Among them, the wedding night refers to marriage, which refers to the marriage of a man and a woman. Both men and women have to accept the orders of their parents and the words of the media when they reach school age.
Ancient women had low status and many constraints, so they rarely appeared in public before marriage. Only when we get to the bridal chamber can we be serious and have a brand-new beginning.
Because marriage is a major event in life, there are many related words circulating among the people in the ancients, such as this sentence: "Marrying a Han depends on the shoulder, and marrying a daughter-in-law depends on the palm."
Of course, this is just a representative sentence.
Although there is only the word 10, it summarizes a lot of truth, especially in that era when men plowed and women wove, people still had certain requirements for their other half.
Let's look at the first half of the sentence: "marry a Han, look at your shoulders." According to the social status quo of men plowing and women weaving, in the family, men are mainly responsible for planting crops, harvesting food and doing heavy manual work.
And the wife is responsible for weaving and sewing, so you don't have to buy ordinary clothes and sew them yourself.
In addition, I have to be responsible for the tedious housework at home, such as taking care of the children, washing and cooking.
Because our country has been dominated by small-scale peasant economy since ancient times, it is very important to grow crops. As the saying goes, food is the most important thing for the people, and food can fill their stomachs, which is the premise of doing everything else.
If you want to get a bumper harvest of crops in the field, first, you should look at the weather in that year, and second, you should have enough labor.
For ordinary people who eat in the sky, the bad weather cannot be changed, but the labor force can choose.
Women, in particular, can choose a strong man when they get married, so that in their later lives, they can at least ensure a harvest of crops and grain, and their families will not go hungry all year round.
In ancient times when the medical level was underdeveloped, the ancients looked at a person's shoulder with their eyes. If this person's shoulders are wider than the average person's, it means that this person has experienced too high-intensity work, and a healthy body that has been exercised since childhood can bear the burden of a family.
On the contrary, a man with narrow shoulders, narrow shoulders, shows that the body is thin and physical strength can't keep up.
In the harvest season, such a man can't keep up with the pace of work, leaving his family short of food and living a hungry life.
Let's look at the second half of the sentence: "Take a wife and look at the palm", which can actually be the same as the above explanation. The main question is, why look at a woman's palm? Women with smooth skin and slender fingers are very popular, because needlework at home needs a careful and handy person.
Because a woman with such a palm, in the eyes of the ancients, is not only ingenious, but also has a good face value.
Looking good is what every man likes. A long time ago, there was a poem "My Fair Lady, a Gentleman is a good gentleman". I feel much better when I come home every day and see my beautiful wife.
Only when you are skilled can you weave more and better fabrics and make more beautiful clothes. The family is also very happy to put on these beautiful clothes and pants.
Finally, to sum up, the old saying "Look at your shoulders when you marry, look at your palms when you marry" is actually some life experiences summed up in a specific living environment. In the final analysis, it is all for a better life.
With the continuous progress of society and the rapid development of science and technology, this standard of mate selection is no longer applicable, because now men and women are equal and pursue free love, parents can only give advice and cannot directly interfere.
First, the living environment has changed, and second, the concept has changed. People who can create value for family and society are not necessarily people who farm and spin. We have powerful machinery to replace the labor force of cultivated land, and a professional textile and garment factory, and the price is not expensive.
Therefore, when getting married, men look at their shoulders and women look at their palms, which is completely unworkable and has no scientific basis at all.
Freedom of marriage, when looking for the other half of life, we must follow our inner feelings, combine our parents' suggestions, and then make a rational decision, instead of simply looking at our shoulders and palms.
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