You have to know: if you stay in the green hills, you are not afraid of burning firewood!
Solutions always outnumber problems.
Numerous examples have proved that all difficulties and dilemmas will pass!
Life is like a long journey. During the journey, even if the scenery in front of you is terrible, after a few stops, you will see beautiful scenery-maybe you have never imagined it before. So, for the sake of beautiful scenery in the future, you should live a good life.
I suggest you adjust your way of thinking and cognitive style.
The experts of "cognitive therapy" summarized some incorrect thinking and cognitive methods. You can compare them separately and adjust and correct yourself accordingly.
According to cognitive theory, when you feel depressed, you can analyze and think according to the following 10 aspects, and you will find that you are fooling yourself:
(1) absolute thought.
You see everything clearly, just like a student who occasionally gets a "good" at ordinary times, so he feels like a complete failure. This kind of thinking will make you doubt yourself endlessly and think that no matter what you do, you will never pass.
(2) Too general.
Because you have had an unpleasant experience, you think you will be equally unlucky in other things. For example, a shy young man said to himself after his date was rejected, "I will never get love, and I will be lonely and miserable all my life."
(3) psychological filtering.
When you see the negative side of something, you always think about it in your mind, as if wearing a pair of glasses with special lenses and filtering out all the positive things. So you quickly conclude that everything is negative.
(4) self-contempt.
Seeing many advantages of excellent people around them, some of their wishes can't be realized, which leads to inferiority complex and always thinks that they can't do anything.
(5) arbitrarily draw conclusions.
You assume that others look down on you, but you don't test whether the assumption is correct. You look to the future and think all this is a disaster.
(6) zoom in and out.
Enlarge your own shortcomings, narrow your own advantages, and distort your true colors.
(7) Emotional reasoning.
"I feel guilty, so I must have done something bad." Your feelings seem to be the basis of your thoughts.
(8) It should be discussed.
"I should do this" or "I have to do that" are thoughts that you feel guilty about, and they can't make you do anything.
(9) wear a hat.
If you choose and work hard for it, you will think "I am a loser" instead of "I chose wrong". Remember, you can't do anything.
(10) Personalization.
You think that "no matter what happens, no matter what others do, it is my fault", and there is always a "responsibility problem" haunting you.
In addition, when a person has psychological problems, he often only sees or exaggerates the unfavorable side of things and ignores or underestimates the favorable side. At this time, you should explore, discover, develop and develop your potential, resources, values and advantages from different angles. For example, your previous successful cases, as well as related experiences and gains, can be used for reference; For example, if you have specialties, hobbies, advantages and certificates, you can pick them up and use them. For example, there are some people in your interpersonal circle who have such resources, abilities and advantages and can help you. You can contact them. Another example is that all roads lead to Rome, but road A is impassable. What about road B? Method c is not good. What about method d and method e? There are always more methods than problems! You should think more and even listen to other people's opinions widely! Wait a minute. As long as you have a pair of discerning eyes, you will see a completely different front.
Finally, according to your situation, I suggest you find a chance to see a psychiatrist! I believe it will be very helpful to you!