When running, my hands and feet are moving, but my mind is thinking about tomorrow and the day after tomorrow; When eating, my mouth is moving, but my heart is worried about the relationship with others; When you sleep, your body is still, but your thoughts pour out like a waterfall. ...
This is what we are used to: absent-mindedness, desertion, can also be called absent-mindedness We can put it another way, that is, the body is doing A, but the mind is thinking B. In a sense, this is the root of our troubles and incompetence.
Action without feeling is like a body without soul; People who lack feelings are absent-minded, blind and deaf to everything. More precisely, we have a chaotic soul in our bodies. This soul always thinks of B: When brushing your teeth, when walking, when taking a shower … all the time.
... even if you go to the bathroom, you have to work hard on your mobile phone (? ω? )
Now let's feel, is there a body part that is always particularly stiff when we are distracted? And some expressions are always tense?
This mode of separation of body and mind has little impact on our body, but the most serious thing is that it will have a lasting negative impact on our emotional state and ability improvement. No one knows …
Although it is pleasant to be distracted for a while, you have to bear all kinds of losses afterwards. The biggest loss is the deterioration of the quality of life. In other words, when we are distracted, we are either immersed in the past, worried about the future, or fantasizing about the impossible. Distraction can make us live at any time, but it can't make us live in the present.
However, life is made up of fragments of the present. The fragments of body and mind make up our happy and focused high-quality life, while the fragments of body and mind make up our distracted low-quality life.
Distraction can also cause procrastination and inefficiency, because emotions always lag behind behaviors, so people often enter the state slowly when doing things and need emotional transition.
To put it bluntly, the essence of mind wandering is to escape, so when faced with difficulties, people who are separated from body and mind will always unconsciously return to their comfort zone, while those who are integrated with body and mind are more likely to jump out of their comfort zone and face difficulties directly.
Although we know that distraction is a bad thing for our growth, we still need to pay a lot to really change this bad habit.
First of all, we can imagine that if a person develops the habit of concentration with clear boundaries from an early age, he can not only gain intellectual intelligence, but also gain emotional peace. After long-term reinforcement, he can form a huge gap with ordinary people. After all, most people don't realize that attention is divided into two parts: action and feeling. If we can know this truth earlier and take the initiative to correct it, maybe the trajectory of fate and the quality of life will be different.
To reverse this situation, we must know how to let feelings return to action.
Give a few popular examples: when running, we take back our feelings and carefully experience the leg lifting and swinging arms, breathing and the oncoming breeze; Take back your feelings when you sleep, feel the tension and relaxation of your body carefully, take back your feelings when you eat, feel the fragrance of every bite of food, and experience the whole process from there to there. Don't rush to stuff the second bite of food into your mouth before you finish the first bite.
The feeling of the body is always the best medium to enter the state at present, and the process of feeling things disappear is a good concentration training, which reminds us that the key to the integration of body and mind is not only to focus on the present, but also to enjoy the present, and this enjoyment will definitely make us more calm and not panic.
May each of us be like the old monk: chopping wood is chopping wood, carrying water is carrying water, and cooking is cooking.
The main content of today's sharing comes from the second part of "Cognitive Awakening, Opening the Power of Self-change": the appearance of the world, moving forward with help-the first section of chapter four: emotional concentration, one move to enhance your attention.