Actually, sleeping with you and being slept by you are almost the same. They are nothing more than the force of the collision of two bodies, and they are nothing more than the flowers that are forced to bloom by this force. It is nothing more than the virtual spring created by these flowers that makes us mistakenly think that life has been reopened. The word "sleep with you" itself has a vulgar nature, and many people will subconsciously doubt the seriousness of the creation of the poem when reading this poem. But in fact, this poem clearly expresses the pain of female self-love, but it is not limited to this. Someone once commented that no one has ever written such a love poem that reaches the extreme of intensity and beauty.
Indeed, compared with most female poets in China, her poems are more like pure poetry, not a feast written for decoration. The author of this song "Crossing Half of China to Sleep with You" is Yu Xiuhua. The name was originally a joke, but Yu Xiuhua found it very interesting, so she used it as the title. Yu Xiuhua was born in 1976. Her family is in Hengdian Village, Shipai Town, Zhongxiang City, Hubei Province. Yu Xiuhua's birth was a bit unfortunate compared to normal people. Her mother had a convulsion when she was born. The lack of oxygen caused Yu Xiuhua to have cerebral palsy from birth.
So she has had difficulty moving since she was a child, and her speech is also somewhat unclear. She didn't learn to walk until she was six years old, and later she was still swaying with a cane. After finishing high school, Yu Xiuhua did not continue studying because of her health. She spent some time at home, and in 1995 her parents decided to marry Yin Shiping, who was twelve years older than her. The loveless marriage between the two was not very harmonious, but it was fine when Yin Shiping was working outside. But when he comes back, the two people will definitely quarrel.
Yin Shiping didn't like his wife writing poems in front of the computer, and Yu Xiuhua couldn't stand her husband. However, she gave birth to a son, and the relationship continued to live happily. She started writing poetry in 1998, but at that time she just wrote quietly, and the themes were mostly love and family affection. Even after getting married, Yu Xiuhua still longed for love, which can be seen from her early poems. Yu Xiuhua often writes many poems to a certain person, and that person's name always appears in the poems, repeated with nostalgia.
She truly became famous in January 2015, but at that time she also began to make up her mind to divorce her husband. At that time, Yu Xiuhua became famous as a female poet with cerebral palsy, and Youku invited Fan Jian to make a documentary about her. At that time, Yu Xiuhua was in love with a literary man who was much older than her. She mustered up the courage to confess her love but was rejected. Yu Xiuhua cried all night and had a terrible stomachache. After this incident, she figured it out and tried to relieve her lack of freedom. In December 2015, Yu Xiuhua and Yin Shiping divorced.
But in fact, Yu Xiuhua was criticized by many people at the time. Many scholars and poets made extreme conclusions without understanding her poetry. Abuse swept through her, and many people thought she was a cancer, while others said she was a poisonous weed. What she did wrong was probably that someone was willing to pretend, but she chose to expose all the holes. Yu Xiuhua didn't pay attention. She just wrote poetry quietly. Her poetry had certain limitations and did need to mature. However, some of the people scolding her were because Yu Xiuhua's works were too explicit.
As Liu Nian commented, placing her poems among the poems of Chinese female poets is as eye-catching as putting a murderer among the ladies. Only she was smoky, and there were obvious blood stains between the words. There is no avoidance of the pain of female existence nor a fierce stance of gender confrontation. Her poems are real and frank.