Falling in love is the most beautiful thing in this world. With someone you love, life will be more fulfilling and practical. Because of love, people's hearts are filled with joy, and the world becomes joyful and peaceful. People with love and a loving heart are the most beautiful scenery in the world.
Finding someone to love is what a person wants in life. However, it is easy to fall in love but difficult to stay together. In a long life, not many people can maintain love for a lifetime.
Some people say that love is just a hormone and has a time limit. Love is an impulse, a mutual attraction. The beginning of love is the role played by this attraction.
When you are in love, you are happy and beautiful. At this time, in the eyes of the lover, each other is beautiful, and the advantages outweigh the disadvantages. And because there is love, we can tolerate each other even if we have shortcomings. This is one of the reasons why love makes people feel good.
So, poems about love have never stopped from ancient times to the present. For example, Li Bai's "When will we know when we miss each other? It's embarrassing at this time and night"; Li Shangyin's "I don't have the wings of a colorful phoenix, but I have a clear mind"; Bai Juyi's "I would like to be a winged bird in the sky, and I would like to be a twig on the ground" etc. wait.
The beauty of falling in love lies in lovesickness. This is because the two lovers do not live together and have no contact day and night, so they can only rely on lovesickness to relieve their sorrow. In the stage of falling in love, you can't wait to be together all the time, you can't wait to divide the time into minutes, and you don't want to be separated.
When it comes to marriage, loving each other becomes staying together. From "not seeing each other for one day, it feels like three autumns have passed" has become a situation of "sharing the same room every day and sleeping in the same bed every night". In the beginning, it may still be beautiful, because at this stage, the love is still there and we can tolerate each other. But with the passage of time and changes in mentality, human nature is slowly exposed.
The feeling of love slowly fades and even gets lost as we stay together. I once interviewed some couples who had been married for more than ten or twenty years and asked them how they felt about love. Most people say that where there is no love, it is just a habit; or in other words, just make do with it for the sake of the children.
You see, as time goes by in a marriage, love disappears. Some of it turns into family affection, and some of it turns into habits. And in the process, what kind of psychological changes happened to them? Or what happens in daily life, no one knows. As the saying goes, "Marriage is like wearing shoes", the feeling can only be understood by the parties involved.
It is easier to fall in love than to stay together. The difficulty is that after living together, there is no privacy between each other, and everything, including the advantages and disadvantages, is exposed in front of the lover. In marriage, there is no longer any tolerance for each other. In the eyes of the other party, the advantages are reduced and the shortcomings are infinitely magnified.
That's why couples quarrel and bother each other more and more. If there is too much noise and too much tossing, people will get tired easily. At this time, divorce may be on the agenda. The time of being in love is short, so the feeling of love is also short; the time of being together is long, so there are many shortcomings exposed. By the time you are ready for divorce, the feeling of love has long since faded, or only hatred remains.
Once, a friend and his wife had a big quarrel. I persuaded them separately and asked them to think about the original beauty.
But the man said that he had long forgotten that feeling;