It is better to tear down ten temples than one marriage ":tearing down other people's homes and marriages is a very bad thing, worse than tearing down a temple." "
It takes a long time to know the strength of a horse, and it takes a long time to see the inner quality of a person. Metaphor after a long test to see the quality of people's hearts, true and false friendship.
It is better to tear down ten temples than ruin a marriage. This is the traditional thought of ancient Confucianism in China, and it is also a folk tradition, not out of allusions. This sentence uses rhetorical devices of exaggeration and metaphor. Lu Yao knows that horsepower will be seen by people for a long time. [Source] Song Liangyuan's "Shilin Guangji" Volume 9: "Lu Yao knows horsepower and sees people's hearts for a long time."
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The story of the idiom "a long way to go knows horsepower, and people will see it for a long time";
Story 1:
Three brothers Xu Jiashu in Chun 'an County, Zhejiang Province died young, leaving their wife Yan He and five children. The eldest brother and the second brother divided the property three times and sent the old servant A to Yanshi. Aji is determined to do business and make money. After a year, I earned 2000 taels of gold, and Yan bought a fertile land mansion with 1500 taels of gold. You know, horsepower really has a long way to go. Yan's fortune was divided among Aji. ?
Story 2:
Once upon a time, two people, Lu Yao and Ma Li, went to Beijing to take an exam. They fell ill on the way and were penniless. Fortunately, the landlord Lu Yao took care of him for three years. Ma Li went to Beijing to take the exam, won the first prize and was called Ma Xu. At this time, it happened that Lu Yao's house caught fire and had nothing. Lu Yao had no choice but to go to Beijing and ask Ma Su for help. After the meeting, Mary said nothing about helping, only that he would leave Lu Yao to play in Beijing. Lu Yao left angrily.
Ma Su sent troops to capture Lu Yao alive, saying that he was only allowed to go back to 1 every day. If he walks more than 1 mile, he must walk back two miles. On that day, Lu Yao walked more than five miles, and then went back 10.
Lu Yao scolded Ma Li for being ungrateful. Although he was imprisoned along the way, the soldiers were also polite and provided delicious food, so he walked away and retired. Lu Yao walked for three years before returning home, only to see the house that had been burned down become a beautiful house. It turned out that Mary didn't want Lu Yao to go back too early and built this house for him to repay his kindness. Lu Yao couldn't help sighing: Lu Yao knew that Mary had long looked at people.