Extend the period of childish psychology. Some grandparents' bumpy life experiences are doomed to their preference for grandchildren, which belongs to doting to a great extent. If you love too much, it will hinder your child's normal psychological development. As a result of love, children can't get rid of the constraints of childish psychology. Relevant institutions made a psychological comparison between the children coming out of the nursery and the children brought up by grandparents, and found that they were completely different. Children coming out of the nursery have strong sense of group, strong adaptability and large social circle. They can do many things by themselves, they are courageous and can bear hardships. Generally, they fall and get hurt as if nothing happened, and they can cross the road at an early age. However, grandparents are not raising children. Some primary school students need old people to pick them up after the fifth grade, and they can't do anything, and they don't want to do things like carrying schoolbags. When you encounter problems, you cry when you are not happy at all, acting like a spoiled brat, lacking adaptability and being unsociable.
Leading to the emergence of education. "Grandparents' world outlook was formed decades ago. Today, many people still stay at the level of understanding of objective things decades ago. In close contact with grandchildren, their worldview will be inadvertently passed down from generation to generation, making it more difficult for children to accept new knowledge and new things. Besides, the old people's ideas are old and stubborn, which will have a negative effect on children's acceptance of new knowledge and experience. On the other hand, some elderly people are physically weak, their legs and feet are inconvenient, and they like to be quiet and lazy. They can only take care of their children within the family, and the children they bring out are easy to be over-aged and lack of liveliness, which hinders their intellectual development.
The relationship between estranged children and parents leads to the "estrangement" between parents and children. Grandparents love their grandchildren and parents love their children. There are similarities and differences. The similarity is that they love each other's children, but the difference is that grandparents are kind and tolerant, while parents love their children strictly. This difference in educational fulcrum can easily lead to the gap between parents and children. Parent-child here includes two layers: one is the level of grandparents and fathers. Grandparents dote on their grandchildren, and the old consciousness is passed down from generation to generation, and fathers can't get used to it or correct it; The discipline of parents and the excessive protection and obstruction of ancestors will inevitably lead to the contradiction between ancestors and parents. Second, at the level of parents and children, children's psychology of seeking pleasure and avoiding suffering makes them control their parents, or use their ancestors as shields or shelters, which conflicts with or disobeys their parents' discipline. The overindulgence of grandparents and the strict discipline of parents will even make children have the illusion that only grandparents love me, but mom and dad don't love me. This is not only detrimental to children's healthy growth and success, but also hinders family harmony.