In cities, especially wage earners, if they have no time to take care of their children after giving birth due to work reasons, they will be left to their parents to help them take care of them.
There are many excellent "generational" elders. Some "generational" elders are knowledgeable, educated, knowledgeable and resourceful. They will give their children good planning and education, as well as good life planning, and even become their life mentors. More importantly, they will become role models for children to learn all their lives.
However, there are also a large number of "generation-separated" elders who do not have enough knowledge and insight, but they have become effective "shelters" and excuses for children to be lazy.
Parents who help them take care of their children will have the following advantages: first, they are experienced and know how to take care of their children.
Second, nothing will happen. Grandparents and grandparents will regard their grandchildren as their own because of blood relationship, and there will be no selfishness.
Some families take care of their children, hire nannies and have a baby. At this time, parents will have extra worries, because the media often report that some unscrupulous nannies or Yueyue abuse their children when their parents are not at work.
When your parents take care of your children, you don't have to worry about anything else, because grandparents, grandparents and children are related by blood, and they will take care of their children very carefully.
These good aspects are felt by every family, needless to say.
Good "generation-separated" elders certainly need to be strongly advocated and advocated. These parents can help them save a lot of things, and they can also help them take good care of their children and plan their children.
Children's education is not simply to eat and wear warm clothes. When "generational" elders can't give more "support and advice" in children's education, living habits, study habits, time management and life growth. They should consciously quit their children's life circle in time.
This kind of "pulling away" is not to cut off contact and affection with grandchildren, but to stop interfering with the education of children's parents, so that children have no second choice in their views.
Because the power of example is infinite, if the elders have bad habits, the children will follow suit.
People's laziness is in our nature, everyone is the same, and this feature is innate.
Don't let "every generation" elders become "safe havens" and "excuses" for children's laziness.
Children's education has become the fuse of many family conflicts.
For example, when a child comes home from school and has finished eating, his parents will let him rest for a few minutes and then let him do his homework.
At this time, there will be two choices in the child's mind: First, study immediately. Second, watch TV and play while studying.
When a child has a choice, imagine how the child will choose.
Children will definitely choose a "more comfortable" or lazy way, regardless of why, because laziness is human nature.
Therefore, if this continues for a long time, children will form very bad habits, and at the same time, they will also cause family conflicts between themselves and their parents or between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Over time, it will become the main cause of family conflicts.
Children will rapidly expand their cognition from the beginning of primary school and gradually establish their own three views. If there are a variety of opinions and choices at home, it will create opportunities for children to "stand in line", that is, to give children the opportunity to "choose to be lazy and develop bad habits."
When there are two or more viewpoints in the family to choose from, the one that saves trouble will become a "safe haven" for children to be lazy.