The most difficult thing to sort out in this world is interpersonal relationship.
Because people are unpredictable, some people are warm and friendly to you, but they don't know what they will say behind your back; There are even people who use their abilities or your accommodation to bully you.
There is an old saying: "A good horse is ridden, but a good man is bullied."
People who are good-natured, talkative and kind-hearted are more likely to be bullied.
Therefore, no matter how kind people are, they must protect themselves and be a little sharper. It is good to be kind to the world, but only if you stick to your own bottom line and principles.
You don't have to respond to people who bully you. After all, it is time for revenge. It is better to change the following ways, so that the bully has nowhere to hide.
0 1: Insist that "silence is golden"
There is a good saying: if a dog bites you, will it bite back? Obviously, none of us will do this, because it is useless for people to argue with dogs, which will only lower our level.
Therefore, if someone bullies you maliciously, you should first think that you were bitten by a dog, and don't worry about arguing with him or defending yourself.
Generally speaking, if we feel bullied, we must be wronged and angry inside. At this time, our brain is actually in an unconscious and rational state.
In order to get back the game, something may be said to make the scene out of control. Once this happens, even if you are on the right side, you will become less reasonable when quarreling.
Take a few deep breaths and tell yourself not to dispute with such people.
It takes two hands to make a ring. When you don't take the other person seriously, even if he has a thousand words to slander you, you will eventually lose interest because of your silence. Shut up.
Letting him sing a monologue was the best counterattack against him at that time. This is not weakness, but wisdom. The stronger a person's heart is, the less he will care about the "bad words" of others.
Therefore, when you are bullied and vilified, don't rush to defend yourself or refute, because people who really know you won't believe you, and followers are not the relationship you need to maintain.
02: Try to improve, so that the bully can't climb up.
In addition to keeping silent, what we need to do is to strive to improve ourselves and make ourselves better, so that people who have bullied you will never touch you again.
I remember reading a story. In the early days of starting a business, a boss repeatedly hit a wall. At that time, a small and successful entrepreneur in the same industry made an ugly remark after drinking at a party, for example, the boss could not rely on his wife for dinner.
But because he was famous in the industry at that time, no one was present to speak for the boss. When he was about to get angry, his wife grabbed him and shook her head at him.
After returning home, the boss was unhappy, and his wife said to him, "If you refute him tonight, it will only make him more proud. Only if you do business better than him and step on him is the best counterattack against his words tonight. "
This tone has been suppressed in the boss's heart. Whenever he wants to give up, he tells himself to let those who once looked down on himself look down on him.
In order to do a good job in business, he not only traveled all over the country to find the best suppliers, but also signed up for MBA courses online and studied late into the night after returning home every day.
After more than three years, he finally started a company. Because he chose the best raw materials in the industry and negotiated the lowest price with suppliers, his products became the most cost-effective in the whole industry.
Suddenly, many vendors came to him to cooperate.
And when he once again had dinner with the boss who looked down on him before, he became the one who was full of stars, and the other boss could only nod and apologize.
After returning home, he said to his wife, "I thought I would ridicule him, but today, I really don't think it is necessary." On the contrary, I thanked him. Those words at that time stimulated me and let me go to the present. "
When a person becomes strong enough and tall enough, you will feel that the people who bullied you before are nothing. Maybe the person who once embarrassed you will come to you for help now.
Isn't this more enjoyable than fighting back when you are bullied? ：
03: It's not too late for a gentleman to take revenge.
Silence does not mean to submit to humiliation, but to fight back at a more appropriate time.
At all times, people should stick to their own principles and bottom line. If the person who bullied you feels this, then this "revenge" must be reported, otherwise people will really think that you are good at bullying.
The same boss above, when the industry was in turmoil, only he predicted the market in advance and stabilized the company's sales, while many other manufacturers closed down one after another.
In order to recover the losses, many bosses approached him, hoping that he could buy his own company or reach a cooperation.
Moreover, he has annexed other small companies in the industry, so he has also signed equity transfer agreements with some of them and put them under his own banner.
He invited almost everyone to see his boss, but turned down the boss who had bullied him.
He said, "Maybe he doesn't remember what he did or said to me, but I'm not a saint. I remember all these injuries and don't want to see him alive. "
A few years later, he was the only one in the industry, and the original leader and his company had disappeared with time.
Deal with a man as he deals with you, and a gentleman takes revenge. Ten years is not too late. What the ancients left behind is worth learning and remembering.
Don't be witty. If you really want to fight back, if you want to win, you must hit it at once, win the beauty, and let the other side really give up to you.
Living in this world, everyone will have a trough and a climax, so advise some people who like to bully others not to treat others' temporary depression as a joke, otherwise one day, if you are unhappy, others will do the same to you.
Don't treat other people's kindness as bullying. Heaven goes round and round. If you bully others, others will bully you in the future. Be a man so that we can meet again in the future.
Fu Seoul put it very well in "Said Chipa": "People have ups and downs. They support others when they are frustrated and listen to applause when they are proud. Life is a sea, so why care about ups and downs? "
May each of us keep our initial heart and be sincere and kind; I hope everyone who has been bullied can fight back beautifully in the future.
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