is, to prevent excessive intimacy. However, it is difficult to "respect it". Most importantly, don't overdraw your friendship, and keep some points all the time. Mark Twain said: "The sacred friendship is so sweet, stable, faithful and lasting in essence. You can stay forever, if you don't want money. " This is really generous. Friends have profitable friendships, but what a delicate thing it is! The hardest thing in the world is to borrow money, and most people think the worst thing is to pay back the money. When it comes to money, it's hard to settle grievances, and many growing friendships have been stifled by this blockage!
Persuasion is the proper meaning of friends, but it is easier said than done. In vanity fair, you are in cahoots, and it is difficult for you to tell right from wrong. How can you make efforts to convince others? On the other hand, it is a good medicine, but advice is hard to listen to. Who wants others to recognize his lamella? Don't do it in front of a third party so as not to hurt his face, and don't do it when he is upset so as not to make him angry. Confucius said, "If you remonstrate and do good, you can't stop." I always thought that persuading kindness and discipline were the negative effects of friendship. The happiness of friendship is positive. Only immortals and beasts like loneliness, and people want friends. "If a person ascends to heaven alone and sees the grand view of the universe and the beauty of the stars, he cannot be happy. He must find someone to tell him the miracle he has seen before he can be happy. " * * * enjoys happiness and suffers more than * * *, which should be a more normal interest in friendship.