Engels once said:
A person's words and deeds reflect his education and quality. No matter how packaged your appearance is, what comes from the heart will still be exposed to his words and deeds.
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Words have feet
As the ancients said, a kind word is warm in three winters. The expression of language is also an art.
Everyone has his own self-esteem and pride. Don't challenge others' temper with his own personality.
learning to respect and make others comfortable is the highest quality of a person.
Being on good terms doesn't mean you can say anything, being angry doesn't mean you can't take a joke, I didn't mean to, you're right, and I didn't mean any harm.
when you speak, put yourself in other's shoes.
Sometimes, an understated accusation may become the last straw to crush emotions, and a seemingly joke comment may be a gently pushed domino.
if you don't know what others have experienced, don't judge what you have seen.
Speaking in moderation is a person's advanced accomplishment, a sign of maturity, a measure of being a man, and a level of life.
Only by keeping a sense of proportion at all times, and paying attention to the occasion, identity and the person you are talking to, can you make your speech the most measured.
everyone has difficulties, and all appearances have roots.
between words, less sharpness and more room are kindness to others and respect for yourself.
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Joking is a very common thing in daily life, but the purpose of joking is to adjust the atmosphere. If you don't know how to grasp the scale of joking, you will hurt others intentionally or unintentionally.
Marshall Luxembourg said:
"Maybe we don't think that our way of talking is violent, but language does often cause pain to ourselves and others."
proper limit, who treats jokes, can often tell his character.
don't joke about other people's shortcomings, their privacy and their lives.
The real humor is not the slapstick grandstanding, but the pleasant atmosphere with the right words at the right time and place.
Only when you know how to respect each other can you make a joke feel just right, like a spring breeze.
Only what the other party thinks is funny is a joke.
it's impolite for the other person to feel funny or even angry.
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More than enough work
As the saying goes, "Leave a line in everything, so that we can meet again in the future."
in this life, people are ups and downs, and it is inevitable to be proud and low.
be kind to others when you are proud, and be kind to yourself when you are frustrated.
many things are unpredictable, thirty years in the east and thirty years in the west.
whenever and wherever, don't talk too much and do too much.
if you don't leave room today, you will lose your breath, and you will meet in a narrow road tomorrow, which will only increase embarrassment and harm.
when the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people look at it, there will be no disciples.
leaving room for others is also leaving a way out for yourself.
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Speak with virtue
As an ancient saying goes, "A sharp knife cuts wounds easily, but bad words hurt people and hate them hard to disappear."
it's best to think through your head before you speak, and don't just think about your own words, but don't care about the feelings of others.
words are like spilled water.
don't think that just saying "don't take it to heart" will make others think that you have never said anything.
In fact, no matter how much you remind the other person to "don't take it to heart", others will still think that you have exposed your innermost thoughts after listening to it.
There is an old saying in China, that illness comes from the mouth and disaster comes from the mouth.
Speaking proper limit is very important.
more words are better than less words, and less words are better than words.
being kind to others is as warm as cloth.
hurtful words hurt like a knife.
language is the most revealing thing in a person's heart, the most hurtful thing is language, and the most deeply rooted thing is language.
Only by keeping virtue in your mouth and mastering your heart can you show your wisdom, your character and your future.
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It is a person's best moral cultivation to grasp the scale in everything.
Morality is for self-discipline, not for the law, but for the law.
Morality is better than all laws for self-discipline and worse than all lynchings.
Therefore, managing yourself is your best practice.
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