From the perspective of dealing with problems, there are probably three kinds of people:
A person who is good at avoiding problems.
A person who is determined to solve problems.
A person, the pattern determines the achievement.
In other words, your ability to deal with problems reveals the size of the pattern.
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If you can't solve the problem, you become a problem.
It is a biological instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Even the lowest paramecium will escape from the high concentration of salt water and swim to the waters with low salt content.
However, once people get used to avoiding problems, they will gradually lose their thinking and become barren.
In life, escaping can never solve any problems. There are always some grains of rice on our clothes, some strands of silver hair around our temples, and some gossip in our ears.
What happened in a short time after "avoiding the problem" seems to be easy to handle, but in fact it is to pick up the immediate problem and carry it on your back.
There is such a story:
A very timid person, inadvertently seeing his own shadow, thought that some demon was at work and ran away in fear.
But the shadow always follows him. The faster he runs, the tighter the shadow follows. He could only run faster and faster, and eventually he was exhausted.
So is our life. Where there is prosperity, there will be adversity, just as everyone will find their own shadow in the sun.
The more we avoid difficulties, the more problems we have to deal with, and the more exhausted we will be.
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Analyze problems in your head and solve problems in your hands.
Smart people will not choose to escape and compromise in the face of difficulties, they will recognize the problem and solve it at the first time.
In Zhuangzi's Sheng Da, a rickety grandfather inherited its story.
One day, Confucius was going to Chu. When he walked out of the Woods, he saw an old hunchbacked man sticking cicadas with a stick, which was as light as picking things up on the ground.
Confucius said, "What a coincidence! Is there a trick? "
The hunchback old man said to Confucius, "I have my own way." Although the stick is very long, the stick on the club head is not easy to grasp horizontally, and the cicada climbs very high, but I can practice often.
When I stick it, I will stand very steady, like a broken wood near the ground, and my arm holding the pole is like a dead branch;
Although the world is very big and there are many sights in front of me, I only pay attention to the wings of cicadas. Never change your attention to cicada wings because of various things. Why can't it work? "
Smart people are like old people who are sticky when facing problems. They are analyzing problems in their hearts and solving problems in their hands.
They often have a clear positioning for themselves, and are willing to make a hundredfold effort to overcome problems and make things to the extreme.
Face problems, do your best and be perfect. If you are so strong, why don't you succeed?
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The way to break the game is the way to realize the pattern.
When you empty your mind and observe truthfully, your mental sensitivity is the best and your insight is the strongest. For the wise, carelessness is the highest strategy; Observation is the top thinking.
The way to realize this mode is hidden in these broken laws:
◇ In case of "difficulty", it is advisable to be "wide"
"Forgiveness" refers to the state of mind, physical and mental relaxation, and the courage to accept the quality of things; The more difficult it is, the more tolerant it is. It is difficult to be complete, there are gains and losses, and there is no need to be angry.
◇ In case of "emergency", you should "go slow"
The ancients said, "The biggest disaster begins at an unbearable moment, so be careful." . What is said is that no matter how big the disaster is, it is caused by temporary unbearable.
Everything is thoughtful; Rushing too fast will inevitably lead to omissions, which will make things more difficult. Urgent things should be done slowly.
When it comes to "big", it should be "flat"
The more important things and important moments, the more calm you must be, and you must have the courage and strength to lift weights easily.
◇ In case of "miscellaneous", it is appropriate to "unify"
People with large patterns often have more detailed systematic thinking. The so-called big things are informal. It's not that they don't care about details, but they see higher interests.
Don't isolate or split a problem, but treat it as an organically linked system, know how to choose, know how to make overall arrangements, know how to take its weight, and then make precise efforts.
◇ When you encounter "annoyance", you must "let go"
There are always some problems in life that can't be solved and can only be cancelled. From the outside, canceling the problem is not only the realm outside, but also the real way to solve the problem inside.
The magic weapon that Zhuangzi left us is: getting away with it, and talking in peace. Beyond the image, in the ring.
The wisest thing to do is to cultivate one's mind and cultivate one's nature.
Knowing how to break the game will eventually form its own big pattern.