Probably because human beings evolved from apes, I feel that people around me feel that they are social animals and always want to find friends to play when they are free. In this process, birds of a feather flock together and naturally form all kinds of friends. There are donkey friends who like to travel, color friends who like to take pictures, card friends who like to rub hemp, pen friends who like code words, and even hermits have mountain friends. It seems that few people can live alone all their lives. Each of us seems to be looking for a group of attractive people with an aura. No wonder some people say that family members are friends your parents found for you, and friends are relatives you found yourself.
In ancient times, it moved three times, but today, it has become stronger. Some people think that the former shows the importance of the environment, while others think that it shows the importance of making friends. Poems about making friends, bent down to pick them up, many at a time: bosom friends in the sea, leaving my neighbors in the sky; Husbands should know that the world is at peace; The most important thing in life is to know yourself. How many bosom friends can you have in life? Even the nut has a * * * song: the so-called friendship is to be single-minded in two bodies (Europe); No medicine can communicate with the soul except true friends (UK). It can be seen that everyone wants to make a few good friends, regardless of ancient and modern times. Some time ago, a video of a beautiful teacher named Fudan University talking about making friends was circulated on the Internet. She thinks that if you want to make useless friends, from a utilitarian point of view, you just can't make friends. She basically agrees with her. The difference is that my life experience tells me that some friends can be really troublesome, and the more troublesome they are, the deeper their feelings are. Some friends can live and die together, such as comrades-in-arms in times of crisis, which may be the difference in cognition and values. Moreover, from my limited experience, no matter how good friends hurt friends, make friends who can promote your progress, help each other and never give up. In a word, a life without friendliness is better than food without wine, and different people can see different scenery.
The first principle of making friends is sincerity. There are too many people smarter than you in this world. Mutual understanding in interpersonal communication is the most prominent feature of this era. In addition, it is easier and easier for modern society to obtain information. No one can fool others for a lifetime, and cleverness can only harm others. On the contrary, whether you really give what others can feel, time and practice will eventually test it out, and no one will refuse true goodwill. So if you want to make more friends, please pay more sincerity.
The main trick of making friends is to pay money. As the saying goes, losing money is a blessing, eating a small loss is a big bargain, and the same is true when gathering money. Niu Gensheng of Mengniu once said that the people around me are willing to work with me because I can get less than them. Huawei's Ren Zheng Fei only holds a small share, but this network attracts talents from all over the world. Li Ka-shing's son once told a story that if we can get eight points in partnership, the Li family will only get six points, so that everyone wants to do business with us, and our business will grow bigger and bigger. The same is true of making friends. Everyone is willing to deal with people who are willing to suffer, so the people with the best connections are often those who are really willing to suffer.
The important principle of making friends is respect. Even the best friends are different individuals, and they all have their own independent space. In reality, some people often fail to grasp this kind of proper limit, and inadvertently hurt the dignity of their friends. I can't help thinking of a short story. A father told his angry child that when you vent your bad feelings on others, nail the nail on the board and pull it out when you are not angry. The little boy did so and found that there was still a hole in the board even if the nail was pulled out. The story wants to show that even if you correct it, a bad mood will still hurt others. The same is true of making friends. Don't think that friends can be casual when they are familiar. Please be careful not to hurt your friend's dignity. Once offended, the boat of friendship will often turn over.
Last but not least, this is also important. Be friends with your heart, because the tea made with your heart is delicious, the dishes made with your heart are delicious, and the flowers planted with your heart are beautiful.